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cheapcamel
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Location: USA
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 Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 9:22 pm Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| My fiance and I have a small summer wedding planned. For the past three months I have done all of the planing and prep. I have my dress, booked the reception and wedding site, made out all the invitations, found a caterer a cake maker and am in the process of screening through 20 or so photographers. I took on all of this because he was finishing school - it was a very rough semester for the both of us.I am living with him and his father right now and I feel very alone and betrayed. What should I do? Move out now? Find a hotel for a few nights? |
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ChocolateLover
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 10:19 pm Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| What are his reasons for calling off the wedding? |
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Changemelord
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 11:15 pm Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| first off find out why he called off the wedding. if you do know and just didn't want to share that's ok. talk to him about it and see what can be changed.. see if he feels pressured now and see if he would be ok with pushing the date further ahead. maybe find a hotel for a night and call him to just talk. |
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chensels
Joined: 12 Jan 2008
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Location: AR
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 12:12 am Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| Well i would say, try to talk and work things out. Maybe get a hotel room for like 3-5 nights or so and then still talk about everything. |
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ChanakaVP
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 1:08 am Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| First talk to him about everything. Ask him whats wrong. Whats going on. If its a sure thing that wedding is off then start canceling all the appointments youve made, cancel all the services, check the return policy on your dress if none then post it on ebay and auction it off. Try to find some where to live. Maybe a good friend will let you bunk at her place for a few nights or go live with you parents or some family. |
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cheapcigs
Joined: 06 Mar 2008
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 2:05 am Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| Personally, I wouldn't want to marry someone who called off the wedding at all. If there is a chance of mending it, then do so...but I wouldn't continue with the wedding plans. Obviously, there is SOME doubt...at least, enough for him to call it all off. I think you should sit down and discuss your plans...both of your plans, not just his. I hope it all works out for the best. Just remember that you are strong...and shouldn't have to "put up" with anyone's crap. Cold feet before your wedding is okay, but what he did is beyond that. |
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CherylO
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 3:02 am Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| Move outGet your own home and stand on your own feet. Chin up! |
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Centaur
Joined: 20 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 3:58 am Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| I think you should move out. |
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chadesier
Joined: 17 Oct 2007
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Location: Canada
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 4:55 am Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| Talk to him - talk long and hard and earnestly. Find out why he did this, what his feelings are, what his fears are. Then decide to reschedule, delay, or run like hell. |
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Cheryl
Joined: 27 Jun 2007
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 5:51 am Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| this is not a time to crumble be the strong woman you are move out and give him space he might just be getting cold feet let him see what its like not to have you there then once he sees he cant live without you things will be back to normal my friend had to do this its a way of letting him ake sure that this is what he wants some body probally been saying scary things to him!!!! good luck & have a beautiful wedding!!!!! |
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chobalobba
Joined: 31 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 6:48 am Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| find out why he did that. really all you can do right now though, is respect his decision. things dont always work out for the best. but if you truely love him, you'll want him to be happy. whether its with you or not. i know its hard. i would stay away for a few days. let him take a breather. |
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CHEAPSOFTOEMONLINE
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 7:44 am Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| Oh wow! I’m so sorry this happened! Here’s a big internet hug.You don’t say why the wedding was called off. Was it a complete break-up or just a postponement? Was this an “out of the blue” thing or was it something you have seen coming for a while? Either way. You will probably lose what deposits you have paid already. If you’ve broken up – as in no longer a couple, I would find my own place post haste. The last thing you really need is someone glaring at you like one would regard some unwanted “guest” in their home.Gosh. I’m sorry this happened. |
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cherylb
Joined: 10 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 8:41 am Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| Depends on how much you love him. It is hard for us to tell you that you should move out or stay. Need to see what happened between you and him and what is the reason he called off. For now, go ahead to review all the contract and see when is the deadline to cancel without pentalty.Communicate with him to see if there is something you both can work out if you really love him and can't live without him. Move to friend's house or hotel if don't care and just want an end. |
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Che
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 9:38 am Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| Well, the first thing you need to do is move . . even if it's to another bedroom until you can find someplace else to live.In respect to your wedding plans, I suggest you look at your vendor contracts and find out where you stand financially. You do have contracts, don't you? If you wedding is definitely cancelled, then you will probably lose all or most of your deposits because those contracts probably contain the term "non-refundable deposit."And after you have reviewed each contract then you need to get on the phone and tell each vendor that your wedding has been cancelled, and then follow that telephone call (within 24 hours) with a handwritten follow-up letter. That follow-up letter should state the Bride and Groom's names, your wedding date, your wedding location, your home address, your telephone number, and the date of your phone call and the date of the follow-up letter (and don't forget to make a photocopy of each letter for yourself). Just remember one thing, you better be very sure the wedding is CANCELLED before you call anyone because once you make those phone calls and send out those follow-up letters there is no point of return. At that point the vendor keeps your deposit and makes your wedding day available to other Brides and Grooms.If you paid those deposits from your personal checking account then I would try to get some of the money lost (the deposits) from the person who cancelled the wedding. If nothing else, he owes you some money IF you paid them yourself.Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant |
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chevalrose
Joined: 04 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 10:34 am Post subject: My fiance just called off the wedding. What should I do? |
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| I'm so sorry...what a shock. Depending on the circumstances, there's a number of ways you could go here. Is he just getting cold feet or getting overwhelmed with all the plans, or was this a firm "I can't do this"? If the latter, then it's probably time to break it off and move out. If he's just nervous and wants to postpone or wants a smaller wedding, take the time to talk it through and see where you go from there. |
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