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btb41809
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 Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 12:06 am Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| i called a hall for our reception and they are not garenteeing(i know spelling is not right) that they will have the hall for april 18, 2009 and they said that they only take people 90 days before their reception..because its up for sale! and well my problem is my fiance's parents are paying for the hall and they want to wait to get that hall(because its cheaper)..but what am i going to do if its sold..i really don't think i can find a place in 90days that is decent? should we just pay for it ourselves? or should we just wait and see? i know people are going to say just pay yourselves because you shouldn't put the money or whatever on other people because its our wedding..its not that we can't afford it...its what they offered...and i'm not gonna not take an offer..but should i wait? or should i just reserve the hall for $300 more?the hall is only 750 (that is closing) and they said they would give us a 1000...and the other hall is 1050..so idk if they will but my fiance said that he is going to talk to his mom tonight so thanks for all the advise! |
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Dizzy_Lizzy7667
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 1:14 am Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| Are his parents willing to give you the amount they would have spent and then you cover the difference for another place? There’s no way I’d give a dime to anyone knowing they might not be around for my event. That’s a silly risk to take. |
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fizzystuff0907
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 2:22 am Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| I think you should pay for it yourselves are secure your location. Having a location might be the most important thing of the whole day, you shouldnt leave it to chance. Much better to spend the money to have peace of mind. Its only 300 bucks. |
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ThanksgivingBride
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 3:29 am Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| I would talk to the parents and explain the situation for the hall being up for sale. I would recommend in this economy that you then look for another place that is comparable in price and do that instead. Even putting more money into that hall may be risky. |
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Mrs1018088068
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 4:37 am Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| Sounds like drama and stress, and trust me, you'll have enough of that going around! I would save yourself the worry, tell the parents "thank you", but find another place that you won't have to stress about! Talk to the parents, maybe they will contribute that same amount of money towards another venue, and you can cover the extra cost?Good luck! |
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speranzacampbell5043
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 5:45 am Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| Explain what you told us to the future in-laws and see what they say. Also check around for another place. |
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dwstargzr
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 6:53 am Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| You should reserve a dif hall at you and your fiance's expense. Otherwise sit his parents down and tell them what the hall told you. If they choose to still put the money on it, then let them.. but I think you should also put a deposit down on somewhere else.. or at least be looking. It would be super difficult if it ended up not working out and you had no plan B. You could also always propose to them the idea of helping out with something else (ie: photography, ceremony site, etc). That way they can help, but don't put you in a sticky situation. The last thing you need while planning is added stress. Best of luck! |
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083108Bridetobe
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 8:00 am Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| Slow down. Your wedding is in a year. You have a while to plan it. Don't take silly risk. Find a new hall, and if your fiance family is paying for it, then what is the problem. Find a better hall. |
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apbanpos9743
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 9:08 am Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| Tell your in-laws that the situation with the hall is just too stressful for the two of you to handle, that you AND their son appreciate the offer, but that you AND their son must go with a hall that can be guaranteed. And although a year is a long time, depending on you your location, you may need to book that far in advance.Then give them the option of putting towards a different hall, or choosing something else that they would like to pay for - perhaps they may want to then say that they will pay for the flowers or photographs or something else.But you future Hubby should handle most of the diplomacy. And they should be clear that this something YOU are doing.And you are smart to not go with this hall. |
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Kit0637
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 10:16 am Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| I would reserve a second room, and not say anything to anyone about it. You will probably be required to put down a deposit but consider it peace of mind payment (well worth it). Make sure that you know what the cancellation policy is. If the other comes available great... but if not, you have a backup and they will pay the higher price anyways. |
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Future_Mrs_G
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 11:23 am Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| I would go with the one that is guaranteed. It is not worth the hassle of waiting around to see if the cheaper one will still be there by the time your wedding comes around. I know it's more expensive, but at least you will have peace of mind of where your reception will be. Best wishes! |
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MonaG
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 12:31 pm Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| That hall is out of the question. Find another hall and tell your fiance's parents that there's no possible way you want to rent a hall that might be pulled out from under you. Tell them that you prefer to keep your arrangements secure, and that you'll help them find a hall that's as reasonable as that one. Think about how horrible that would be if it sold a week prior to your wedding? You REALLY have to say no, here, as people will take your money for absolutely any reason, and they don't necessarily care if it works for you or not, if its sensible or not or if they can guarantee it or not, they'll have the money all that time. IF they sell it, there's also the possiblity that you will be OUT the money and the new owners will not live up to their end of the bargain. There's way too much uncertainty there. If your inlaws are not willing to deal with that, AFTER you have talked to them (get used to it, you'll have more things to talk to them about years later, its best to learn to do it now) then you have no choice but to either get your parents to pay for the hall or you do it yourself. Good luck! |
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Andi6156
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 1:39 pm Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| try finding a other Recepiton hall there are lots of other places that go for the price that you are paying. i know of a place that would be great. it is in centerport. it is called thatched cottage. try them see if they could do your wedding. it is very decent. very classy. & clean. it will be a great Day. Just try thatched cottage! Congrants on your big day! |
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maigen_obx9379
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 2:46 pm Post subject: reception hall crisis!? |
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| Just pay the difference and reserve the one that will guarantee. You don't want to be stuck that close to your wedding. |
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