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qcyboy
Joined: 15 Jan 2008
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 Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 1:39 am Post subject: Invited to wedding ceremony, but not reception? |
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| Recently, while I was having lunch with a friend, she invited me to her wedding. When I accepted, she then proceeded to ask me if I would consider helping her with the wedding decorations. I said that I'm not good with crafts at all, but that I would help.Later in the conversation, I was shocked and offended to find out that the reception will be family only as they're on a tight budget. I had assumed she was inviting me to both the wedding and reception especially since she wanted me to help with the organization.Since I've already agreed, I've decided not to confront her and just go, but what should I give as a gift if anything? I will already have to give her my time to help with the decorations. |
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qbupodehcgmeiijg
Joined: 03 May 2008
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Location: usa
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| Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 4:19 am Post subject: Invited to wedding ceremony, but not reception? |
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| I think a card wishing her and her husband the best, along with the gift of your time will be enough.I think that inviting you to the ceremony, and asking for your help with the reception, and then not inviting you to the reception is a little rude. |
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QifigeKewiwa
Joined: 21 Jun 2008
Posts: 21
Location: Croatia
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| Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 6:59 am Post subject: Invited to wedding ceremony, but not reception? |
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| If they're on a tight budget and it's family, that's just the way it is. Not everyone can afford to have a huge wedding or a huge guest list. I'm sure she'd love to have you there, but finances get in the way. Maybe the reason she asked you to help with decorations was so she could spend more time with you during the wedding process and to make you feel like more of a part of it. Gifts are not required of guests, however, if she is a good friend, you'd probablly want to get are a gift in celebrating her marriage- above and beyond your help with decorations. It really is what you would like to give. But don't punish her for being practical and having a wedding within her means. |
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qtravelgniels
Joined: 15 Apr 2007
Posts: 24
Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 9:39 am Post subject: Invited to wedding ceremony, but not reception? |
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| That's extremely tacky. Only the people who are invited to the reception should be invited to the wedding. While it's common to invite people to the reception only the reverse is an etiquette no-no.I agree that a simple card along with your help is all you should do.Or perhaps a gift of Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette book would be appropriate. |
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