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ilenem1745
Joined: 31 Jan 2008
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 Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 3:37 pm Post subject: Opinions on having fsil in bridal party? |
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| My fiance and I have been engaged since March. I had talked with him about having his sister in the wedding soon after and felt that if he wanted her in the wedding I would ask. I had only met her twice (she lives in Alaska) and isn't home often. We had decided to have his nephew be the ring bearer and decided his niece would still be too young to be the flower girl so I asked my cousin (i have no nieces). I asked my two sisters to be my maids of honor and also asked a long time friend and another close friend from here. I figured four was enough. He's a slacker and finally decided on asking his brother in law to be an usher. His mother has made several comments about how they had her family in their wedding party and his father also made similar comments. She also made comments that my sil has never been in a wedding. i mentioned how one friend may actually not show up and she said well you could always ask fsil. I'm feeling really guilty that I didn't ask. Should I ask her now?When we first talked about it, he said he didn't care if she was in it. I have no hard feelings towards her and I like her, I just feel that I'm closest with those I chose (obviously my sisters). I gave him the choice and he said nah. |
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ideoryTobioro
Joined: 03 May 2008
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Location: Hungary
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| Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 4:13 pm Post subject: Opinions on having fsil in bridal party? |
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| You should have asked her from the beginning. You could always have five... I would ask her now, whether your friend backs out or not.Congrats on your upcoming nuptials. |
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Ian Arthur
Joined: 29 May 2007
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Location: Helensburgh/Glasgow
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| Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 4:49 pm Post subject: Opinions on having fsil in bridal party? |
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| Its your wedding and your day, if you had wanted her to be in the wedding you would have asked her. Not meaning that to sound horrible against you or anthing but you already pretty much have your side worked out- why change it to please other people ??!!! |
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IBeWed
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 5:25 pm Post subject: Opinions on having fsil in bridal party? |
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| As long as their have been weddings parets WILL ALWAYS PLAY THE GUILT CARD! Geesh! Why not honor your future sister in law by having her do a special reading for the ceremony? |
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ifilmu
Joined: 23 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 6:01 pm Post subject: Opinions on having fsil in bridal party? |
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| My husband does not have sisters, nor do I, but my brothers have wives. I was in 2 of their weddings, but because they have been married so long, and have kids I figured it would be a hassle for them to try to be at all of the functions and deal with the kids at the wedding, I didn't ask. I did ask my husbands brothers girlfriend to be my hostess.(she is now my sis in law) Maybe if you feel the need to keep the peace, you could ask. Or, like some of my brother's wives did, tell her that you thought she wouldn't want the inconvenience, because how can she get fitted and be there for everything, on top of traveling expenses, stuff like that. |
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IanK
Joined: 17 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 6:37 pm Post subject: Opinions on having fsil in bridal party? |
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| If your fiance has sisters, they are always supposed to be in the wedding party. You can ask her now and who cares if you have an even number of people or not. But, how long has it been since you asked the others? Is she going to know that she was just an afterthought? I suppose you could always say that you wanted her, but thought she WASN'T supposed to be, and now you are thrilled to find out that you were wrong. |
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IG64
Joined: 20 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 7:13 pm Post subject: Opinions on having fsil in bridal party? |
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| You should clearly ask her to be in your wedding. I have never heard so many veiled hints in my life. In 10 years you might not be friends with the other girls in your wedding, but you will always be related to your sisters and his family. You should ask her regardless of whether your friend shows up. |
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Icers
Joined: 24 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 7:49 pm Post subject: Opinions on having fsil in bridal party? |
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| If you want her in it put her in I'm having my FSIL in mine even though I'm not too fond of her but its just to make my FH happy. |
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illegalphotos
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
Posts: 10
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| Posted: Sat Jun 21, 2008 8:25 pm Post subject: Opinions on having fsil in bridal party? |
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| A wedding is the bringing together of two families. Since your groom only has one sister, it would have been best to ask her to be bridesmaid.Contrary to what some may say, it's not just about what YOU want. (That isn't intended to be as nasty as it sounds.) It's also about what is good for the joining of the families. |
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