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propro



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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2008 4:29 am    Post subject: Is it wrong to agree to be in a wedding that falls on the sa Reply with quote
I thought the lesser of the two evils was to plan my sons birthday party for the day after his birthday instead of trying to tell a friend I can't be a bridesmaild in her wedding. But now I am getting a lot of grief from family and friends. Any thoughts or suggestion as to how to handle this situation so it has a great outcome. My thought is that I tell my family that I'm the mom and deal..... but I was hoping for some suggestions to smooth that over a bit more ^_^Any imput positive/negative welcome
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rangel



Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2008 6:21 am    Post subject: Is it wrong to agree to be in a wedding that falls on the sa Reply with quote
Chill every thing will be fine as time passes.
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reneej



Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2008 8:14 am    Post subject: Is it wrong to agree to be in a wedding that falls on the sa Reply with quote
There is nothing negative about it, the baby isn't going to know the difference if his birthday is celebrated on the exact date or a month from the date. Your family needs to totally chill, (your right your the Mom and they will just have to deal)you can have a party for the baby at any time.. while your friend has only one wedding day.
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poeddelore[a..z]qy



Joined: 04 Mar 2008
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Location: World

PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2008 10:06 am    Post subject: Is it wrong to agree to be in a wedding that falls on the sa Reply with quote
I applaud your common sense, I don't see anything wrong with celebrating your son's first birthday the next day of his real day...(he's not even going to remember later anyways) anyway...do as you think is best, which I agree with you, go to the wedding and the next day do the birthday party for your son, and about the family...well it is your son and you can do whatever you want to do and what's best for you. If they give you a hard time just ignore them, they'll get over it.
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Priegessatt



Joined: 22 Mar 2008
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Location: South Africa

PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2008 11:59 am    Post subject: Is it wrong to agree to be in a wedding that falls on the sa Reply with quote
I think maybe you should go to the wedding on the day, and have your sons celebration at night. Problem solved (Hopefully)! =P
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robynanya



Joined: 20 Feb 2008
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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2008 1:51 pm    Post subject: Is it wrong to agree to be in a wedding that falls on the sa Reply with quote
I think your family is making a big deal out of this and you are worrying needlessly. Tell them the wedding is important to you, and his birthday celebration, which is also important, will be on a certain date. Stick to it. Evidently, this is a close friend or relative to ask you to be a bridesmaid in her wedding on which you can't change the date. It is okay to be in the wedding! Your young son won't even consider the date of his birthday. Almost always birthdays are celebrated on days that better suit the family. If you are feeling guilty, have a cake with candles and a private party with your son the night before the wedding. Then later have the celebration with other family members.
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Popperian1109



Joined: 11 Mar 2008
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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2008 3:44 pm    Post subject: Is it wrong to agree to be in a wedding that falls on the sa Reply with quote
I think it's fine to be in the wedding. Your son is too young to even know it's his birthday and like you said, you can have his party later. Tell your family that your his mom and can decide when to have his party and you're going to have it on the day that works best for you. The reason the day works best for you really isn't any of their business. Understandably in this situation they already know why you're not having it on his actual birthday but in any situation trying to tell you when to have the party is crossing the line. They'll get over it. Good luck! =]
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riversconfluence2493



Joined: 10 Mar 2008
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PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2008 5:36 pm    Post subject: Is it wrong to agree to be in a wedding that falls on the sa Reply with quote
Okay I read your question wrong, let me try again.You can have your sons party whenever you think is best. If your family doesnt like it, then thats to bad! Or like someone else suggested have his party in the evening after the wedding is over!!
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PollaFessjance



Joined: 07 Nov 2007
Posts: 43
Location: USA

PostPosted: Sat May 24, 2008 7:29 pm    Post subject: Is it wrong to agree to be in a wedding that falls on the sa Reply with quote
Honestly, I would agree with everyone else, that it is totally okay to postpone the 1st birthday party, he will never know the difference.To the family that gives you the grief, ask them if they have catered to their children's every want and need without regard to their own personal conflicts. I bet no one will say yes. This is real life, things go that way sometimes. Just roll with the punches, things will be just fine.
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