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_yoju_eckho_
Joined: 30 May 2007
Posts: 39
Location: Boston
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 Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 5:13 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| I know already I am being selfish, so I probably need advice on how to fix that. Let me explain, my fiance just called me and told me his cousin is getting married a short time after we are, like weeks. I was a little shocked because she and her girlfriend have been together for less the a year and before this girl is was a rough breakup. Anyway, then he goes on to tell me that they have planned there wedding and its exactly like ours! Beach wedding, home reception with beach theme. I am about two months from getting married and now I just feel like I want to cancel everything. My fiance says she didn't even know our wedding theme or anything, but we've been engaged for like 2 years and its all over my myspace etc. Then to make it even worse my fiance got my name tatoo'd on his arm and his cousin's girl friend went and got his cousins name on her arm and even copied the font and stuff. How should I feel? I know I'm being selfish... I just need advice... I'm feeling really bad about all this, but I can't help it. It was supposed to be my special day with my ideas. =(And, yes I realize I'm not the first person to do this. The acutally idea was from a co-worker of mine. I was just unique in my family which is why I think it upset me the way it did.Also, I already said I realized I was being selfish, so for those people who say that over again like your trying to put me down or something thats a real cheap way to earn points on here.All of you are sooo awesome! All the advice and new decoration ideas is wonderful. I feel so much better now. At least in my (side of) family I will still be unique! I especially love the bubble machine idea!! |
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_tolre_qweho_
Joined: 28 Apr 2007
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Location: Stafford
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 6:18 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| dont feel bad about it because it shouldnt be your fault for copying one of your famliy memebers weedding advice |
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_loimim_jumim_
Joined: 24 Apr 2007
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Location: London
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 7:23 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| If she wants to copy you that badly, she's going to do it whether you like it or not. The best thing you can do is forget about it, and concentrate on your own wedding.You are not the first person to have a beach themed wedding, and you won't be the last. At least yours will be first! |
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_rere_tilio_
Joined: 04 Jun 2007
Posts: 31
Location: Boston
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 8:28 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| You should be glad - you are like a celebrity. I mean people copy your stuff and all. Smile and enjoy:)P.S. If they had a wedding before you I could see you getting upset, but they are getting married after you, so no worries |
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_theli_joeck_
Joined: 03 Jun 2007
Posts: 32
Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 9:32 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| She thinks you have good ideas. Anyone that knows you will understand that you planned yours first. Enjoy your wedding and don't worry about her plans. It is your special day with your ideas, it's not like they are butting in for a double wedding. |
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_rere_tilio_
Joined: 04 Jun 2007
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Location: Boston
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 10:37 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| It should be special because you're marrying the person you love, not because of the centerpieces or the favors. But, if its really all about the centerpieces and shell shaped chocolate favors, then guests will have seen yours first and admired them, making them special. The sister's wedding will be a duplicate in the eyes of guests that really have nothing more to do than compare these types of things.Good luck in life! Hope the honeymoons aren't the same, because that would just add way too much for folks to talk about! |
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_pisko_koli_
Joined: 26 Apr 2007
Posts: 50
Location: Johannesburg
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 11:42 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| Color me selfish, but I would be ticked, too. People say imitation is the highest form of flattery, but I would never, in my right mind, copy someone else's wedding, no matter how much I liked the theme, out of respect for the couple.Granted your theme is pretty popular, though, so it probably wasn't intentional. The good thing is that people have already committed to yours, so you don't have to worry about your guest list dwindling down, which would have been my biggest concern.I'm in a similar situation. My fiance's cousin (a groomsman in our wedding no less) decided to get married three weeks before us, after we set our date and put deposits down and announced it to everyone. There's a good chance they'll postpone it for a year, though, because the whole family is pretty ticked at him (we're firm believers is not scheduling weddings three months before or after someone else's who have already set their date).You'll just have to let everything cool down (it will take time) and be gracious and nothing but smiles about it. There's nothing you can do and everyone will know it was your idea first anyway. |
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_lyre_qweku_
Joined: 04 Jun 2007
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Location: Australy
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 12:47 pm Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| Your not being selfish. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have your own special day. Everyone will love your wedding and when they go to hers they will no she copied from you, but most of the people will be comparing the two weddings. So prepare yourself for that. Also I wouldn't tell her anything you are doing in the future until it is already done so she doesn't have the chance to copy you. |
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_loimim_jumim_
Joined: 24 Apr 2007
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Location: London
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 1:52 pm Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| At least they're getting married AFTER you. And since you've had more time to plan, I'm sure your wedding will be much more put-together. I'm also sure that the rest of your family will be able to tell that your fiance's cousin copied you guys, not the other way around. |
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_raty_iniqwe_
Joined: 08 Jun 2007
Posts: 37
Location: Germany
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 2:56 pm Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| You can't change how you feel. Don't scrap all the wedding plans though. Beach weddings are common enough, and so are tattoos of your loved ones name. I am sure your wedding will be lovely and personal. If they copy you, it stinks but you will just have to deal with it. Make your plans and just try and separate yourself from the other wedding. |
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_tolre_pulku_
Joined: 27 Apr 2007
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Location: Stafford
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 4:01 pm Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| Forget about what they're doing. Lots of people have beach weddings with beach themes, and you have no idea whether they came up with it independently or as a "copy." It really doesn't matter. Theirs is after yours, so why does it matter?As for the cousing tatooing the name of his fiance on his arm, why would that be a problem to you? Lots of people get their partner's name tatooed on them. Be flattered that they picked the same font.I would not change a thing about your special day. I know you feel like you have a problem here, but trust me, you really don't. |
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_tolas_asra_
Joined: 08 Jun 2007
Posts: 31
Location: Poland
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 5:06 pm Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| is it really that big of a deal??? How about we say that you copied it from another person, your not the first person to have it. lol you really make me laugh. Even if they knew your idea, you should take it as a compliment. I know I would. It is still your special day and when this other person get married it will be her special day. Chill out. Your poor husband, well soon to be husband. |
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_tolre_pulku_
Joined: 27 Apr 2007
Posts: 40
Location: Stafford
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 6:11 pm Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| All I got to say is your are selfish and need a wake up call.If you want to ruin someone's day, just because they want to copy your idea. That is childish. You should cancel. They are just copying you, it might just be because they think to world of you and your man. I think that if your family would be invited to this wedding they may say something. But since they are not, and the only people seeing their wedding would be your man's family and if they have not said anything yet, they probably won't.I hope your fiance's cousin has a wonderful wedding. |
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_raty_iniqwe_
Joined: 08 Jun 2007
Posts: 37
Location: Germany
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 7:16 pm Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| I DEF. WOULD NOT CANCEL IT JUST BECAUSE OF THAT STUPID COPY CAT. IT SOUNDS LIKE MAYBE THEY WON'T EVEN END UP GETTING MARRIED. JUST DO EVERYTHING YOU HAVE PLANNED THEN IF THEY DO GET MARRIED, EVERYONE MIGHT NOTICE THAT THEIR WEDDING IS A LOT LIKE YOURS AND THEY'LL JUST KNOW THAT THEY WERE COPY CATS. GOOD LUCK! HAVE FUN AND DON'T WORRY ABOUT THEM. STUPID COPY CATS. |
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_relio_gohe_
Joined: 04 Jun 2007
Posts: 37
Location: Germany
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 8:20 pm Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| you and a million other people are having a beach theme it's been done to death now really. maybe you should have picked a unique theme that isn't so common and then she would have looked bad for copying you ... but now people will just go "oh blah just another beach themed wedding, just like the last one and the one before" |
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