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Quiviawinny
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 Posted: Sat May 17, 2008 5:29 pm Post subject: Cash or gift and how much should be spent? |
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| I don't go to many wedding, so I need some help. A good friend of mine is getting married. Should I give cash or something from the registry? How much $ should I give or spend? He was in my wedding party, but I am not in his wedding party. Not that I am keeping score, but he gave me a check for $100 for my wedding 5 years ago. What would you do?I have money, that's not the issue. I just don't want to look cheap or over the top. I am aiming for average. |
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rikholer
Joined: 19 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat May 17, 2008 7:46 pm Post subject: Cash or gift and how much should be spent? |
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| I always give cash in a card as a wedding gift. I usually start at about $75-$100 depending on the couple, then I work my way up.For a good friend, I'd give at least $100. If I had extra cash, I might give anywhere between $100-$150. I know it's not necessary to "cover your plate" in the wedding gift. But, I do take that into consideration.If a good friend was having a really nice, fancy wedding. I might give a little extra then my normal $100. I might give $120 or $130.I think it would be fair to give $100. Since that's what he gave you, I wouldn't give less then that. Unless, my money situation was extremely bad. But, if I was doing fine, I would give at least that much. |
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pspoptart8488
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sat May 17, 2008 10:03 pm Post subject: Cash or gift and how much should be spent? |
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| Well as someone who is getting married myself, I prefer cash gifts. Reason being is that my fiance and I have been living together for the past year and we pretty much having everything we need. If we get another appliance, we won't have any room for it. Also, weddings are expensive and while no one expects us to spend that much on a person, we are spending about $100 a head. So while couples may not need another coffee maker, they could always use cash to help pay for some of the wedding expenses. As far as how much to give it all depends on a few things. Firstly, how good of a friend is he? If he's a good friend, I'd not only make sure I covered the cost of my food, but also make sure I gave a little extra. Secondly, you need to estimate how much they are spending on the food. This is determined by where you guys live, where it's being held at (fancy hotel vs the backyard), what kind of food is being served, alcohol or no alcohol, etc. The average plate with alcohol will be at least $50 no matter where you're at. However, if you live in CA, NY, or Chicago, you could be spending $100 and above per person. I would recommend giving an amount that would at least cover your food, and a little extra if you can afford it. When he was in your wedding party, he had to spend money on his tux rental, bachelor party, etc and he still gave you a $100. |
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rebleep7
Joined: 27 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Sun May 18, 2008 12:21 am Post subject: Cash or gift and how much should be spent? |
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| give what he gave 100 cash or check |
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PrettyGirl
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sun May 18, 2008 2:38 am Post subject: Cash or gift and how much should be spent? |
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| depending on where they are having it -- $120-$125 would be the "inflation rate". don't worry, no one who's been married or planned weddings thinks you're keeping score -- trust me you will refer to that "register" or list frequently and it's spot on normal! |
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QerttyFlkip
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Sun May 18, 2008 4:55 am Post subject: Cash or gift and how much should be spent? |
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| I think the registry is for people who are going to the wedding shower. That is where gifts should be given.Cash is for the wedding day itself.Since he gave you a certain amount, you should at least give him that back. If you do have money to spare, you can give him more.Are you in the wedding? (a good friend of mine is what you said) If so, that amount is fine as you will be renting your tuxetc.If not, then I would go at least with the $100. |
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ren
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Sun May 18, 2008 7:12 am Post subject: Cash or gift and how much should be spent? |
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| these days, it's a bit more than $100/ But, consider your income. You can't strap yourself nor be too cheap if they know you make 6 figures.Unless you don't like them !Tough call.I'd do $150 for a good friend. I make 70k/year.If I bring a date-it's $200 |
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PM
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Sun May 18, 2008 9:29 am Post subject: Cash or gift and how much should be spent? |
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| 1. Gifts are never required, but a nice thing to get.2. Give what you can afford without it hurting your pocket. If that happens to be $20, then that is it, if it is $50, then go for it.3. Gifts should not be reciprocal, i.e. just because he gave you $100 does not mean that you have to give him the same amount. |
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