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sweeniasues
Joined: 14 Apr 2008
Posts: 50
Location: World
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 Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 4:11 pm Post subject: My Fiance I Guess? |
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| My boyfriend of 5 years has asked me to marry him not once but twice but he doesn't have a ring. So the other day when we were around some friend he decided to bring up wedding planning and sounded disappointed when I said I wasn't planning. What does that mean?and how should I intrepret that? |
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SvetlanaDoor
Joined: 11 Apr 2008
Posts: 61
Location: Russia
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 4:46 pm Post subject: My Fiance I Guess? |
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| Dr. Laura said you're not engaged without a ring and a wedding date. |
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SweetCharity
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
Posts: 58
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 5:21 pm Post subject: My Fiance I Guess? |
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| he sounds like he is using you as a show piece,and nothing more. Get rid of him,he will probabably end up cheating on you later in your relationship. |
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Sweaspbeanype
Joined: 23 Apr 2008
Posts: 83
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 5:56 pm Post subject: My Fiance I Guess? |
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| ok so when does a ring make a marriage. now since he's asked you then he obviously wants to get married. maybe he's till saving or paying for the ring and will give it to you in some beautiful and elaborate way. stop being stupid and selfish before you lose this guy and he findss a WOMAN who appreciates him. some women would be happy if their guy proposed. i'm thinking you most likely hurt his feelings. |
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svetomalll
Joined: 16 Jun 2008
Posts: 41
Location: Germany
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 6:31 pm Post subject: My Fiance I Guess? |
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| He cannot just ask you to marry him without giving you a form of commitment, such as the ring. He obviously did not sound serious when he asked you because you didn't start planning. Also, this is something you should both be talking about and odd that you haven't seeing how he asked you twice. I would suggest sitting down and talking to him, which you should have a good line of communication after 5 yrs of dating and figure out what is going on. Good luck |
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SwalseStoowly
Joined: 29 Jul 2007
Posts: 85
Location: United States
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 7:06 pm Post subject: My Fiance I Guess? |
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| The next time this happens..simply smile, raise your hand...dangle it a little, and say...."I'm just waiting for the ring:)" |
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SvetlanaEW
Joined: 28 May 2008
Posts: 45
Location: Russia
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 7:40 pm Post subject: My Fiance I Guess? |
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| you need to talk to him.. not us.. sorry..but he needs to know how you feel..communication!good luck :]]please help me :]http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080629213208AAxOzLV&r=w |
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sweenceGove
Joined: 06 Mar 2008
Posts: 81
Location: Belarus
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 8:15 pm Post subject: My Fiance I Guess? |
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| He seems to be assuming that you will be married at some point. I think you need to have a serious talk about your future with this guy. |
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SweetCharity
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
Posts: 58
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 8:50 pm Post subject: My Fiance I Guess? |
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| You two are not ready to get married. You can't communicate about the simple idea of getting married so don't try to actually do it. He had to ask you. You had to say yes. If you said yes, then of course there is a wedding to be planned. If you're balking because you think this guy's dragging his heels about getting the ring, then that should have been something you discussed oh, let's say, right after you said YES! If you didn't say yes, then you would be acting reasonably to say to him, 'Why would I plan a wedding if I never told you I'd marry you?' I mean, come on. We're not talking about 'Who's gonna take the dog to the vet?' or 'Should I pick up the dry cleaning or will you?' You have a serious subject that neither of you can communicate effectively about - I'd say that dooms your marriage plans. So start thinking about what it is that you do want - I don't think you want to marry this guy. |
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SwalseStoowly
Joined: 29 Jul 2007
Posts: 85
Location: United States
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 9:25 pm Post subject: My Fiance I Guess? |
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| What is there to plan without a ring or a date? When he shows you he is serious by giving you a ring, and wanting to talk about setting a date, then you can start planning, and he won't have to embarass himself when he brings the subject up with his friends. |
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swapnil90
Joined: 20 Mar 2007
Posts: 77
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 10:00 pm Post subject: My Fiance I Guess? |
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| Take him to a jewelry store tomorrow and point at the ring you want, and say, "Baby, please have this by..." Make sure it is within his budget and let him know that there are no excuses - his expenditure equals full commitment. Then set the date! |
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Sweaspbeanype
Joined: 23 Apr 2008
Posts: 83
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| Posted: Tue Jul 01, 2008 10:35 pm Post subject: My Fiance I Guess? |
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| A ring does not I repeat does not make u married or engaged. Since when? Americans as a whole need to get their damn priorities straight and stop being so damn materialistic. Maybe he can't afford a ring? And even if he can God! Grow UP! |
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