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LikeItIs
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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 Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 10:47 am Post subject: Question for happily married couples? |
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| Do you have any general advice for a young women about to get married? I've found the perfect guy for me. We've been dating for a couple years, and we're getting married next summer. We adore each other, and we're best friends, and we have all the qualities we each want in the other person, etc- it's awesome. Also...I'm a virgin, and I plan on being very good to him sexually...but he's NOT a virgin (2 ex's, from committed relationships...) but I'm over it, although I'm wondering what the wedding night/honeymoon will be like as far as stirring up any emotions in a bad way- so actually, if you have any advice specifically related to this, it would help a lot....Other than that, everything is wonderful and I'm confident we'll have a great life together. We love each other so much, so deeply and treat each other so well. But, I would still like to get advice from any older couples!! Thanks a lot!I'm 21, he's 27. I'm graduating before we get married, and yes, I am very happy on my own without relying on him for happiness, and I'm doing what I want in life - I'm actually a musician, we both are- so our goals intersect a lot, and we both support each other's life goals, and we're lucky not to need to sacrifice those things for our relationship- the 2 actually deepen each other in a really beautiful way. Also, we have talked about sex thing a LOT already, and we communicate really well, so the main thing is just like...when it actually comes time to do it, is it going to hurt emotionally to share something wonderful together, but then realize it's not the same for him because he's experienced that before? I know it will still be special since it's with me, etc.... anyways thanks so much for taking the time to answer. |
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effortneuct
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
Posts: 1
Location: Mexico
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 10:53 am Post subject: Question for happily married couples? |
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| my grandpa told me take ear plugs and nose plugs. he learned that when he was 75 and married a 25 year old gold digger. said the 2 worst things in the world is the sound of a screamin virgin woman being deflowered and the smell of burning rubber |
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cherninnony
Joined: 17 Oct 2007
Posts: 6
Location: Netherlands Antilles
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 10:59 am Post subject: Question for happily married couples? |
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| I'm not married, but I have been in a long term relationship for about 3 years, and me and my partner started having sex after about 3 months of dating, we were both virgins.The main advice I have to give to you is that you need to talk to him BEFORE you are married (well before!) and get ALL the issues you have about sex out in the open and deal with them before you actually have sex. It sounds like you will be fine, you just need to always be completely honest with each other, you need to talk about what you both expect from sex, and about anything else related to it.My father gave me these words to live by, I hope you pay attention to them: Honesty is the best policy! |
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hoozyPydayl
Joined: 17 May 2007
Posts: 5
Location: Belgium
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:05 am Post subject: Question for happily married couples? |
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| You'd better hope that you are sexually compatible. |
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hitchnj8671
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:11 am Post subject: Question for happily married couples? |
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| Do you mind asking how old you are?I hope you are not planning on being a housewife and just a wife because life is much more than that. Did you finish school? Did you find your dream job? Did you achieve what you wanted when you were single? Just don't depend on him or don't expect him to make you happy because the only person that can make you happy is you. A lot of people make that mistake thinking that a marriage will make life beautiful and perfect.Don't worry about him not being a virgin. Believe me, you don't want to have a guy who doesn't know what to do. You would have a horrible first time. :)Is there any reason why you are waiting until you get married to have sex? Unless it's due to religious believes, you should try out before. Maybe you are absolutely incompatible in bed.So it is better to find out before you get married.On the other hand, congratulations!By the way, you said that you are planning on being very good for him sexually but what if you guys discovered after the wedding that he wants and expects to have sex three times a day and you prefer once in two weeks? People have often different sex drives, so you'd better discuss this before you get married. My advice for everything is learn how to compromise. Marriage has to have a balance in all aspects. If you are not able to find that balance, you will fail.Also I would suggest to move in before you get married because living together with a different person, especially of a different gender, can be quite a shocker. Did you also discuss the budget, finances, future? Did you discuss how many kids you each would like to have? Where would you live? Did you meet his parents? Do you both get along with your future in-laws? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? Who is going to do laundry, wash dishes, other housework, pay bills? You need to talk about all these things before you say "I do". |
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difenbaxi
Joined: 12 Nov 2007
Posts: 5
Location: Canada
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:17 am Post subject: Question for happily married couples? |
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| he had two ex's because he had weaknesses. if you are smart enough you will know these weaknesses and you have to change it in a nice way. because we as men do not see our weaknesses.if you satisfy him when it comes to sex anytime he want=he will be your slave. so make use of your body to have a happy life. face the truth men feel happy when they have enough sexa woman feels happy when they find a generous man |
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laurahingbsd
Joined: 09 May 2007
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:23 am Post subject: Question for happily married couples? |
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| Cool. Wishes to you and your guy.I love the way you expressed your love to your man. For sure you will be together for ever.Cool. Look, the difference comes only when you feel that he is not part of you. Try to handle the day to day isues together. Sharing is the prime. Than all, be a girl and make him feel a boy always and in all means. Hope you understand. Cool.Another important thing in life - MONEY. Plan & Budget. I have seen many people get openion differences in money matters and that too when they spend more than what they earn.Have a nice and a happy married life. |
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ComradeHarley
Joined: 07 Jul 2007
Posts: 6
Location: usa
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:29 am Post subject: Question for happily married couples? |
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| Give and take, happily married but we give and take in all aspects of our marriage, it does take effort but well worth it. |
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janis616
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:35 am Post subject: Question for happily married couples? |
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| First:Congratulations on being a virgin till marriage!! It's an incredible thing that your husband will enjoy and appreciate. Sex is a gift from God - and you are following His plan for it.Second:It's going to be hard to get over your soon to be hubby's past relationships - but try not to dwell on them. God offers forgiveness and a renewing. Love your husband and treasure his respect, commitment and love for you. Third:A few "tips" that I received when I was about to marry my love :)Don't let a night fall with hard feelings.Don't go to others with your problems - work them out together.Speak respectfully to each otherLOVE GOD. Marriage is wonderful. I've been married for 6 months and have never experience something so wonderful!! My husband - our life - our marriage - together. |
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EmenseHimmele
Joined: 29 Oct 2007
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Location: TN
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:41 am Post subject: Question for happily married couples? |
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| well I've been happily married for over 11 years now. I know what your saying about it being "awesome". I have the perfect man for me, we're compatible in everyway, he is my best friend. As for your concerns about the sex issue. Well since your over it my advice is this:The sex he has had in the past has nothing to do with the sex the two of you have with each other. If he is willing to wait for you to be ready then trust me when I say he will not be thinking of his past partners. He will be thinking of only you. since it is obviously not the only thing he's interested in. My husband was a virgin when we first got together. I was not. in fact I had a 17 month old daughter. We didn't wait until we married to have sex. I had a few sex partners one relationship where I was in love. (not the father, he was/is a jerk) Not one of them could even hold a candle to the feelings I had for my husband. If your certain he is the one then none of that stuff should matter. Your relationship is about and for the two of you. Not you, him and the past women. Good lucky with it. have a long happy life together. |
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jingledelz2578
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:47 am Post subject: Question for happily married couples? |
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| congratulations you and he sound like you are well matched and in a loving and openly communicative relationship. Keep that up and you'll be growing old together happily in love.with the wedding night, sex can be a emotional experience especially for women. Men know this, and are understanding and very caring.It will not drag up any negative emotions, and will not have him thinking of anyone but you.YOU are the love of his life. YOU are the one he dreams about. YOU are the only woman he will ever want to touch. It's all YOU. just as it's all him for you.allow yourself to acknowlege that you are all he will ever desire, and your sexual confidence will grow and grow. |
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frausaimabs
Joined: 21 Nov 2007
Posts: 4
Location: Belarus
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:53 am Post subject: Question for happily married couples? |
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| The first time might hurt. Lubrication is important. Tell him to take his time.Dont be shy to tell him what makes you happy. Good luck girl. |
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Flirtini
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 11:59 am Post subject: Question for happily married couples? |
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| No one can answer your question unless they lie. There are know happily married couples. Just open your eyes and look around!!! Just go to the mall and look around. WAKE UP!!! Here are some secrets you obviously haven't learned yet:1. There is no Santa Claus2. Life is not fair3. Marriage sucks4. All men cheatGood luck and Happy Holidays!!! Email me if you have any questions from a man that doesn't lie anymore but be careful I will be brutally honest. |
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