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Rose
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 Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 4:14 am Post subject: Current teachers ONLY - will I be able to plan a wedding and |
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| We've been planning to get married May 22, 2010 for some time now. The date is special to us for personal reasons. I'll be done with my program (master's and full year of student teaching w/mentor) at the end of the '08-'09 school year and will have my own classroom starting fall 2009, and then married spring 2010. While I think I can get a lot of planning done the summer before my first year, I'm nervous about all of the stress leading up to the wedding, trying to balance everything.1. Is it bad to take off a few days in May for my wedding followed by a week-long honeymoon in my very first year?2. Do you think it's do-able to have a successful first year teaching and plan a wedding without being overloaded with stress? |
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rosaespinoza
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 5:14 am Post subject: Current teachers ONLY - will I be able to plan a wedding and |
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| 1. Many schools discourage personal days during the last few days of school because of end of the year procedures. However, if you are upfront with your employer, maybe something can be arranged. What if you got married on that date and put off your honeymoon for the week following the end of school?2. The first year is stressful for any teacher. It has been said that if you can make it through your first year, you'll be okay. Personally, if you have spent a year student teaching with a mentor, and have support at the school you are teaching at, you should be able to teach and plan your wedding. But---aren't you planning it now? Get as much done now as you can and then- smooth sailing. |
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roscoedeadbeat
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 6:14 am Post subject: Current teachers ONLY - will I be able to plan a wedding and |
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| If her is nay way possible,put one off until later. Your first year will be super stressful and you will be overwhelmed. A wedding to plan on top of that is too much. Unless your wedding is strictly family at a city hall followed by cake in your mom's kitchen, it will be very hard. The honeymoon thing?? Understand that you will have to leave a week's worth of detailed plans and you may not get paid depending on circumstances. I did a long w/e over Easter during my 4Th year. Good luck |
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Rosebud
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 7:14 am Post subject: Current teachers ONLY - will I be able to plan a wedding and |
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| Congratulations on your engagement. I just got married May 24 this year. My first year of teaching is this coming year, so I didn't have to plan during my first year. I did, however, have to plan during student teaching. It was kind of stressful.The best advice I can give you is get as much done as you can early. Since you still have a little less than two years to plan, then you should be fine. Start looking for decorations, favors, and gifts now. Going during the right seasons can even guarantee you a great bargain (after thanksgiving day sale OR other special or holiday sales, etc). Begin looking for places to have the ceremony and reception and even reserve them asap. Trust me. It is hard to get places around memorial day. The more you get done now, the less you will have to worry about while you are going through the stress of first year teaching. I wouldn't worry about taking off a few days until that time comes, because you may not need it. Plan Plan Plan. Just like you have to plan for teaching, you have to plan for weddings so you are not at the last minute trying to get things done because you didn't allow yourself enough time to do it. Make a list (or look one up) of important things to get done to plan for a wedding. Then write it on a calendar so you can know when to begin and by when you should be done. Speaking of memorial day, this day is good because that is one less day you have to get off of work. Therefore, you may only be taking 4 days off instead of 5.This is definitely do-able. Congrats again and Good Luck. |
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rosaespinoza
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 8:14 am Post subject: Current teachers ONLY - will I be able to plan a wedding and |
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| It will be stressful. first year teacher - end of the school year - wedding and all the planning that goes with it - there is no way around it - the stress level will be incredible.Of course it can be done - and your school should be very supportive. But just know that your stress level will be insane. I know this from seeing first year teachers every year - just trying to finish their year.But does any of this matter? You can't put it off.good luck you to you! its gonna be great! |
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RoseG
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 9:14 am Post subject: Current teachers ONLY - will I be able to plan a wedding and |
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| I got married right after my first year of teaching. I only had the last 6 months of the school year to plan it so that we could marry as soon as the school year ended. Your first year of teaching is pretty stressful (especially at low income schools or schools under improvement <CA>) You will have a lot of planning and meetings most likely and trying to learn the curriculum yourself to teach it is overwhelming. It is absolutely possible to plan your wedding during your first year. Be upfront with your principal about your plans and it shouldn't be an issue in getting the time off. Just make sure it doesn't affect standardized testing time. |
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RoseG
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 10:14 am Post subject: Current teachers ONLY - will I be able to plan a wedding and |
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| Wow! I was in the same scenario as you. I started my first year as a teacher last year 2007-2008. I was planning on getting married in May 22, 2008 (for personal reasons). Our school year ended June 6th.... I had asked the administration (principal, I prefer going to the top. And I could tell she was nicer than some of the other Admins) And she was more than happy to grant me the time off, and I didn't even feel bad because she was so nice about it. I explained to her my situation. I was lucky to have such a supportive boss. Though all teachers should know that a lot of administration are not exactly "teacher-friendly" when it comes to taking time off or supportive in general.Sorry for blabbing! I would talk to your boss and see what she can do. Try not to take any other days off prior to your wedding. I'm almost positive you will be fine.Good luck and congratulations!!! |
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RoseG
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 11:14 am Post subject: Current teachers ONLY - will I be able to plan a wedding and |
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| I did this my first year.I made it, but it was difficult.I wouldn't take off ANY time if you can avoid it (I got married the first Saturday of Christmas break). If you want the wedding on that day, at least put the honeymoon off until after school is out. |
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RoseG
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| Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 12:14 pm Post subject: Current teachers ONLY - will I be able to plan a wedding and |
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| You'll need to pray through it... intensely... b/c it will definitely be stressful. The first year is stressful period, but doing that while planning a wedding is going to be diffrent... definitely get as much done beforehand an possible. Have everything planned out very well. Also, I would say that you should plan on using your sick days to take your honeymoon. With that being your first year, that probably won't look too good to your principal. Also, you might use a lot of your sick days. Many times, people get sick their first year working in a school environment. I would say you should at least consider moving the date to June so that you'll be done teaching. It'll still be stressful, but at least you won't have to worry about taking sick days and returning to school after the honeymoon.Good luck! |
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