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Frehyton
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 Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 2:34 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| Ok so my boyfriend and I have been dating for 11 months now... we dated for a year previous to this (that time we ended because of different things going in our lives) He brings up these following things on several ocassions:We should move in together, we should get married through justice of the peace (make it fast and easy), what would we name our daughter cause if we ever have a son he will be named after me, what type of wedding we could have and what attire he would be wearing. People say he is getting ready to pop the question but then he comes up with im not ready to get married yet, so I am confused. I in no way am pressuring him to this, I dont talk about marriage unless he brings it up (its not that i dont want it, because I do but I dont want him to think I am pressuring him or anything like that) Mind you I am in my mid 20's and he is in his late 20's. In your honest opinion do you think he is thinking about wanting to ask me? Do you think it will come any time soon?Please dont say if you dont know how should we. I am asking for an opinion... pretend that im like one of your friends and this is happening to her, what would you tell her?Never u... that was uncalled for and just to let you know, we did have a false alarm once, thats why he wanted to get married through JP. He wants children, I do but just not now. |
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Freemanxt
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 2:42 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| Tis the season for popping that big question... |
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Fregilloam
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 2:49 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| i would say yes he is going to pop the question,but may be getting cold feet... |
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Freemanxt
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 2:57 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| Okay - my honest opinion is that it sounds like he is. Otherwise he wouldnt be asking those questions or talking about those things. You may find he is planning it and is just checking whether you would say yes or not! Guys find it hard to ask the big question. They get really nervous and scared. (not that they admit it!)It sounds like you are ready too!I wish you both all the best...... |
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Fregilloam
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 3:05 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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Sounds like he's at least thinking of it. But don't let him talk you into a quickie justice of the peace marriage if you want a traditional one. I find that guys around age 30 all of a sudden want to get married, and he's approaching that age. I don't know if it will come soon, but I think it will come.  |
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FreeTpilersz
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 3:12 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| i think that he really wants to get married, but he is afraid of your rejection. or he is afraid that he will not be able to make you happy. if you are sure that there is no pressure around him for marriage, very very sure, than it definately means that he wants to get married and he hesitates to tell. i don't know, how do you react when he says that? maybe you give the impression that, it's indifferent to you, or that it's ok, just ok. men really want to be sure that they are able to make the wife, the kids happy. and now, he would love to see that you are as excited of this as he is. and if you say that you talk about this only when he brings it up, then he might not feel sure of what you want? he clearly wants to get married, don't be afraid to show that you really want this too. if you really want |
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FreeTpilersz
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 3:20 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| I think maybe he just want to check how do you feel if he propose before he can actually propose to you. Maybe he don't want to feel rejection so he have to asking questions first. |
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FreeTpilersz
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 3:27 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| move on without this punk. He is a control freak and just jerking you around for the sex. He figures as long as he brings up marriage once in a while you get up off that puss*y.He also is the one bringing it up not you,and whenever he feels like "playing house" and "acting " like a grown up he'll talk about a fictitious wedding, with made up kids names etc........test him..........when the opportunity arrives, tell him you might be pregnant.See how he reacts to the sudden slap in the face of reality. If he acts like an idiot, then you know what kind of loser he is going to be for the rest of his life. If he reacts in love and with honor for you then you know that too, after you find out then you can tell him it was a false alarm.My guess is he will be a jerk. |
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Freemanxt
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 3:35 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| I guess my answer would depend on how big a priority marriage is for you. Some people never marry yet spend years together and consider it the same thing.You've spent enough time together that he should know what he wants by now in life & be able to decide. I popped the question when I knew for sure there would be a yes answer. Is he doubtful of how you would act due to your acting like it's not a priority?Probably the biggest question I have to ask you is are you both in love?Most people I know who are divorced today never were in love but at the time it seemed like a good idea.Most couples I know who are still together seem to have been each others best friend early in the relationship.Can this man be your best friend?If not it could be why he's hesitant?I know some of this may seem off topic but it's how I gauge weather or not it's a match that will last.If you've sat down together and planned about a future together the next time it comes up in conversation I suggest you lay it on the line & let him know how you truly feel.You seem wanting commitment but feel unsure it will ever be offered. You have to know intent. One month, one year, five years. How long will you wait? How long will he make you?You seem unhappy asking this & I wish you my best. |
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Freemanxt
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 3:42 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| Well, it's hard to know. One thing is sure - by his taking his time to really get to know you is a great sign.He wants to be sure this is going to be a perfect match. That is a great guy you have there. He is helping you by taking marriage seriously and not rushing into it just because it's been X amount of time. More people should think about marriage in this way. Less divorce.P.S. I think he will ask you. Just concentrate on being happy and confident. That's what men like AND it's the BEST thing for you!!!!I know because I was waiting and waiting for my BF to ask me. He could have asked me 2 days after I started dating him and I would have said yes! I knew he was the "one".He took the time that he needed to feel comfortable before he asked me to marry him. He asked me on the annivirsary of our 1st date.Your BF may be waiting for a special date! Or he needs to come up with the money for a ring, or he could be really worried you will say no! Men these days sometimes prefer to know what kind of ring you want. They feel intimidated in the ring store that they will choose the wrong one and you won't like it. $$$$$ Figure out what kind of cut you like, if you want white gold or regular... all that. good luck |
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Freemanxt
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 3:50 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| My opinion is that he is testing the waters. He does not want to be rejected so as soon as you start being the one that also talks about marriage, he'll definitely POP THE QUESTION! |
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Freemanxt
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 3:58 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| In order to destroy a great relationship, get married. |
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Freemanxt
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 4:05 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| Honestly, no. He may just be 'talking the talk' because it keeps you around.You need two years of serious dating (the previous time doesn't count) to make sure your heads are on straight. |
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Freemanxt
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 4:13 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| truthfully if he asks say im not ready u should maybe go out and move in and see if us get along and can live together then in two years or a year or whenever u feel comfortable if he asks again say what ur heart wants |
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Freemanxt
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 4:20 pm Post subject: Your honest opinion please...? |
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| He's just "dipping his toes in" to see if the waters cold...He wants to know if he asks you that you'll say yes.If you don't want to marry him (just in case you don't 100% want to marry him...I am just saying if thats the case) now is a good time to end it...Otherwise...just enjoy your boyfriend/girlfriend phase and don't think about when or where, because you'll drive yourself nuts, and maybe feel disappointed if it doesn't happen right awayMy boyfriend (fiance) and I always talked about being together (like after dating for a week...) and we got engaged after four years of serious dating....(so you can see how obsessing could drive you nuts...for four years!)let it happen on its own...AJ |
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