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purnimacresent
Joined: 24 Nov 2007 Posts: 7
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 1:29 am Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| I haven't spoken with this guy in 5 years and my husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and are expecting our 2nd baby together. It's just so weird that this guy decided to email me. And he kept calling me "sweetie"! He said he figured I'd be married by now, but says he was just checking to see if I was still single. Should I tell my husband about this email? What did/would you do?It was probably rude, but I responded to the email with a picture of my husband and I on our wedding day. |
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radiant_innerlight
Joined: 22 Nov 2007 Posts: 22
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 2:43 am Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| good for you.i'm sure he gets the hint. |
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reaganandcourtney
Joined: 20 Jan 2008 Posts: 6
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 3:57 am Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| Yeah, I would tell my husband. Good job with the wedding photo. Your husband will also appreciate that. |
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Rokacaxia
Joined: 15 May 2008 Posts: 1
Location: Malaysia
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 5:11 am Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| yes MINE is living with the mom of our GRANDKIDS...sickohe called me today thinking I would loan him money!I told him LOOK YOUR woman WORKS..YOU get 300 some bucks from child support from MY son for MY grandkids...WHOM YOU are trying to take over as DADDY WHICH is NOT going to happen..and YOU want me to loan you money??WE ARE DIVORCED..I HAVE MOVED ON for OVER 3 years now...SO stop asking me for MONEY..the ONLY time I Will call is WHEN i want to see MY grandkidsSO then he has the you know whats to say ..SO you wont loan me any????SO i had to say AGAIN...omg ARE YOU DEAF>>>WE ARE DIVORCED...get off your lazy you know what and GET a job and stop being a damn MOOCHERhe hung up LOL |
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ReneeM
Joined: 22 Nov 2007 Posts: 9
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 6:25 am Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| I'm not married, but I am engaged and my ex keeps e-mailing and calling me and I'm all the way in UK!! He's in the US, but insists that he and I are meant to be together.What I did was I told him I was engaged and very happy. I let him know who my fiance` is and then I sent him a picture of us together. I then told my fiance` about the whole thing so my fiance` wouldn't later find out (that can only lead to trust issues and that's the last thing I want...I love him way too much).If that guy didn't get the hint when you sent the picture, then he's too dumb for words. Get your husband on the case and trust me, everything will stop. |
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QuiteKid
Joined: 23 Feb 2008 Posts: 5
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 7:39 am Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| After five years and some growing your ex may be experiencing some remorse for divorcing you. Sounds like he was fishing to see if you were in another relationship now to know what his chances are for reconnecting with you. Yes, you should tell you husband in a way that lets him understand that you have no intention of letting this person back into your life and tell him how you responded by sending him the picture. This way you are being truthful with your husband and can relax about it. Congratulations on your coming baby! |
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raichasays8193
Joined: 10 Mar 2008 Posts: 5
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 8:52 am Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| That's cool! The picture told him in many ways that your a happily married woman.I'd ignore any further emails if your happy!!You know, being on the computer, it's how long lost friends and family are getting in touch.How'd he find your email?? No one has found me by a email address. Your lucky I suppose or you have a web sight on yourself ( my space?) |
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princeA
Joined: 21 Jan 2008 Posts: 4
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 10:06 am Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| I'd would of sent a pic of your hubby and you making out instead!! showing off the wedding band! I know my sister did that not too long ago when her ex appeared! Lol! I loved it! hahaha |
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RobertG
Joined: 25 Nov 2007 Posts: 3
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 11:20 am Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| It wasn't rude of you. No harm on either of your parts really. He didn't do anything wrong in contacting you b/c he didn't know you were married with kids. And you did the right thing as well by letting him know & sending the pic. The only thing is that you should have told your husband. My ex (of 10 yrs) contacted me recently & I told my fiance as soon as the message popped up. It was no big deal. My ex is married now with kids & was just saying hi b/c he found me online. |
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Ricardo
Joined: 24 Jan 2008 Posts: 4
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 12:34 pm Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| I'd leave it at that. What would be the purpose of telling your husband? Good job in sending the photo! I would ignore any future e-mails and block his e-mail address. |
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ReigororY
Joined: 15 Oct 2007 Posts: 20
Location: Singapore
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 1:48 pm Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| Definately keep your husband up to date on any emails he tries to send. You don't want relationships with other males apart from your husband. And yes, and ex of mine contacted me after I was married. He said he was happy for me, but then tried to give me a ring he had bought me for Christmas the first year we were together but never gave me. I should have taken it and pawned it. But I told him he was crazy, I couldn't take a ring from him. |
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QueenQueso7596
Joined: 22 Nov 2007 Posts: 8
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 3:02 pm Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| where has he been for 5 years? with some other girls?dont try to contact him if u wanna tell ur husband about your previous affair just tell him, n do not contact the other guy. |
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Poethodadia
Joined: 02 Mar 2008 Posts: 13
Location: USA
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 4:15 pm Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| You did the right thing in emailing him.If you want to tell your husband,it can't hurt anything. |
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RajeshSmart
Joined: 18 Apr 2008 Posts: 2
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 5:29 pm Post subject: Have you ever been contacted by an ex after marriage? |
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| Yep, been married 10 years and both he and I have been contacted by an ex or two. Definitely be honest with your husband and tell him about the email and tell him your response, so he doesn't feel like you're being dishonest and so he knows that you're handling it. When my ex contacted me, he started stalking me and wanted to sabotage our marriage. I kept my husband informed the whole time. I had to have my husband stand in to put an end to it, because he wouldn't listen. He stalked me for a year, and I also sent the picture of our wedding. He just wouldn't take no for an answer. No, it's not rude, you are being honest with your intentions and that you are clearly married. I also had a friend of my husband's try to get with me. I had to eventually write him a letter telling him how I felt, because not doing so led him on. Now every time he calls I pass the phone to my hubby, but we recently talked about it and he was appreciative that I was upfront and said he wouldn't want to loose my husband's friendship over it. In my husband's case, the ex bothered him for about 6 months. He finally had to send her an email and tell her no more, because she seriously thought there was a chance for them. Cut ties with the ex quick and be honest above all. |
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