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OffLiCute
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 Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 11:20 am Post subject: New house depression...? |
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| My fiance and I are having a house built, and sometimes it feels like the stress is ruining our relationship. Are these "new house" jitters normal?It's just so hard, and there are so many decisions to be made... and between the house and the wedding plans, we are fighting almost every day.What can I do?We are already building the house...It's a done-deal |
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david9d20000
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 11:30 am Post subject: New house depression...? |
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| it's all normal...just hope you're house trained by wedding day. |
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jonesy
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 11:40 am Post subject: New house depression...? |
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| Stress will do this. You should take a day off from talking aobut your wedding and the new home. Take a day with your man, go for a drive along the coast, or mountainside and go out for a nice romantic lunch or dinner, or even picnic. Just remember why the 2 of you fell in love and why you've made these monumental comittments to each other. Take a day off from the stress to focus on your love and friendship. |
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Rasputin
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 11:51 am Post subject: New house depression...? |
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| Ride it out - this is normal. Building a house is a stressful and aggravating experience. It will be worth it in the end though. Just try and make sure the two of you end the day on a positive note, and find a way to make up for any fights. |
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Dreamer0276
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 12:01 pm Post subject: New house depression...? |
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| It really does sound like you have bitten off more than a normal girl can chew at one time. Building a house is 2nd only to planning a wedding on the stress meter. Would you consider a small intimate wedding in order to save: $, time, stress & your relationship? That is my advice. |
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JennCraig
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 12:11 pm Post subject: New house depression...? |
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| It's normal... my husband and I went through that and it was really bad while we were moving in too! Ugh, I don't even want to remember the days, LOL! It'll be ok!Good luck and best of wishes in your new marriage! |
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LorettaM
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 12:22 pm Post subject: New house depression...? |
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| Some one told me a few years ago that with a new house comes, a divorce or a baby. It may pay to think that neither the house or the weeding are that important, so you may choose to put them both were they belong, third place, first comes the love you feel for each other, solution have a quite weeding, and stop making the house a priority, it is only four walls |
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truthseeker
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sun Nov 25, 2007 12:32 pm Post subject: New house depression...? |
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| Let me tell you what we did. We first moved into a nice apt (after wedding). There is enough stress with just the wedding We went on a nice honeymoon and then stayed in the apt for a couple of years and then moved into house. We had the money ( as both of us saved up before marriage) but we felt that money spend on nice honeymoon and few nice trips ( mexico, cuba, africa,india..ec.) is better then jumping into a house. What I suggest to you ( just a suggesting). Consider delaying the house stuff and focus on wedding and each other. House will always be there but you wedding will not.if house is done deal then you need to really work together and maybe have to dedicate one for the house and other for the wedding the make the best of it. Having both at same time is a lot of stress at once. I would also consider hiring outside help to off load ( ie=, hired help, maid ..etc.) |
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