| |
 |
| |
|
|
|
Brandy5711
Joined: 18 Mar 2008
Posts: 21
|
 Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 2:43 pm Post subject: How to get my MoH more involved? |
 |
|
|
My MoH is my best friend from high school. We both kinda went our separate ways for college, but kept in contact. She lived in my hometown while I was in college, so when I occasionally came home on weekends, we would usually schedule a trip to the movies or out to dinner, etc.When I got engaged in February, she was super excited for me, and we talked about all sorts of general wedding plans (flowers, colors, cake). We already have all the dresses and whatnot, which I helped her pay for.However, she moved about 3 hours away for a new job the weekend I graduated (early May), and we haven't been able to get together to plan stuff (or hang out at all) since. Her job seems to be demanding, so I totally understand that. However, now that my wedding is getting near (August 2 is the "big date"), I'm wishing we had more time together. As for the shower, my MIL is planning it for me since my MOH is so busy. MOH has to take a day off of work just to attend my shower, which I do appreciate.(continued)I suppose I’m just looking for suggestions on something small I could ask her to do for the wedding that would help her feel more involved. Something she could do “long-distance,” that wouldn’t require much time. Or any advice at all, for that matter. Thanks so much!  |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
|
 |
Brandy
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
Posts: 38
|
| Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 7:21 pm Post subject: How to get my MoH more involved? |
|
|
|
| Maybe she doesn't want to be more involved. Maybe she wants to but just can't. Why not ask her what she'd like to do to help or be involved. Maybe there isn't a problem here at all but you just being sweet and trying to be inclusive.My suggestion is to keep in contact with her via email. Include her in your planning and ask for input. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
BradyG
Joined: 17 Mar 2008
Posts: 14
|
| Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 11:59 pm Post subject: How to get my MoH more involved? |
|
|
|
| Doesn't sound like she has time to be more involved so giving her little meaningless chores would just be a burden.If you want more time together to be together as friends, invite her out.If you just want someone to assign tasks to, ask someone else. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
BoxVista
Joined: 03 Mar 2008
Posts: 6
Location: Mexico
|
| Posted: Wed Jun 04, 2008 4:37 am Post subject: How to get my MoH more involved? |
|
|
|
| I think you should just be honest with her. It certainly sounds like you aren't being a bridezilla or anything and that you just miss your friend and wish that she was more involved in your big day. It sounds like her job is quite hectic, so anything that you give her to do might take too much time. You may want to consider emailing her things for her opinion to get her back in the loop. And also, what about you going to where she is at for a weekend? You guys could go shopping, do a spa thing, whatever. It really seems to me that you are not upset about the fact that she isn't shelling out a lot of money to throw you a shower or make you the center of her world (good for you by the way!) and that it boils down to you needing to spend some quality gal time. So just be honest with her about it, and try and meet her halfway - or all the way to where she's at now - and get that qt that you guys need.Good Luck! |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
|
|
|
You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot vote in polls in this forum
|
|
| |
FAQ
Search
Usergroups
Register
Profile
Log in to check your private messages
Log in
