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inenceneini
Joined: 14 Apr 2008
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Location: Guyana
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 Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 6:44 am Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| i got married when i was 18 and 3 months pregnant we had a small wedding and nothing went right and it wasnt really about what me and my hubby wanted but it was more about what my step mother wanted granted they paid for almost everything but still it was more about her and what she liked. it was held in my dads backyard so it was small but she insisted that i wore a dress that she picked out it was a davids bridal 99 sale and she picked out this plain ivory dress with no detail i wanted a white dress that was more poofy for the same price but i couldnt wear white because i wasnt a virgin. and i couldnt have roses i had to have gerbra daises and i could only have one brides maid instead of 3 like i watned so my sister who she favors more got to pick her color of dress which was black when i wanted it to be pink she was my maid of honor and she threw away a cd that i wanted that had all those party songs liek the ymca etc. i just feel taht she made it to be her wedding and not what meit was more about her because i feel the only thing that we got to pick was the color scheme which was pink and white and that i got to marry my husband and that was it. granted that it was a beautiful wedding but it had really nothing to do with what i wanted nor what my husband wanted it didnt represent us in any way so i was thinking when me and my hubby hit our 5 year mark which is 3 years from this september to have a vowl renewel cermony in a park where i can have as many brides maids as i want and to have a big party afterwards would it be appropiate to have a dress that i picked out or do i have to wear my old one i just want to celbrate our marriage by redoing our wedding our way does this sound like a good idea and should i have bridesmaids thanks for your help |
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jeffreylester
Joined: 19 Dec 2007
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Location: Barbados
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 7:34 am Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| absolutely do it! you have a right to your wedding, even if it's 5 years later :-)best wishes |
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Ipatiplakat
Joined: 16 May 2007
Posts: 2
Location: USA
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 8:24 am Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| I would say if you want to have a wedding renewal and you can afford it go for it who says you have to wait |
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Geekfulky
Joined: 08 Oct 2007
Posts: 9
Location: Tramadol
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 9:14 am Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| Yes, by all means renew your vows in the ceremony that you wanted five years ago, just don't request or register for gifts this time. |
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hlkljgk
Joined: 10 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 10:04 am Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| You should and this time tell her it your wedding. SHE WAS OUT OF LINE!!! |
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Greatasnow
Joined: 22 Apr 2008
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 10:54 am Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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Yes, definitely!! Sounds so exciting that you get to plan out a whole new wedding for YOURSELF and not be interrupted by others this time  and also it would be so cute if your baby would be the flower girl/ring boy. She made it her own, she sounds like such a B or like those evil step mothers. I suggest you renew them and make it a wedding to remember. =) so excited! Good luck. |
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GoBravos321
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
Posts: 6
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 11:44 am Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| Your marriage is flawed. You didnt get married for eachother, your wedding sounds like a sham. I wouldnt renew my vows if I wasnt happy with the marriage.Its truly sad, and Im sorry to hear that. She sounds like a true maniac. If you are going to re-do a wedding, do it YOUR way, and not hers. |
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Gqiwoven
Joined: 01 Oct 2007
Posts: 17
Location: Fpeekege
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 12:34 pm Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| most definetly it's ok to renew your vows after 5 years. I wanted to do that at my 15 year anniversary last year but my baby had to have open heart surgery so i'm hoping to do it for our 20 year. good luck sweetie |
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inhaphsharpab1c3
Joined: 06 May 2008
Posts: 1
Location: Saudi Arabia
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 1:24 pm Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| I say do it its your life you get to do what you want now go for it and have a blast and get a white dress who cares they are lovely |
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IrisR9004
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
Posts: 7
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 2:14 pm Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| I would 100% go for it!! My husband and myself have been married for 5years and we are thinking of renewing our vows. So go for it! |
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GooFBabe
Joined: 05 May 2007
Posts: 10
Location: Belgia
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:04 pm Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| even though it happened that way...its only five years later.. you should wait a while... I kinda have a similar situation... I was married at 18.. pregnant.. my mom paid for everything.. so I didnt have anything extravagant... I want to renew our vows too.. but Im going to wait for our 10 -15 year.. Weve been married 7.. I think only 5 years is too soon.. people still remember your first and are less likely to be involved in your special day and take it seriously... good luck... |
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ImpallFap
Joined: 23 Dec 2007
Posts: 6
Location: Brunei Darussalam
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 3:54 pm Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| I think you need to grow up and let it go! You are already married and that's what counts! You don't need to waste a bunch of money to have a pretend wedding just so it can be like you had hoped! If you wouldn't have allowed yourself to become pregnant you could have had what you wanted in the first place! That's the price you paid for making poor choices, don't make another one now! Use the money for a down payment on a house or something you NEED, a pretend wedding isn't something you NEED! |
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hotmommadru
Joined: 12 Dec 2007
Posts: 3
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 4:44 pm Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| It would be perfectly splendid to have a gala five year anniversary party with all the trimmings -- fancy food, live music, dancing, champagne toasts, and of course a fabulous new dress and hair do for you. However, you seem to be asking if it is OK to have the wedding you didn't manage to have the first time around. IMO, it is rather disrespectful to marriage to have "a wedding" when there isn't actually any marriage taking place. I suggest that you invite your guests to your anniversary party and make no mention of the vow renewal. Surprise your guests with this. If you mention it in the invitations, people will be thinking along my lines -- that you are trying to stage a fake wedding. They will either think you are silly for trying to recreate something that is long past or that your greedy and fishing for gifts. How horrid your actual wedding was (and it does sound ghastly for you, poor dear!) is irrelevant. Sorry, but you only get to have a wedding when you actually get married. |
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hunnjgtfdc
Joined: 25 Jan 2008
Posts: 18
Location: Snickk
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 5:34 pm Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| Your wedding day should be the best one of the best days of your life so have a total dream day. She obviously cares about you as she got so interavtive, so just tell her you are having another day as u were preg at the time. hav wat u want ok babe... x |
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gryphon19112702
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 6:24 pm Post subject: do you think its ok to renew vows at 5 years in this situati |
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| Here are some sites on how to conduct a proper vow-renewal:http://www.weddinggazette.com/content/004993.shtmlhttp://weddings.about.com/od/yourweddingceremony/a/VowRenewal.htmhttp://www.superweddings.com/theweddingexpert2.htmlBasically, since you had a "real" wedding with all the trimmings (regardless of the fact that they weren't the trimmings you wanted) you shouldn't have any attendants (although you may wish to include your child) and you should definitely have NO GIFTS. |
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