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14sposseLulsest
Joined: 07 Apr 2008
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Location: Netherlands Antilles
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 Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 2:01 am Post subject: Wedding Shower Etiquette? |
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| I'm having a few wedding showers.My best friend is throwing a shower.My co-workers would like to throw an office shower.The mother of my fiance's best friend would like to throw a couples shower and my church would like to do something as well.Do I invite my future mother in law and sister in law to each shower?I can get away with not inviting them to the office shower, but what about the rest?I didn't ask the sister in law to ride with me to an appointment and everyone stopped talking to me for months. We even had to switch the wedding date b/c no planning got done since no one was talking to me.So, now I'm just trying to keep the peace with everyone.Do I make sure everyone gets an invitation to each party?I don't want to make it seem like they need to shower me with gifts for each shower.Any suggestions for me?The sis in law and I don't have a great relationship but I don't want to argue or hurt anyone's feelings but don't want to make anyone uncomfortable eitherEdit: No I don't want to have this many showers. There are several people that want to do a shower for me and have suggested having more than one. OF COURSE I am NOT going to invite the same people to each shower. Just don't want to hurt the inlaws feelings by NOT inviting them to each shower if that is something I am supposed to do. |
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1Sluccaddicy
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
Posts: 53
Location: Guatemala
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| Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 4:46 am Post subject: Wedding Shower Etiquette? |
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| Send them an invite if you want, just let them know, they don't have to bring any gifts. Don't change the date again, just send them the invite for your wedding with the day and time. They'll come for your fiance. |
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27235
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 7:31 am Post subject: Wedding Shower Etiquette? |
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| Yuck, a shower "snob", every guests' worst nightmare...... |
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2236
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 10:16 am Post subject: Wedding Shower Etiquette? |
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| First thing...having that many showers for one wedding seems a little greedy don't you think? i would suggest renting a hall or church basement and having all those showers out into one.And invite everyone to the one...asking them not to "shower" you with gifts.As far as your future sister-in-law goes....if you don't want her there you're not obligated to have her.it's your wedding...not hers. |
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1Sluccaddicy
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
Posts: 53
Location: Guatemala
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| Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 1:01 pm Post subject: Wedding Shower Etiquette? |
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| Oi.do not get sucked into kissing these people's butts, or you'll have to for the rest of your marriage. but, to keep the peace, just make sure invites are sent to all of them. don't bring it up, don't say anything. they can choose to come or not come. and if they choose to come, they can choose to bring a gift or not.also, if your fiance is not man enough to stand up to his family when they quit talking to you over something so petty, you may want to ......well, consider that. |
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16GainaTreapype
Joined: 07 Jun 2008
Posts: 6
Location: Kuwait
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| Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 3:46 pm Post subject: Wedding Shower Etiquette? |
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| The office one should just be for the office. I would invite them, but let them know you did it so they could spend the day with them and you wanted to include them, not because you are looking for lots of gifts.ADDITION: And it sounds like all these people wanted to throw you showers. Keep each of them small, and let them know a lot of people wanted to throw you showers. Maybe someone could combine a couple. If not, do a different set of guests for each shower except the people closer to you (who should know they don't need to do gifts for each of them) so that they don't feel like they need to bring 2 gifts and so they don't think you are greedy. |
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25Holerottjoita
Joined: 06 Jun 2008
Posts: 11
Location: Algeria
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| Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 6:31 pm Post subject: Wedding Shower Etiquette? |
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| Although It is not unusual to have a few showers for different groups of people, four is a lot. You do not have to invite anyone to more than one shower. You could either divide up the people into their catagories (co-workers at work, church friends at church, fiance's family and friends at the friend's mothers and your friends at your best friend's) or you could have your work shower seperately and get all your family and friends together for a big shower at your church. |
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