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ProudNavyWife
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 Posted: Thu Sep 04, 2008 10:45 pm Post subject: Confusing text response from ex girlfriend...? |
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| I broke up with my long term girlfriend almost 3 months ago. We were deeply in love and cared for each other very much. Unfortunately my girlfriend had a lot of trust issues, baggage and confidence problems stemming from her past. She was cheated on by her lesbian girlfriend whom she loved...who cheated on her with a man...and then two timed by another girlfriend she really liked...and then she was also disowned for a while by her parents when she came out. So as a result, she is quite messed up. She always loved me and was kind...but when we got deep..she started to get insecure..and her fears of being rejected crept in. She started lying to me and exaggerating her sex past. She started off lying about her sex past with men..to apparently relate to me ( I am bi)..which she later admitted was stupid. And then she started upping her sexual partner number and things she did with past partners to sound adventurous and experienced 'in case I may lose interest in her once our honeymoon period was over'besides being confused and angry, i was also baffled why she would lie about her past after 2 years of being together. Why she would need to make her past sex life sound good..when our sex life already was good.to her, she said it was too good to be true. So maybe she thought it would crumble, like everything good had- in her past.Anyway, unfortunately i started not trusting her, questioned everything..she grew tired even though she knew it was her fault for lying! we both started fighting too much...because trust was broken. But i still loved her. She lost energy...as did I. But she started having mild depression...feeling guilty ..not understanding her behaviour...losing interest and energy in us. Many times I told her good bye.But she cried and almost begged and i took her back..thinking i could believe in her again.Anyway, 3 months ago she said she wanted out. Felt it was not working. The argument took its toll...and she fell out of love. BUT still loved and cared for me.She also said she hopes we can 'become good friends soon as we shared a lot and were best friends and close". I saw this as very dodgy! and a nice let down. But she also added that we need to become friends again she hopes...and see where that takes us. And if it leads somewhere..then she is open to it. But can't promise anything.i requested distance and she agreed we both went overseas on our own trips recently...and we communicated briefly on email (friendly).today I sent her a text saying "I regret I lost the only person I ever really cared about. And the one person I had unconditional love for that surpassed everything"she replied 4 minutes later with the text "You haven't lost me".what?does she mean i haven't lost her as a friend? or what?i would not say that to an ex, unless i missed them or something. I have not replied yet |
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ProudM6943
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Sep 04, 2008 11:45 pm Post subject: Confusing text response from ex girlfriend...? |
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| Sounds like to me she wants you back, but her insecurities and self issues are going to hold you both back. If you want to pursue a relationship with her, she needs to get herself straight first. She doesn't love herself, which is why she lied to you, tried to make you jealous, etc. You can't love others until you love yourself unconditionally first. |
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Proudtobe511806
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2008 12:45 am Post subject: Confusing text response from ex girlfriend...? |
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| only u can really answer that. i have no clue cuz everyone is different.best thing to do is ask her ur self. face to face. |
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ProudM7924
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2008 1:45 am Post subject: Confusing text response from ex girlfriend...? |
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| i see a lot has gone on between you bothand that has to be THE longest yahoo question i've ever read.anyway um well she has said to you 'see where that takes us' and also that shes open to the idea of you two getting back together.ya know love doesn't just come and go when people break up from a long term relationship.love isn't a short term thing it's an everlasting feeling that is so hard to be rid of when something bad happensit's clear she sint going to let go of her love for you and she's basically stating to you that you have'nt lost her because she still loves you.if you really wanna no what she ment by that just text her back asking.yahoo answers can only give you a limited reference of what to do because were not that person and we don't know exactly how there saying it.but what i have said is how i potray your situation so i hope it helps x |
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proscissionssalon
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2008 2:45 am Post subject: Confusing text response from ex girlfriend...? |
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| She might still miss you in that way, and she might be trying to keep a friendship with someone she cares about. I know this sounds weird but ask her what she means as friends or more. =) |
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Proudtobe511806
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2008 3:45 am Post subject: Confusing text response from ex girlfriend...? |
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| Sounds like you both still love and care deeply for one another. Maybe this "break" is healthy for you both? Sometimes taking a step back gives you time to think things through. Take it slow, and best of luck to you both! |
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ProudM
Joined: 26 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Fri Sep 05, 2008 4:45 am Post subject: Confusing text response from ex girlfriend...? |
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| you know that she wants you back but if you like all that drama again go back ,I don't do it ,I let the time erase the moment ,because people don't change to fast |
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