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Val
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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 Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 3:14 am Post subject: His first, my second~? |
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| It is my fiance's first time getting married and it is my second time.My fiance wants a huge wedding and I on the other hand want a small beach wedding. What should I do?I want to a wear a simple flowy dress, but he wants me to wear an expensive weddign gown. Any suggestions?I want my children to be part of the ceremony and taht's about it, but he wants to have bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, ring bearer.....he wants it all!! Help me please!!!! |
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Valentanchur
Joined: 10 Jun 2008
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Location: Denmark
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 4:10 am Post subject: His first, my second~? |
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| Although the wedding day seems to usually be about the bride's choices, since you've been married already, I would lean towards trying to compromise with him and incorporate many of his ideas into the wedding. It's his first wedding and you shouldn't begrudge him everything. And in the meantime you get to practice your compromising skills. |
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Valentina
Joined: 09 Jul 2008
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Location: Россия
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 5:05 am Post subject: His first, my second~? |
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| Compromise! It's his FIRST and last time to get married! Tell him he can have a bigger wedding party,but you pick your dress.Or put your kids in wedding party spots( where they work best of course) Have a mid size beach wedding. Or have a traditional wedding and go to the beach for a honey moon. Switch spots a moment. How would you feel if you wanted what he does now ,but he didn't? |
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Valentina
Joined: 09 Jul 2008
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Location: Россия
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 6:00 am Post subject: His first, my second~? |
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| Since you have already had the wedding of your choice before i think you should make some compromises. He hasn't gotten to have what you have yet, so really i think you should be the one to give on this one. |
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valB
Joined: 02 Jun 2008
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 6:56 am Post subject: His first, my second~? |
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| Let him have it his way, you already had your big day once, let him have his, just make sure you include your children and it'll be all good .Best wishes and God bless . |
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Valerie7850
Joined: 18 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 7:51 am Post subject: His first, my second~? |
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| you both need to make compromises. for example you don't want to wear a big gown and i don't blame you at all. he wants a full bridal party. so why not say ok to a bridal party for his sake and in return you get to wear the dress of your choice. if you show him a couple of dresses you like then he will probably relax about it all! we got married on the beach, i wore an empire waist style in cream and soft pink soft fabric that seemed to float as i moved. it looked bride-ish enough to satisfy my mum and that was hard to do! lol my point is you can find beautiful dresses that should make you both happy! then you can dress your attendants in a style to co-ordinate with you! as for your kids - why couldn't they be the flower girl, ring bearer, junior bridesmaid - and then have adults as your m.o.h. and his best man? that would be a good compromise! whatever you choose to do happy wedding! |
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valB
Joined: 02 Jun 2008
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 8:47 am Post subject: His first, my second~? |
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| Think about it, this is his first wedding, and hopefully his last. You've already had it all, so why not strike a compromise? This is his day too.You can have all that on a beach, and you get to choose your gown, so go from there. You can always negotiate the number of attendants so that it doesn't get out-of-hand. |
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Valentanchur
Joined: 10 Jun 2008
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Location: Denmark
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 9:42 am Post subject: His first, my second~? |
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| You just have to explain to him and have him compromise with you. Plan a small, simple wedding which is beautiful, but not lots of hoopla. You wearing a lovely pretty dress (not a big wedding gown), him in a suit or tux, maybe one attendant each - ceremony and nice dinner for family and close friends.Good luck and congrats! |
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