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diverdownbelow
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 Posted: Thu Jun 05, 2008 5:27 pm Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| My fiance and I are eloping to Vegas in a few weeks. We want to have a reception dinner afterwards (just as if we had a regular church wedding with a reception following) which we are paying for ourselves. Is it acceptable to register for gifts and include something in the reception invitation letting people know where we are registered? Although we are having a private wedding, we still want to include our family and friends in the celebration of it, so to me it seems okay to register and let people decide to buy a gift or not.By the way, I am using the word elope loosely- people do know about it, and are accepting of it. It is just an alternative to a big wedding. |
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Jennifer
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Jun 05, 2008 6:43 pm Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| yeah i guess but why dont u just have a really tiny court room party and then a big rec. then people wont feel so odd...and court room weddings are really nice i just went to one yesterday |
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freeringdown
Joined: 01 May 2008
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Location: usa
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| Posted: Thu Jun 05, 2008 7:58 pm Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| Traditionally registry information should NOT be included in the invitations...its considered a little tacky. You should just spread it by word of mouth through family and good friends. |
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JOHNM0037
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Thu Jun 05, 2008 9:14 pm Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| I wouldn't call it eloping -- that's when you run off on a whim and don't let anyone know until after. You don't plan it, you don't have parties for it, and you certainly don't ask for gifts.Since you ARE planning it, I would call it "having a private, intimate wedding, followed by a reception for friends and family". You can register, but it is tacky to ask for gifts in any invitations - you let a couple key people know where you're registered (such as your parents or sibilings, or a best friend or two, especially if one is throwing a bridal shower for you), or answer when people ask you. |
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EmberHalo
Joined: 19 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Thu Jun 05, 2008 10:29 pm Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| Absolutely OK as long as you are having a reception in honor of your marriage, its OK. Generally the ettiquite is, if you are feeding everyone, plan to get gifts. Having said that, if some of your family members are annoyed by the coices you have made, and dont show, or dont bring a gift, dont get too out of shape...eloping is still largely seen poorly. |
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issy
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| Posted: Thu Jun 05, 2008 11:44 pm Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| The definition of "eloping" is getting married without anyone knowing about it and/or against the wishes of friends and loved ones, so registering for gifts and letting people know about it would go against the very definition of "eloping". I would say that it's not okay to do that if you are actually "eloping". Now, if you are privately getting married with your friends and loved ones knowing that it happened, then it's okay to register, but it would be quite a deliemma for your family and friends to actually buy you a gift if they aren't invited to your wedding.Just my opinion on it. |
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free_2_bsweet
Joined: 20 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 1:00 am Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| yes i think that is acceptable... |
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duwqemsinrabtin
Joined: 30 Oct 2007
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 2:15 am Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| my sister and my brother in law got married at the court and had a reception. i think its okay to register since you are having a reception. either way you celebrate the big day i am sure people are going to want to get you something and its best to register so they dont get you things you will want to return. congratulations |
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gymnneaccesy
Joined: 31 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 3:31 am Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| Hell Yes!!! Register, register, register! |
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Earl
Joined: 05 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 4:46 am Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| Registering for gifts is a service to the gift buyers. This practice makes it easy for those who know you and care about you to purchase something you want and will really use. No one wants to be the giver of a third blender or a fourth crockpot!I see nothing wrong with registering. Since your elopement is an "open secret," most people will be glad to celebrate your marriage at your chosen time and place. And those that want to be offended...well, they'll be offended either way. |
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jaidporter
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 6:02 am Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| it's sort of a little tacky. maybe just mention what items you'd like. but personally, i think registeries are just tacky.sorry, but also ask a family member their opinion |
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fhotoace0632
Joined: 10 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 7:17 am Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| You never put anything in an invitation about registration or any other thing talking about gifts. You just don't. |
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Jemima
Joined: 06 May 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 8:32 am Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| I think it would be kind of tacky to do that. I would just let family and friends decide whether or not they want to buy gifts. |
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EagleWelt
Joined: 14 Sep 2007
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 9:48 am Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| People will most likely want to give you a gift, and I think registering is helpful.But don't include the registry information in the invitation. Instead, tell a couple of friends and ask them to pass on the information. You can also tell your friends if they ask where you are registered. |
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insertwittynamehere
Joined: 18 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 11:03 am Post subject: Is it okay to register for gifts if I elope and have a recep |
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| NO, don't follow this trend.You may register, but you may NEVER include "oh, this is where we are registered" in any sort of invitation. That is tacky, although lots of brides are doing it now. If they ask, you can tell them. I'm sure many will ask, but you want to make people feel comfortable, not "obliged." |
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