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Pgybnks
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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 Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 6:46 pm Post subject: Why do brides make their attendants pay for their attire AND |
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| I wholeheartedly agree with you. Some brides you really do not wish to be friends with. I have been an attendant at a wedding 4 times now. In all cases I had to fly from NZ to attend and they ensured the wedding was during my holiday (as I made one out of it) - 2 were in one holiday. Other than that I only had to buy one top but I still can ear it No clothing requirements were given However I have known brides that are nothing but bridezilla's Strangely enough they often end up divorced I wonder whyI do not expect anything like that from my attendants. Just to be there at my side for the most wonderful day of my life to share it with me. They can wear what they want and comfortable in. One of them will be coming halfway around the world to be there with us. That is the best gift she can give me Be there with me. She and I have shared so much already and this is the icing on the cake.I do not want a hen night nor does my SO want a stag night. |
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RicardoK
Joined: 12 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 7:09 pm Post subject: Why do brides make their attendants pay for their attire AND |
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| Traditionally - when a bride ask someone to be in their wedding party - that person accepts knowing the expenses involved. A wedding party member is responsible for their own attire, hair, and a gift for the couple should they choose to. (Gifts at a wedding are ALWAYS optional, for the wedding party and the guests. To expect anyone to bring a gift is very rude.) The Maid Of Honor is generally also responsible for PLANNING the bridal shower and bachelorette: note, I said PLANNING not paying for. These expenses can be shared between other wedding party members and the brides family. Often, the brides family will take on the shower instead.Some brides do go overboard with the cost of attire. While the bridal party should expect to buy their own attire, the bride also needs to consider her wedding party members and their budget when choosing the clothing. |
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Rebecca
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 7:31 pm Post subject: Why do brides make their attendants pay for their attire AND |
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| My cousin is getting married in September... his fiancee was dirt poor before she met my cousin (his family has money). Now, their wedding is costing more the $50k, she has 8 bridesmaids, (i am one) the dress is $250, and she is complaining because first: I couldn't come to their engagement party (I was living in Texas, they are in Windsor, Ontario), She is wanting to get ALL the bridesmaids together on one day, but she doesn't appreciate that I live 2 hrs away from her and am still in school (which is my main priority) and she has also made several comments about how I'm not going to be at the bridal shower (I will be living in TX again at that time.. would cost me at least $300 to get home). Not to mention she has decided that her bridesmaids should throw her a bachelorette party in Chicago or Las Vegas.guess who's not going?? that would be me! |
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omahapamela
Joined: 15 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 7:54 pm Post subject: Why do brides make their attendants pay for their attire AND |
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| We are only asking our attendants to pay for their dress/shoes. I am actually going to treat all the girls with an updo/make up on that day. I also do not expect a bridal shower, and the bachelorette party, everyone pays for themselves. I don't think this is unreasonable, but I see your point. No one wants to spend that amount of money for someone else's day, and some brides can get out of hand and expect people to bend over backwards for them. |
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RedRooster
Joined: 10 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 8:17 pm Post subject: Why do brides make their attendants pay for their attire AND |
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| I think I've found my entertainment for the afternoon...thank you.As a bridal attendant on more than one occasion, I have paid for my own attire...even when I personally thought the dress was a ridiculous amount of money. I also took care of my own hair, makeup, nails, etc. If I could afford to buy the attire and whatever else for my attendants, I most certainly would. But as it stands, I am not loaded. I do NOT expect them to throw me a bridal shower, because quite honestly, I am not a shower kind of person. Bachelorette party? These are things THEY want to do. If they want to bring a nice gift to the wedding. That is their choice. I do plan to give them gifts as well. It's NOT about being greedy. Why the hell do you assume it is??? When someone is asked to be in a bridal party, it is common knowledge that they will be expected to pay for their own attire. With that information, they are perfectly within their rights to turn down the invitation to be in a bridal party. They are under no obligation to participate just because they are asked. Seriously...how old are you and where do you come up with your...ahem...'brilliant' observations??? |
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ryttyporn
Joined: 22 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 8:40 pm Post subject: Why do brides make their attendants pay for their attire AND |
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| not so much me but, my FSIL has two guest for her bridal party. She picked the dress and the color but she also let them know she would pay half of each dress. The only thing they have to buy are their shoes and acc. She told them if they didnt want to bring a gift that was fine, she wasnt worried about it. To bad most brides-to-be arent like her. |
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rodriguezm
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 9:03 pm Post subject: Why do brides make their attendants pay for their attire AND |
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| I am asking the bridesmaids to pay for their own attire, but i am not expecting anything else from them. Two live in different states than me (in Australia) and no way in the world do i expect or even WANT a bridal shower of hens night. If i wanted a hens night i would just go out for a few quiet drinks with friends the weekend before hand, no expense required by anyone else execpt for a few bevies!!!I am buying them a gift to say thankyou for helping Celebrate my big day not for helping me PLAN the whole thing if you know what i mean. my FH and i are single income family with two kids, if i could pay for their dresses i would. I am thinking of giving them a colour scheme and letting them get something that they will happily wear again. I dont think that is selfish or greedy in anyway!! |
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