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Galiloera
Joined: 12 Jul 2007
Posts: 64
Location: UK
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 Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 1:51 pm Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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| I.ve been with my wife for over 10 years, we meet in our 30's and she was divorced. We were great together, sex regularlly and when we where on our honeymoon we found out she was pregnant,thats when it all started,sex maybe 1-2 a month,afterbirth no sex for a long time,it never realy got back to normal, then we had our second child and the samething over again but worse I have to ask her for sex! this has ben going on now 2-3 years, Is this normal to have no sex drive? Now shes in her 40's and very sexy! I can't touch her , I can't ask her for sex, I feel as though I'm living for the woman I love and can't have her, she claims menopause is becoming a problem. I can't take it anymore she claims all I want is sex, I tried to explain maybe because I'm lucky to have it once a month and I'm horny because of her looks and that. I help out around the house to take some stress away from her, sometimes the kids are too much at ages 3 and 7 but am I being selfish? I don't want to cheat but its very hard when I have urges. I agreed to see a counsellor on this and they tell me to give her time and space it could be menopause and libido issues but come on I'm 42 and look 30 and now I have a sex drive of an 18 year old with no one to help me. I married the woman I need in my life but am unhappy now. I have one week of the woman I married a month the other 3 you can't talk to her.Please help!!Guys all the advice your giving me is great, we did see a couples couselor, I have taken her on a vaca, dates, babysetter etc. thats why I'm here now, It's getting to a point where I have no where to go, I have the kids when ever I can for her to help and around the house etc., and like I said I have been faithful and taking care of things on my own, its getting worn out now I am 42 not 18 and know the difference between right and wrong, shes been to a gyno I'm sure deppression and stress has alot to do with this I have sat down with her face to faceand I get your "beating it to death again or not this again" what the hell am I doing wrong, I work, don't drink, no drugs, I am not being selfish I just want my wife.!! |
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gallagher
Joined: 23 Jun 2008
Posts: 60
Location: USA
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| Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 3:15 pm Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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| Dang, sounds like MY ex wife, dump her and get a newer model ! |
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Gallevsis
Joined: 15 Apr 2007
Posts: 75
Location: UK
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| Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 4:38 pm Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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| Beer is the answer, drink more beer and all your problems will be washed away. |
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GAISUAGOLAK
Joined: 10 Apr 2008
Posts: 16
Location: Thailand
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| Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 6:01 pm Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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| Treat her as a queen, take her out regularly on dates, pay for a sitter and listen to her, really listen. Keep communication open. Help her with the children and housework and cooking, she'll have more time for you. Make a contract that you'll help her out more if she'll give you sex three times a week. |
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gamer_077
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 7:25 pm Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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I totally get what you are saying. As I myself went through that after having a baby although I found my way back. Instead of being blunt about wanting to have sex with her, try doing up a dinner for two ( sweet music, candles maybe some flowers and cooker her her fav dish) Maybe do a sexy setup in the bedroom. Maybe just act like you dont want it as bad as you say you do just try cuddling and saying the little things and maybe she will want it too!! Hopefully all goes well and she gets back into the swing of things!!  |
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Gambibouffhib
Joined: 10 Nov 2007
Posts: 74
Location: USA
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| Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 8:48 pm Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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| dang man, I'm a girl, and either she really doesn't have a drive, or she's cheating, or she's doing herself, or she's never had the big O because any woman who's had it once doesn't ever want to stop... maybe get her a new vibrator? I dunno, I feel for ya though, good luck. |
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GAISUAGOLAK
Joined: 10 Apr 2008
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Location: Thailand
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| Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 10:11 pm Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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| I don't know what the answer is, maybe your wife is going threw depression? I know after giving birth to a child sometimes things happen and a women loses interest in sex. I know after I had my second baby, I could care less about sex but I had problems during delivery that didn't help the sex drive and it honestly lasted about a year. With that said, my husband still got sex 2-3 times a week. Maybe it is time to take you wife on a vacation, if you can afford it and have someone watch the kids. It doesn't have to be anything outrageous and hundards of miles away, just a weekend get away. I really think your wife should speak to a doctor about the problems and feelings she is having. I bet they could help make her feel more like her old self in time. |
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GalaxieGirl5336
Joined: 27 Mar 2008
Posts: 32
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| Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 11:35 pm Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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| Maybe you should start playing the "hard to get game" with her. For some reason, when my husband acts like that, it drives me wild and then I really start begging! Good Luck and I hope things get better |
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Galileos
Joined: 28 May 2007
Posts: 44
Location: Japan
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| Posted: Sun Aug 10, 2008 12:58 am Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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| If your wife is going through menopause in her 40's, that is very early. Are you positive she's going through menopause? Has she seen the doctor? Normally women in their 40's are in their sexual prime of life.If there are issues in your marriage over sex, i'm sure this isn't the only problem. Maybe you could ask your wife if she'd consider couples counseling so you can learn to communicate about things in a healthier way. maybe there are issues you two haven't discussed. Sometimes people are afraid to talk about what's going on. Therapy can really help. |
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Gambibouffhib
Joined: 10 Nov 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Sun Aug 10, 2008 2:21 am Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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| It is possibly the early onset of menopause setting in, which can cause hormone drops. She should see her doctor. However, why don't you sit her down and show her this post. Let her know that she may cause you to cheat. Explain that you have desires and you desire her, but being rejected is starting to be too much for you in the marriage anymore. Suggest some new sex toys, or maybe a night alone without the kids. Tell her you will start her off with a back rub. She needs to hear and see your face that you are dead serious. And make her see her gyno. Good luck. |
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GalsGelf
Joined: 22 Dec 2007
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Location: US
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GainAnaeb
Joined: 02 Jul 2008
Posts: 19
Location: USA
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| Posted: Sun Aug 10, 2008 5:08 am Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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| I think you need to talk to her...i mean really talk to her...In a serious way...Get a different Marriage Counselor...they cant just expect you to wait when you have already been waiting so long that it lead you to have to go to counseling in the first place...And if it still doesn't work...DONT cheat. That is just plain disrespectful and stupid. But if you feel you have tried everything and your still not happy and she is not willing to do give 100%...then you should move on..and be happy |
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GalsGelf
Joined: 22 Dec 2007
Posts: 80
Location: US
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| Posted: Sun Aug 10, 2008 6:31 am Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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| Just wait till it is your turn with andropause, young man. Have a heart and some understanding for the woman, please. Are you helping her out with your two kids? Give her a night out with her gal pals, while you babysit. Perhaps she can learn how to get her groove back on, and then you will get all the sex you want and more babies. |
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GalaxieGirl9718
Joined: 08 Jun 2008
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| Posted: Sun Aug 10, 2008 7:55 am Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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| Hey, no body ever died from lack of sex. How much do you really help her and wouldn't it be nice if you wanted to help her just because. You might be surprised at what happens but give it time and I don't mean a day or a week either Kids at that age are to much all the time not just sometimes. Cheating is not the answer. Try a mag and your hand to be blunt. Your sounding pretty selfish. How old are you? 42 or 18? |
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Gallevsis
Joined: 15 Apr 2007
Posts: 75
Location: UK
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| Posted: Sun Aug 10, 2008 9:18 am Post subject: my wife has no sex drive,moody,mean,can anyone give me advic |
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| If you keep obsessing about sex, it will always be a problem.She feels like you are being demanding, and that can be a big turn-off.Also, you must understand that female hormones play a big part in a woman's sexual health. Having babies is very stressful on the body. She could also be experiencing depression. It is very common in the first 3 years after childbirth. Continue with the counseling. Find things you love about your wife besides just the sex. If your wife feels that all you like about her is sex, she will just feel worthless. Be sure she knows about all the other things you like about her. If you only wanted sex from the relationship, you shouldn't have got married. Marriage is about WAY more than sex. |
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