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gamuttime
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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 Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 3:51 am Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| My boyfriend and I have been planning to do this awesome 6-week European trip this fall. Unfortunately, we've had to postpone it because I got a full scholarship to continue grad school this fall. (Which we didn't feel I could turn down.)We had also been planning on getting married next summer in Scotland. This is our dream wedding. The obvious thing here would to do the wedding in Scotland and then start our 6-week trip in Europe as our honeymoon. Unfortunately, we can't afford to do both in one summer. In all honesty, we'd rather do the 6 week trip than the wedding right now. It does mean delaying our wedding for another year (to summer 2010) but then we can do the trip around Europe next summer and the wedding in Scotland the following year. But we can't decide! What would you do in our situation? We already live together (we're not religious so please don't say anything about that) but we *do* want to get married. I guess we could do a courthouse wedding or elope, but we want our families there and this is my one chance to dress in a formal gown and have the photos and things like that.Any suggestions, experiences or advice would be appreciated! Thank you! |
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GalsGelf
Joined: 22 Dec 2007
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Location: US
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| Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 5:31 am Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| I say do the trip. It's a once in a lifetime opportunity! And it doesn't sound like you're in a rush to get married, so why not wait? This way you'll have plenty of time to plan, and you'll probably need it! |
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gamer_077
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 7:11 am Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| have a small wedding here with the gown and what not and go to Europe for the honeymoon.. then you will have some wedding gift money to spend on your trip |
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Gallevsis
Joined: 15 Apr 2007
Posts: 75
Location: UK
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| Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 8:51 am Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| Do the trip. You can always get married, and Scotland isn't going anywhere. Besides the extra time together may flesh out more things about your relationship before you tie the knot. |
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GalsGelf
Joined: 22 Dec 2007
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Location: US
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| Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 10:31 am Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| Think of it this way, if you're already going over to Europe how much extra expense is there in getting married??? I would assume you can't have a huge reception or anything since many people aren't going to make that trip so the cost is only the ceremony. Your parents would obviously pay for themselves as would any friends. AT least look into it. In the long run it could save you some $ because you wouldn't have to make the trip the next year. |
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GainAnna
Joined: 05 Jul 2008
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 12:11 pm Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| I say elope in Scotland, do the trip, and host a modest reception when you return for friends and family.However, if you must have friends and family at your actual wedding, then just postpone it and get married in 2010 and forego the Scotland idea too. Hey, I'd love to get married in a small village in Italy, but sometimes you have to bring your dream wedding back down to reality. |
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Gambibouffhib
Joined: 10 Nov 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 1:51 pm Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| I would do the trip.Weddings are expensive and stressful, and only last one day. The trip you have in mind will probably change your life forever. It sounds like a wonderful trip. Don't miss that opportunity!As far as getting married, you can have a court house ceremony with your closest friends and family. I would get married at the court house and then go to a nice restaurant with my husband and our closest friends and relatives. |
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gamrds
Joined: 26 Jun 2007
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Location: usa
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| Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 3:31 pm Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| honeslty, I always pick vacations over EVERYTHING, but I actually picked not to go on a trip this summer in lieu of saving moeny for the wedding. It was so out of character for me. Seriously, I have gone weeks and weeks living off soup and KD because I wanted to go on a vacation and that's the only way I could afford it. I normally give up EVERYTHING to travel. but not my wedding.However, 6 weeks in europe is awesome. Why don't you do that for your honeymoon??? |
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GAISUAGOLAK
Joined: 10 Apr 2008
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Location: Thailand
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| Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 5:11 pm Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| If you really want to get married with family and friends around why not do it locally (unless your family lives in Scotland asking them to shell out money to attend might garner less guests that you want anyway) and then do your trip, including Scotland and have a private commitment ceremony there. A courthouse wedding doesn't have to be just the two of you, and you can still do the dress and photos for a resonable price. |
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gamrds
Joined: 26 Jun 2007
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Location: usa
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| Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 6:51 pm Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| Personally I almost lost my mind planning the wedding & the honeymoon. We just went to Hawaii instead & got married on the beach. If it was ME, I would do the small ceremony & then go on the trip. You can have your family there, you can still buy a fabulous dress, you can still have a photographer, you just won't need him for HOURS on end. I just don't think it makes any sense to put off the wedding until 2010 because you can't afford it. If you don't have the money you shouldn't be spending it. Go the small ceremony, go on your trip, use whatever you would have saved for the HUGE wedding & put it towards a down payment on a house or invest the money. |
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Gallevsis
Joined: 15 Apr 2007
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Location: UK
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| Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 8:31 pm Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| Since you say you want to do the trip now, do the trip now. If you haven't sent any wedding invitations, there's no reason not to wait until the following summer. There's no right answer in this situation - just do what you want. |
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GainAnaeb
Joined: 02 Jul 2008
Posts: 19
Location: USA
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| Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 10:11 pm Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| I would see if I could find somewhere near home that looks like Scotland and get married there. Then do the Europe trip as my honeymoon. I don't see the point of going to Scotland with all my family for a few days just to get married. |
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Galiloera
Joined: 12 Jul 2007
Posts: 64
Location: UK
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| Posted: Sun Aug 24, 2008 11:51 pm Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| Personally, I would get married this year, spend a couple extra days in Scotland as a "mini-honeymoon" and save up to do the big trip next year as your real honeymoon. It is actually becoming more and more popular to put off the honeymoon for 6 months to a year so that the bride and groom can 1. save money for the trip, 2. save up vacation days from work, and 3. as a way of rekindling the marriage. That is what I would do. |
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Galiloera
Joined: 12 Jul 2007
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Location: UK
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 1:31 am Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| the trip! if being married is just as important. elope at the justice of the peace before you go (usually around $100). then a year later, have your ceremony in scotland. congrats on the scholarship and engagement! |
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GalaxieGirl9718
Joined: 08 Jun 2008
Posts: 42
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 3:11 am Post subject: The trip or the wedding? |
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| I say do the trip. You're working on your education right now. You will have another full year to work on the wedding. Congrats & best wishes. |
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