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Lightsabride
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 Posted: Fri Jun 13, 2008 2:50 pm Post subject: Destination wedding with a reception back home, etiquette? C |
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| Okay, so my fiancée and I want to have a wedding at the church in Silver Dollar City in Branson, Mo about four hours from where we live, part of the package includes a reception with flower, photography, carriage ride, cake, buffet dinner and the actual wedding. We can only have 55 guests so my parents want us to have a regular reception back home so all relatives and friends can come. They are paying for it, so we say why not? :->I was wondering if there were any etiquette rules that I should know about? My mom wants to have it on my dads 50th birthday. My dad wouldn't want to make it all about him, it would be fun because we could sing happy birthday to him and surprise him with a black cake. Plus it would shut up my sister in law that says I cant get married during her birthday month, if my dad can share his 50th birthday, she should be able to share her birthday month, right? So, any etiquette rules that I should be aware of?Its not about my dads birthday. It just happens that would be the best date for it. My mom doesnt want it to be a birthday party, no birthday decorations. She just said that it might be a nice memory for me since its just a second reception. My parents are worried that older relatives will feel bad that they didn't get to come to the actual wedding.Thanks for the answers. The actual wedding would be about 3 weeks earlier. Its a destination wedding with a reception back home. The reception would be on his birthday but our aniversary would not. |
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Hollywood
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| Posted: Fri Jun 13, 2008 5:46 pm Post subject: Destination wedding with a reception back home, etiquette? C |
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| don't have it on your dad's birthday. |
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VioletPearl1141
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| Posted: Fri Jun 13, 2008 8:42 pm Post subject: Destination wedding with a reception back home, etiquette? C |
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| Seems like your parents want to throw a party, Why make it about you if you've already chosen to have your whole wedding and reception elsewhere?I say skip the double reception and just have a party for your dad.Unless you're just hoping to collect more presents with your 2nd reception. |
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April2916
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| Posted: Fri Jun 13, 2008 11:39 pm Post subject: Destination wedding with a reception back home, etiquette? C |
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| I personally don't see anything wrong with having it on your dad's birthday. If your dad and fiance are okay with it then why not? It's supposed to be a day of celebration! Some people wouldn't want to share the spotlight - but if you feel comfortable with it then you should definitely do it. I wouldn't plan a wedding around anyone's birthday month. It always going to be someone's birthday month. Shouldn't stop you from getting married or having the reception. Good luck! |
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SandyEgo2848
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| Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 2:35 am Post subject: Destination wedding with a reception back home, etiquette? C |
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| You can marry on any day you want. I think it's a great idea to honor your dad by getting married on his b-day. I always wanted to get married on my parents' wedding anniversary, but the timing just never worked out this way, so my former husband and I chose to marry on my mom's b-day. |
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Reba0841
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| Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 5:31 am Post subject: Destination wedding with a reception back home, etiquette? C |
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| If your parents are paying for it and your dad doesn't mind then have the party on his birthday then whats the problem? Just to clarify it's not a reception at that point because you've already been married for a few weeks. Instead it is a party to celebrate your marriage. (there's a difference.)Since it's just a party and not the actual wedding date, it really doesn't matter when you have it.Good luck! |
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Lydia1465
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| Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 8:27 am Post subject: Destination wedding with a reception back home, etiquette? C |
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| If your mom thinks it's ok to have it on the birthday, then it's fine.The only real etiquette thing you need to be aware of is that the invitation for the home reception needs to have on it "No gifts, please" since those people were not invited to the ceremony.Good luck! |
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Brenda
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| Posted: Sat Jun 14, 2008 11:24 am Post subject: Destination wedding with a reception back home, etiquette? C |
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| You don't have anything etiquette wise to worry about.A post wedding celebration is customary for destination weddings. Very often family and friends can't travel the distance to a wedding for whatever reason. The party gives them a chance to congratulate you.If you and your parents want it on your father's birthday, then, you should do it. Like you said, it will give you a nice memory. It sounds wonderful and I'm sure it will be a lot of fun.Good luck. |
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