|
|
hushnowjustplayit
Joined: 04 Mar 2008
Posts: 21
|
 Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 6:15 am Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
 |
|
|
| A friend of my mother just lost her teenage son a few weeks ago, he passed-away in his sleep. She sent us a card congratulating us on our marriage. Is it proper etiquette to say thank you and 'we're sorry to hear about your son' in the same note to her? |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
|
 |
IsmailEliat
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
Posts: 8
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 7:03 am Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| yes that's finejust make sure your wording is well thought out |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
johanaveranson
Joined: 11 Mar 2008
Posts: 4
Location: VERTU Replica - Cloned VERTU phones - check them out
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 7:51 am Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| No. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Dickonnas
Joined: 22 May 2008
Posts: 1
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 8:39 am Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| Small "thank you", smaller "were so sorry for your loss".The last thing she needs is a long letter right now.Keep it small but not indiferent. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
jlunchbox0639
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
Posts: 9
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 9:27 am Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| do NOT send a card that says thanks but hummm sorry about your son! thats improper. now is not the time to thank her. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
ElanceDycle
Joined: 05 Mar 2008
Posts: 2
Location: New Zealand
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 10:15 am Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| No it is not, try sending another card. Am(additional message) Im sorry to hear about that too, it is indeed sad. And congrats on your wedding. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
easel
Joined: 13 Dec 2007
Posts: 27
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 11:03 am Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| I don't know what would be "proper" but I wouldn't. I would sent a separate sympathy card. I'm certainly not trying to point fingers but you probably already should have sent one. I understand that planning a wedding is stressful but if she found the time to sent a congratulations card after her loss, you should be able to find the time to send her two separate cards (or have sent one already). |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
DC4duedec7
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
Posts: 4
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 11:51 am Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| I would send a separate card. It would be one thing if it was her great aunt, but this is a big loss. You want to keep the thank you separate from her devastating loss if possible. I would send the sympathy card first though, even if it means that the thank you gets there a little late. I doubt she would care, and you don't want the thank you with no mention of her son to arrive first. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Dodie
Joined: 20 Jan 2008
Posts: 3
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 12:39 pm Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| If it was me I would send two separate cards. One thank you and one condolences. I just can't see thanking her for the happiest day of your life, and sympathy for the saddest day in her life on the same note. They are so conflicting. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
frankenballs
Joined: 18 Mar 2008
Posts: 2
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 1:27 pm Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| No.Send a 'Thank You' for the card and whatever gift was sent, and send a second card of sympathy to the mother, expressing your feelings for her, and whatever help you can offer.Keep the feelings and occasions separate. She will most likely keep all of the sympathy cards. It would look bad to have a 'Thank You' in the bunch. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
ErnestJohnSanchez
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
Posts: 8
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 2:15 pm Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| I wouldn't. One is for a happy occasion, the other a tragedy. Spend the extra few dollars to send a sympathy card seperately. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Craig Billupson
Joined: 26 Feb 2008
Posts: 2
Location: Italy
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 3:03 pm Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| I don't think there is much precedence for this. However, its better safe than sorry. Is it really worth the cost of a card and postage to make a goof like this? Send a separate sympathy card. Its better than unintentionally hurting her feelings. She doesn't need that right now... |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
DavidM
Joined: 11 Apr 2008
Posts: 2
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 3:51 pm Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| Send the note as a sympathy card. At the bottom, you can write that you are immensely grateful that she thought of you in the midst of her own grief. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Erople
Joined: 02 May 2008
Posts: 3
Location: USA
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 4:39 pm Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| I'd do 2 seperate cards. I'd send the sympathy one first then the thanks. that way it wont look like your just saying sorry because she said congrats. But send the sorry 1 day and thanks the day after so they arrive within a day of each other. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Emma-x
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
Posts: 8
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 5:27 pm Post subject: Is it proper etiquette to write words of sympathy in a thank |
|
|
|
| As far as I know, there's no official etiquette rule on this. But I'm impressed with the advice my fellow posters are giving. Send 2 separate cards--the sympathy first, and the thank you note to arrive on a later date. Sympathy cards are comforting in a time of tragedy, and it's best not to have that as a footnote in a thank you note. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
FAQ
Search
Usergroups
Register
Profile
Log in to check your private messages
Log in
