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nkbapbt
Joined: 18 Mar 2008
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 Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 4:01 am Post subject: My partner and I have been together for 2 years(living and t |
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| Which is super exciting. I am 25 and he is almost 27. We are settled back home in New Zealand now and have great lives theres just one problem...I reallllly want to get engaged as I think it would be great especially before the baby is born but my partner doesnt. /He says he wants to spend his life with me and have more babies and loves me so much but doens't think we need to get engaged at this stage! I don't want to get married yet as I agree with him that we have enough on our plates withour planning a wedding but the extra comittment of an engagement would be terrific as I don't always like being the pregnant 'girlfriend' even though I shouldn't worry what others think.I don't want to push my partner but I am!He asked if I want to look at rings but only to keep me happy, I'd feel really bad if he did it because I made him! But I'm sure he would forget about that once we were engaged and he wouldn't regret it. What do you think? We went to a wedding yesterday and I ended up blabbing on and on about getting engaged AGAIN lastnight and he ends up giving in and asking what sort of ring I would like..?HELP |
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Nizkeetty
Joined: 15 Nov 2007
Posts: 43
Location: France
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 7:09 am Post subject: My partner and I have been together for 2 years(living and t |
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| help with what? he offered to buy you a ring. take it! |
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nj_nyc
Joined: 15 Jan 2008
Posts: 23
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 10:17 am Post subject: My partner and I have been together for 2 years(living and t |
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| dont push it hun, it will happen when the time is right. who knows, he could be planning a suprize for you? dont let a baby push your/his decision to get engaged. you'll feel worse if he ends up doing it cuz you want it, so just drop it. you both will still love each other, ring or not. |
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NizExhimi
Joined: 28 Jun 2008
Posts: 42
Location: Afghanistan
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 1:25 pm Post subject: My partner and I have been together for 2 years(living and t |
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| Is he afraid of commitment. The way I see it is that you have been together for 2 yrs, you are both getting older and you are having a baby. So if he wants to be together for the rest of your lifes then whats wrong with getting engaged. As you say, you don't have to get married straight away. Perhaps if you just leave it for a little while and maybe he will ask you out of the blue. |
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njoynlife
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
Posts: 24
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 4:33 pm Post subject: My partner and I have been together for 2 years(living and t |
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| If marriage was important to you, you should have talked about that before you decided to get pregnant. A couple absolutely must be on the same page when it comes to the issue of marriage and how important it is to them.I am someone who has chosen not to get married. My partner and I have been together for 14 years now and share two children, and personally I have all the commitment I will ever need from him, as we demonstrate our love and loyalty and respect through our everyday actions, not just proving on one day where we have a ceremony and sign a piece of paper. It's what works for us. At some point you have to ask yourself whether you'd feel good about yourself and your relationship knowing that you bullied him into it and he just caved in to your incessant begging. And, if marriage is so high on your agenda and he doesn't give in, are you going to leave him or stick around and keep feeling miserable about it? How would this impact your child? Good luck. |
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