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Gallevsis
Joined: 15 Apr 2007
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Location: UK
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 Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 6:51 am Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| im going to type something really nice in the bridal invitation all i want is honeymoon money because to be honest i dont even think im going if i dont do this. what do you think will be take it like wrong or something or should i just go for it ? |
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Galiloera
Joined: 12 Jul 2007
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Location: UK
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 8:03 am Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| Asking your guests for money is rude, no matter what the context. You accept whatever gifts you are given graciously. |
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GainAnna
Joined: 05 Jul 2008
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 9:14 am Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| If I were attending a bridal shower, I wouldn't have a problem giving the bride (really, the couple) money toward their honeymoon. However, I think I would prefer to donate it to an online registry rather than just handing you cash, or purchasing an activity for you to do on your honeymoon.However, some guests may have a problem with it. NEVER put registry or gift information on the invitation. If you have a wedding website, you can put your honeymoon wishes there, and have your parents and wedding party spread the word. however, it's not guaranteed. Guests will give you whatever they want. You can't dictate what they bring, but I'm sure your efforts will push them in the right direction. |
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gallagher
Joined: 23 Jun 2008
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 10:25 am Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| I've seen this done before. The wording on the invite was something like "In lieu of traditional gifts, a financial offering for the couple would be appreciated"....or something like that. I wouldn't necessarily say that the funds are for your honeymoon. I would look up an article on etiquette to be sure. |
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GainAnae
Joined: 04 Jul 2008
Posts: 25
Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 11:37 am Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| Instead of just asking for money for your honeymoon you should register for it. Then people can pay for specific things for you to do on your honeymoon (a dinner out, visiting a tourist spot/museum) and it's a bit more of an "official" present than just asking for cash.Here are some websites to do it:http://www.thehoneymoon.com/http://www.forthemoon.com/http://www.honeymoonwishes.com/I found a couple other sites just by using google, because me fiance and I are doing this (since we already live together and have lots of house stuff). There are a lot of different services that offer this. You can probably do it through a travel agent as well. |
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gamrds
Joined: 26 Jun 2007
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Location: usa
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 12:48 pm Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| My husband and I put "In Lieu of gifts a card basket will be available" on our invitations. We also sort of spread the word through friends and family when asked what we needed. It worked like a dream, we only received two gifts and the rest were cash and gift cards. Yay!!! |
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Galileos
Joined: 28 May 2007
Posts: 44
Location: Japan
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 2:00 pm Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| People will be offended by it, so you have to decide if offending some of your guests is worth it. I personally wouldn't, but that's just me. I find a much better option is just to not register or not to register for much since this encourages people to give cash. I know it really stinks to not be able to take a nice honeymoon, but do what can do without needing to beg your guests. Even a night away in a different town nearby could be nice. |
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Gambibouffhib
Joined: 10 Nov 2007
Posts: 74
Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 3:11 pm Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| You can register for this at:http://www.honeymoonwishes.com/This way you won't look tacky just asking for money. |
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Galiloera
Joined: 12 Jul 2007
Posts: 64
Location: UK
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 4:23 pm Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| you're throwing your own shoer? oh that's so....don't you have anyone to throw it for you? uck!!!I've seen many peopler egister for their honeymoon, but dont' ask for cash it's bad enough your throwing your own shower. |
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Galileos
Joined: 28 May 2007
Posts: 44
Location: Japan
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 5:34 pm Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| This is definitely rude, but you need to inform everyone why you are asking for the money. But asking for guests to pay for something you should already have saved for is just tacky. You don't have a wedding and expect guests to pay for it just like you don't go on a vacation(honeymoon) and expect people to pay for it. It's your wedding and you are "hosting" a party for them which means you provide and they give you a gift in return if they can afford it, not expect them to pay for it. It's like a fancy dinner party. You don't invite people to your house for dinner and charge them $20 a plate do you? You might as well charge people at the door to get in! In your situation, just don't register and hope for money. |
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GainAnae
Joined: 04 Jul 2008
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 6:45 pm Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| I agree with Bridal Muffin. If you ask for cash, it is rude. However, if you include the link to a honeymoon registry, that is perfectly fine. |
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Galileos
Joined: 28 May 2007
Posts: 44
Location: Japan
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 7:57 pm Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| It's offensive and off-putting. I would just not register and take it from there.Weddings are expensive, but under no circumstances should you impose gift requirements on your guests or depend on your guests to help subsidize things. |
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gallagher
Joined: 23 Jun 2008
Posts: 60
Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 9:08 pm Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| It is very insulting to your guess to ask them to give you money. Most people out of respect and the goodness of their heart will give you money for a gift. Don't be trifling and tacky and ask for it. |
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Galileos
Joined: 28 May 2007
Posts: 44
Location: Japan
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 10:20 pm Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| Any cash requests are to be done quietly through word of mouth, and then you take any gift graciously. Honeymoon registries are considered tacky by lots of people, and cash requests are even worse. Even on the shower invite, you don't refuse other gifts! If someone is throwing you a shower, you need to go no matter what people give you! They should be sending the invites anyways, why are you writing stuff on them? You don't throw showers for yourself.Oh, and you should not expect any specific amounts. If someone hands you $5 you still need to be thankful for it and write a note just like you would for $500. |
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GainAnae
Joined: 04 Jul 2008
Posts: 25
Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 11:31 pm Post subject: for my bridal shower can i just ask for honeymoon wishes? |
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| Um....you should not be doing anything for your bridal shower, planning, invitations, or otherwise. This is something that should be thrown FOR you not BY you.If you want to register for a honeymoon, do it. If I saw that in the invitation I would give it to you. Hey, it's all about what I can afford from what you want. If I can afford towels, then it makes no difference to me if that same money is used towards your honeymoon.Your attitude does bother me a little, though. If you're not going to go to your own shower because you don't like what people were gracious enough to give you, that's a problem. I hope you aren't letting THAT aspect shine through to your guests! |
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