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_lyju_eckpul_
Joined: 09 Jun 2007
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Location: Los Angeles
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 Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 9:25 pm Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| At least she's getting married AFTER you. If it was before yours, then I woudl definitely be mad. Just think of it this way, your family will attend yours & be all like "wow this is cool" , but when they go to hers, they will all be like "wait a minute, she obviously copied _____(you)" . They will know & her wedding will not be as special as yours (since yours was first). Don't tell her all this, though, or she may try to re-schedule it so that her's is first, but, at least you know that people will be pleasantly surprised at how nice yours is & with her's it will be more of a "been there-done that". Also, know that copying someone is the highest form of flattery (at least my momma used to always say that *lol*) |
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_lyre_qweku_
Joined: 04 Jun 2007
Posts: 36
Location: Australy
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 10:30 pm Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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Why don't you keep your plans to yourself from now until the wedding day and throw a few curve balls her way.....if that makes any sense...... still have your beach themed wedding but change up a few details a bit...... this way when she shows up to your special day she will be all like 'oh i didn't know you were doing that' and then when she dows it at her wedding she's going to look like a total tool! i agree with the other people on here that are saying that all the guests are going to do is compare your wedding to hers and she IS going to look like a huge loser in the long run.... I know exactly how you feel. i was engaged a few years ago (that ended and i am enged again this time it is for sure....anyways.........) this girl who i thought was a friend had booked her wedding for a month after ours.....copied my color scheme and my theme (navy blue and gold......star themed wedding) copied the dresses i had piced out.....EVERYTHING.... was a replica down to a t....... need less to say i never married the guy so she had my wedding and that was that. i hope everything works out for you  |
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_raty_iniqwe_
Joined: 08 Jun 2007
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Location: Germany
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| Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 11:35 pm Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| Relax and consider yourself flattered. If you have not done so already, be sure to add some very unique and personal touches to your ceremony and reception that are meaningful for you and your fiance (like have the tables named after places special to you or your favorite beaches. And after that calm down because people are going to go to your wedding and think it is unique and beautiful. When they attend the counsin's wedding, they will think wait didn't I just see this theme? At least you are getting married first, so please don't worry about it. |
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_lyju_eckpul_
Joined: 09 Jun 2007
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Location: Los Angeles
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 12:40 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| stay with your theme... but think of other ideas to make it unique in a different way... AND KEEP IT A SECRET... and try to do things opposite... as to... color... if she's doing beach blue... do yours "blue green or ocean blue" with a touch of bright yellow...and try to find out her little details... i know it sounds sneaky but heck... you thought of it first... and stop posting your details on myspace... she's being lazy and not planning her own special day and just copying off of anyone (or you for that matter) and prolly doesn't even care about it... don't stress yourself out because she's being a copycat... keep the more personal details for yourself...P.S.rent out a bubble maker machine for the reception at the house (i betcha she hasn't thought about that)...and you can have like "ocean waves" music in the background during the reception to give that "beach" feel still... before you play out the music (1st dance, etc...)there's a lot of ways... to make it unique... and i'm sure people won't pay that much attention that it's also a beach wedding and home reception... they will notice the other unique details...and as far as family goes... spread out the news that you're having a Beach wedding, House reception (no details) kinda slip it in there that you've planned that for awhile now... and besides it's gonna be AFTER your wedding so it'll be too obvious she's copying you...Good luck... just take it as a form of flattery... |
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_rago_lies_
Joined: 08 Jun 2007
Posts: 30
Location: Washington
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 1:44 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| It's unfortunate she chose that, but you need to realize the "beach theme" or "under the sea" theme has been the predominant one for the last couple of years, probably 2/3 of weddings have had that theme. Why not just "tweak" it to make it special? Even if your cousin hadn't picked it, quite frankly people are a little tired of an ordinary "sand and shells" beach wedding. Maybe add a "Margaritaville" kind of spin to it with bright clothes and parrots, or if you want something more elegant than give it a old-fashioned beach look, maybe 1920's nautical or something. Just an idea so that you don't have to totally throw in the towel. |
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_tolas_asra_
Joined: 08 Jun 2007
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Location: Poland
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 2:49 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| Your not selfish, that sucks when someone copies your theme. So here is what you do, DO NOT TELL ANYONE the rest of the plans, keep them hush hush, and then change the recpetion to modern beach or change the reception a bit.. OR you could always change just a few things like the favors. |
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_yoko_eshe_
Joined: 10 Jun 2007
Posts: 33
Location: Los Angeles
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 3:54 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| Don't worry about it. You are getting married before her anyway. She's the one who will potentially have to deal with accusations of copying. So relax and enjoy your day. Congrats |
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_theopi_ranic_
Joined: 27 Apr 2007
Posts: 28
Location: Johannesburg
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 4:59 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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There is no way you can control someone else's actions, but you can control your own feelings and actions. You can change a few details like favors, colors, etc., but when you think about it, since you're getting married 1st, they can still copy what you do on your day.Best thing is to not to sweat the petty things (and of course don't pet the sweaty things  Your day will still be special because it's the love in the air between you and your fiance that will make it the most memorable and sweet. Try not to let anyone get to you; your wedding will always be your own.Congrats and enjoy your day ♥ & *muahs* |
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_repus_inipul_
Joined: 25 Apr 2007
Posts: 38
Location: London
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 6:04 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery - I forget who said that, but it is true! Still, when you've been planning things and someone copies you it does sting. You'll just have to get over it. Nothing you can really do. Just know inside that you did it first. Can you do something to change up your reception quick like? I don't mean change the theme but add beach blankets for people to sit on, use beach towels as decorations, add beach buckets or something fun like that? Or dress it up a little - add some potted palm trees (more desert isle than day at the beach... add some sexy little twinkle lights)?Either way - congrats and enjoy your day. |
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_yoko_eshe_
Joined: 10 Jun 2007
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Location: Los Angeles
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| Posted: Thu Aug 28, 2008 7:08 am Post subject: Wedding Advice? Family copied my theme.? |
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| This is one of those situations where you can't change anything but your attitude. Obviously your fiance's cousin thinks you have great ideas - that is a compliment to you. I suggest you take the high road - why not help her do some planning - give her some ideas for details that will differentiate her wedding from yours. Wedding planners get paid money to do this for other people - maybe you could think of this as a career opportunity. Good luck! |
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