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Braddock52
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 Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 12:12 pm Post subject: My husband's brother is getting married. Need rehearsal dinn |
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| My husband's brother is getting married and he is a groomsman and my 2 daughters are the flower girls (ages 5 and 4). My mother-in-law informed us that my other 2 children (8-years old and 6-years old) were not invited because they were not in the wedding. I have declined the entire rehearsal dinner invitation which has made my husband furious because I don't want my sons; which my oldest is upset that he's not in the wedding, to further feel left out of this 'glorious' event. It is quite common with her and her side of the family that children are left out of family events but in this case my point is why am I invited (spouses of groomsman), girlfriends are invited (of ushers) but your own grandchildren aren't?? Please help me... |
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BoxVista
Joined: 03 Mar 2008
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Location: Mexico
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 2:11 pm Post subject: My husband's brother is getting married. Need rehearsal dinn |
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| Don't go or threaten that none of your children can attend unless your sons are not invited. There is no reason for that. What do they expect them to do? Thats ridiculous if it were me I would stand them up at their wedding. |
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BradyG
Joined: 17 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 4:10 pm Post subject: My husband's brother is getting married. Need rehearsal dinn |
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| have hubby makethe point you just made about friends and sopouses. her grandchildren should be held to a higher regard than friends. if you go take them anyway and if there's a prob let grandma be the bad guy. |
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brd2be1208
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 6:09 pm Post subject: My husband's brother is getting married. Need rehearsal dinn |
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| That is a little weird. I could understand if ONLY the members of the wedding party were invited but this is pretty odd. Are the 2 sons not well behaved? That's all I can really think of is that maybe it's a nice place & they don't want a scene? I don't know what else to think. It can't be the cost because they've invited girlfriends & they've invited you as well. You can hold a grudge if you want but it is pretty important for your husband & the other kids to attend the rehearsal. If they don't they're not even going to know where to stand or what they're doing & that's not cool either. Sorry. It sucks. Hopefully you'll find out what's behind the rudeness. |
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Brazilian_queen
Joined: 17 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 8:08 pm Post subject: My husband's brother is getting married. Need rehearsal dinn |
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| im on your side if it were me i would take my boys out for a fun night thats not fair. in my family if any kids are going to be there than everyont gets to take there kids. if you cant bring all of your kids i wouldnt let any of them go. if kids arent allowed then even the ones standing up shouldnt be there. im sorry but really theres no reason the grils need to be at the dinner and if everyone feels they need to be than bring your boys . |
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boxofrain8764
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 10:07 pm Post subject: My husband's brother is getting married. Need rehearsal dinn |
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| I completely agree with you that the entire family should be included and not just the children who are in the wedding. Hopefully your husband will see the principle in this as well and talk to his brother and the person throwing the rehearsal dinner. Maybe if money is a concern to make sure there is enough for everyone you can offer to pay for their extra plates. Or you could offer a compromise and let them know since your daughters are in the wedding they as well as your other two children will come for the rehearsal so that your daughters understand what they are suppose to be doing. You other 2 children can sit as if they are the audience and watch while everyone else is rehearsing. However politely let them know you or your daughters will not be staying for dinner since you and your children have made other plans for the evening and do not wish to be late for them. =) Good Luck with this |
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BradyG
Joined: 17 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Jun 07, 2008 12:06 am Post subject: My husband's brother is getting married. Need rehearsal dinn |
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| I think it is incredibly rude of the them to leave 2 of your children out of the festivities. I would not go either! Make a special night of it for the kids and let hubby handle the other 2 wedding party member kids on his own. They could have easily found special jobs for the other 2 children to do to feel a part of the event. I am pretty sure I would have declined any of my kids involvement if all of them were not welcome in some way. |
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Braifsnaf
Joined: 12 Apr 2008
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Location: Peru
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| Posted: Sat Jun 07, 2008 2:06 am Post subject: My husband's brother is getting married. Need rehearsal dinn |
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| I know it seems unfair but it does happen. My 2 older grandchildren were in my stepson's wedding party, their younger brother wasn't and not invited. He spent the night with his other grandma. Couldn't your boys spend the night with friends or your parents, they'd enjoy that more anyway? |
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