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melissa6735
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 Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 10:44 pm Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| So, my fiance and I did sign up for a registry, and because we were trying to be classy, we didn't send a registry card with the invitation, but a small card with our website on it. On the website is our registry information. But here's our problem:We're moving to Idaho right after the wedding (a 2000 mile drive) and wont really have too much room for wedding gifts. Is there a tactful way to ask for money instead? |
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Melebourbicle
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Location: TG
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 11:10 pm Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| Nope, there isn't a classy way to ask for money. But you could remove your registry information from your website and perhaps they'll "assume" that you would prefer cash. Best wishes! |
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Melissa9427
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| Posted: Sun Jun 29, 2008 11:36 pm Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| Assuming that most of your guest know that you are moving you can delete the registry info from your web site and maybe put that because you are moving a wishing well will be placed at the reception for well wishing from the guest you might get a few cards and maybe some cash but don't ask for cash... |
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MelB2732
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 12:01 am Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| Can you change the delivery store on your registry to somewhere near your new home in Idaho? If its a large chain store (like HBC or Sears in Canada) you could likely do that. |
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melouofs
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 12:27 am Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| Yes - delete your registry and don't register anywhere else. People will get the hint. Spread the word to your family and bridal party and ask them to pass it on if people ask.We are in a similar situation, we are flying interstate back to our hometown for our wedding, we are going to be very limited for space to bring back bulky or fragile gifts. |
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Melissa1128
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 12:53 am Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| A clever way to do it would be to include your new address for'shipping purposes' or 'new address in the state of.......will be posted soon' on your website.....that way people who can't be bothered with paying for & shipping gifts will just give cash....and that will be most if not all good luck. |
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Melissa9427
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 1:18 am Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| you can always suggest gift cards - there are many stores that are nationwide - nice stores. if your friends/family know you are moving - get the one person that does the most talking amongst them to spread the word for you. gift cards are acceptable and are like cash. most people realize that moving in already a big job, that you don't need all these extra things to pack and hope that they make it okay. or just put on your website a short tale about the move to come soon, mention the excitement of moving and the worry about things being broken, or whatever. you can be creative in this, and hopefully your friends will get it that you can always purchase things once you are settled. True friends will know how you feel. Being classy isn't all it's cracked up to be, you just be yourself - your life will be much happier for you. |
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melouofs4912
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 1:44 am Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| Hi. No, sorry....I DO understand your situation, but there is no tactful way to do this.I agree with the others....take the registry information OFF your website. Also, if most people know that you will be moving, then hopefully they will be getting you a card with cash instead! |
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MelissaL
Joined: 11 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 2:10 am Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| no, not really, The best I can suggest is spread it by word of mouth that you prefer cash. You can also just go to the website of the store that you registered and delete your registry! If there isnt a registry, you will get mostly cash and gifts that people picked out on thier own! Good luck and congrats on your wedding and new home!!! |
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melissa7570
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 2:35 am Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| you cannot ask fo rmoney....that is just plain rude. what I would do if I were you is put a note on the website saying you are moving afterwards and would appreciate if any gifts off the registry could be shipped to such and such new address. most people will give money instead anyways. |
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Melle
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 3:01 am Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| I kind of have the same problem. We signed for a registry but we also live in PA and the wedding is in IA and were drivingb home after the wedding in a small car with no trunk space. My fiance and I had a talk about this, and we simply decided to not give anyone our registry info at all. Most will assume money is okay. Some places like Bed Bath and Beyond will give you a discount on the stuff off of your registy after the wedding so maybe keep things on there you really do need for your new home and purchase it at a discount after the wedding. For my fiance and I, we already live together and have all the things one would need for a new place. So you don't have to delete it if you don't want to just take the info off of your wedding web page :)Best of luck and congrats!!! |
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meliss_n_kye
Joined: 21 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 3:27 am Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| no unfortunately there is no 'polite' way to say you want money instead of gifts. the key is, if the bride and groom do not register for gifts anywhere, then that is supposed to be a big HINT-HINT to the guests that you want money not gifts. but unfortunately you did register for gifts.... |
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meli
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 3:53 am Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| Putting your wedding website card into the invitation is just as classless as putting the registry information in. Everyone knows the whole point in a wedding webiste is to flaunt where the couple is registered while trying to be all cute and bubbly. Your guests would have known to call your/his parents/attendants to find out your registry information.Even worse than including registry information in the invitations is asking for monetary gifts. Your guests are coming to see you get married, not to sponsor your move to another state. Most couples simply don't register when they'd prefer money, but since you've registered you can't suddenly change your mind and tell your guests "Nevermind, we want money". No matter how you do it, it'll come off as greedy. Accept the gifts you receive at your wedding and don't forget to send out Thank You cards. |
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MelB7952
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 4:18 am Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| Do not sign up for any gifts from anywhere, and get your website off line. I am sure a few gifts would fit in your truck or van while you moved if you wanted them bad enough. You could take all the wedding gifts you get back and get the cash and no one would know. Good luck in Idaho. |
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MelJ
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Mon Jun 30, 2008 4:44 am Post subject: Wedding Gift Faux Pas? |
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| No there isn't. You just are responsible for getting the things shipped. |
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