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Honeybee
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 Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 6:54 pm Post subject: I'm not embarrased of him... just.. nervous about introducin |
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| extended family. I'm Black and live in the South. He's from Africa. Sounds perfect right? Wrong. Though he's from Africa-- he's White!My extended family isn't very accepting of interracial relationships. If we do get serious (which he sounds more and more serious everyday) we'll be living a short distance from one of them. How do you suggest I tell them about him? introduce him to them? My mom is fine with him. I'm just nervous about my extended family grillin' him. An aunt told off her son's Japanese/ Mexican girlfriend to her face. My uncle is married to a White woman. They live less than a mile from my grandmother, but they never see each other.I'd love to have my extended as part of our lives and in any wedding we'd have...Help! |
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DrMelissa
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 7:51 pm Post subject: I'm not embarrased of him... just.. nervous about introducin |
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| At the end of the day it is your relationship. You just introduce him with pride. If they dont accept him, that is their problem. You have to be happy and live your life for you. What is important is that your mom is fine with him. Your extended family has to accept you for who you are and who you choose to date. Good luck! |
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txlady23
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 8:49 pm Post subject: I'm not embarrased of him... just.. nervous about introducin |
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| are we related?? naw, im joking. you are you going to up front abt it. its 2007, times are changing. if he is the "right" guy for you, and your parents approve, then you have nothing to worry abt. if he is making you happy and he is doing what he is supposed be doing (good head on his shoulders), they cant do nothing abt it. too bad people are still closed minded like that. my boyfriend is latino, and my extended family didnt like him. my parents told me if hes the right guy for you and what not, then dont worry abt it. do something that makes you happy. |
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JustBeNme
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 9:47 pm Post subject: I'm not embarrased of him... just.. nervous about introducin |
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| DAMN girl! You got yourself a problem. I was laughin' my biracial (lol) butt off when I saw the "white man from Africa" part. This is how I would tell my family. Over the phone first You should say: Mama/Daddy, I met a really nice guy, he's from Africa, and we're dating. Now; when I introduce him to you, please show him some respect. Even though he's from Africa, he is White. When we met, I didn't see color, and I like/love him so much. Please show me and him respect. WE already have other people judging us and don't need my family to join them. That's what I would say if in your position. |
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annonymous
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 10:44 pm Post subject: I'm not embarrased of him... just.. nervous about introducin |
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| Tell them that he's white before they meet him. Or better yet have your mother tell them. Just as an FYI. Then cross your fingers. I've been in a similar sitiuation and I got a great big hug from my then girlfriend's grandfather. |
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mande95747
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:42 pm Post subject: I'm not embarrased of him... just.. nervous about introducin |
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| I'd just like to point out that if a white family behaved like this, they'd be universally called racist.And that's what it is!You have to make up your own mind if the relationship is worth the trouble you're going to go through.Maybe it is, maybe it isn't, but don't fall into the trap that my sister did, when she married a black man.She was on such a soapbox about shoving everyone's racism in their face (my family was fine with it, by the way, and this was 1974!).What she realized much later was, she was so defensive, and getting so much out of being a racial crusader, that she didn't really notice that they were not made for each other.The relationship didn't last long.It's something to think about. Just because they're wrong about the race issue, doesn't mean he's automatically the right guy, so be careful not to fall into that trap. |
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