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237kk
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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 Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 5:53 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Yes but it's your day.. you can be.. I just hope the invitations don't get thrown in the trash and you're without guest. Be nice.. it's all about you but your guest will be there to enjoy themselves too.. don't make them feel sorry for attending. |
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17RearpMapWal
Joined: 12 May 2008
Posts: 10
Location: Nepal
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 6:14 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| ok i agree that no one else should be wearing white on your wedding day and i salute you for being bold enough to say NO!!!! Serving the food so late is not a good idea because everyone will be very hungry and if there is a lot of drink going people will be drunk before the food.I also think it is wrong to say if your late you wont get in that is rude, Things can go wrong for people and if they end up in a traffic jam or an accident or whatever they will make a trip for nothing. It is not a good thing for a hostess to be so strict and rude.Yes its your wedding and you should be allowed to enjoy it. Stay true to yourself and ask that no one else wear white. Be polite and with word of mouth let people know that you will not be happy with people being late. Word of mouth will go down better than written on paper. |
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22sophiepsy
Joined: 06 Jun 2008
Posts: 17
Location: Somalia
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 6:36 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Frak yeah you are. You sound like a bridezilla. Yes that is very rude. Don't serve the food that late, I went to a wedding where we ate late and everyone hated it. Who cares if someone else has white on? You're the bride and it's not like they'd be wearing a wedding gown. Why are you closing the doors to your reception? I can see closing them to the wedding, I wouldn't want people walking in and making a scene.If it were me, I would not go and I probably wouldn't want to be your friend.Yeah you are being that rude. Obviously since you got this big of a response. If your family is like that, tell them in person or don't invite them. How old are you? 15? Get over yourself. |
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19gaumbella
Joined: 03 Apr 2008
Posts: 12
Location: Namibia
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 6:57 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| In a word, yes.If you choose to close the doors at six then that's your business, but it would be better to have your officiant announce that the reception will begin promptly at five-thirty (or whatever) and that no entry will be permitted after six.If someone shows up wearing white, then they will get attention, but not positive attention - trust me, they will be talked badly about if they do, but YOU will be the one discussed negatively if you throw them out.You really have no right to tell people how long they must stay. If you don't serve food until late, you run the risk of people leaving BEFORE the meal because they're starving (if they've shown up for your 4 p.m. ceremony they likely have gone several hours since lunch anyway) and then you will have tons of food go to waste. A gracious hostess is fine when guests wish to leave."I want the attention to be on me" - sounds like a bridezilla in the making - be careful or you won't have to worry about all the attention being on you, but it might not be the attention you want. Are you sure you want to be the subject of stories that begin, "Oh my God, you would not believe the bride at the wedding I went to last year..."? |
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22sophiepsy
Joined: 06 Jun 2008
Posts: 17
Location: Somalia
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 7:19 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| dont you? think you are rude? when i have to go to traffic school the doors close and no one comes in afterward. thats traffic school with an armed police guard. is that the kind of image you want of your reception? and keeping your guests hungry is no way to be gracious. if you put those things on your invites no one will come anyway, and will think you seriously have a screw loose to write those things. go to the bookstore and pick up an etiquette book and use the examples of gracious invitation examples there. if you treat your guests like little kids who cant be trusted to come to your wedding and behave themselves, you wont have anyone at your wedding. it is insulting to your guests. i think maybe you are kidding about this. i hope so. haha.dirty dancing on the dance floor, sounds like you come from a fun group! haha |
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237kk
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
Posts: 39
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 7:40 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Um it will still be your day even if other people wear white, and if someone walks in while ya'll are making vows, everyone still will be sobbing and watching you, they won't be like, "Oh! There's a late person, look at them."Also I haven't heard of leaving right after the cake is cut, I think everyone wants to stay and party and celebrate! If everyone is friends and family, they will make sure the day is ALL about you!It is a bit rude, you don't need all those regulations to make it be a special day! You will have a bad day worrying all about who's late, when you will cut the cake, and who all is wearing white.Be chill, no worries! |
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21Tetesessfrona
Joined: 29 May 2008
Posts: 17
Location: Brazil
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 8:02 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| i understand that this is your day but it wont be much of a day at all without any guests and that is the way you are headed. honestly you are going to be so busy during the reception that you wont even notice people leaving after the cake is cut. just relax, breathe and enjoy your wedding. there are certain situations where you get to say its my day and this is how i want it. ordering your guests to not be late and not leave before a certain time is pushing (to say the least) those boudaries. also i understand that you want to stand out being the bride and all but even if someone wears white they will not be standing you up unless they show up in a huge white gown. just calm down some and remember that you are the host for your guests. not their queen that they are serving. |
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27235
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
Posts: 19
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 8:23 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Will you be including a rules sheet with your invitations? I feel sorry for your intended husband, you sound like you are going to be one scary control freak of a wife. |
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237kk
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 8:45 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| If you didn't think it was rude you wouldn't find the need to ask the question.I don't think you'll have any problem with people ruining your day. I'd say the majority of people will make an excuse and not go to your wedding.I know I wouldn't.Yes, you are being very rude. Lighten up you're supposed to enjoy your wedding day.Just remember there is life after your wedding day and you still want to have your friends speaking to you.Edit: I do understand the dilemma of having a "problem family".It seems that's the case with you.Say to heck with them, elope or have a very small wedding.(I chose to have a small wedding only 25 people) and spend the wedding money on an absolutely fantastic honeymoon.(Our honeymoon was everything we could have dreamed of.) You don't HAVE to put up with obnoxious people just because you're related to them. Especially on your wedding day.Another thing to consider is if you make any rules you are only encouraging the obnoxious relatives to break them to annoy you. You'd be giving them the heads up on how to upset you.Like a red rag to a bull, really.No matter what you choose to do, I wish you have a long and happy marriage. I was married in 1972 and still am (to the same man). My wedding day is a dim but happy memory, but we both have vivid memories of our fantastic honeymoon even now.As I said there is life after your wedding day. |
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14sposseLulsest
Joined: 07 Apr 2008
Posts: 14
Location: Netherlands Antilles
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 9:06 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Yes.The trick is to get the guest to do as you wish without them feeling that they are forced to comply. Tell them that the reception starts at 5 - that way even the late comers will be there by 6. (You can fill the void with an extended cocktail hour.)You should ask you bridesmaids (between them they should know most of your guests) to gently remind the ladies it is proper wedding ettiquette that only the bride wears white. You could also drop a hint that your favorite colors are blue, red, green, violet and fuscia so every lady will try to wear one of those colors rather than white.Food at 9PM is an absolute no go. Serve it at 7PM but you can delay the cake cutting unitl a little later. If the food is good and the dance music is fun people will stick around. If they don't its a simple why of reducing your Xmas card list."I want the attention to be on me, its my day, I'm paying for it, so no one is going to ruin it." Do you want to be a bride or a brat? No complex event goes perfectly - not Presidential funerals nor Royal Coronations. The trick is to reduce amount of things going wrong and to accept those that do. Your wedding won't be perfect and neither will you husband. The sooner you accept and deal with that the happier you will be.Remember, your goal is to be the perfect bride - not a total b****. |
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23jouxurbibia
Joined: 23 May 2008
Posts: 14
Location: Philippines
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 9:28 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Yeah, I do think that is being rude. It's horribly rude. I would either not go to the wedding or purposely do whatever it is you don't want done if I received an invite like that. I know that seems rude, but it's rude to force all these rules on your GUESTS!!! They're supposed to be having fun too. The attention will be on you whether or not they are late, wearing white, or leave early. Some people can't stay late because of kids or they have to get up early. Some people get stuck in traffic or something else. I don't know people that don't get to a wedding on time. Also wearing white will not detract from you because no one cares what everyone else is wearing. The only person people are looking at is you anyways. So lighten up or you will probably loose some friends or have family not come and then you'll regret that you ruined relationships that were important to you over stupid small details to your wedding. They're insignificant details compared to the relationships with your friends or family. And I'm not just talking about your relationships, what about your husband's friends and family? What's he supposed to say when they ask him why you're being such a b****. It might ruin his friendships or relationships with family. It's a very selfish thing to do. That's just my opinion, but it's a reality. |
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16GainaTreapype
Joined: 07 Jun 2008
Posts: 6
Location: Kuwait
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 9:49 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Yes you are being rude and Yes you are being a Bridezilla. First off people won't wear white. Most people know that! And second...it's not good etiquette to serve dinner at 9pm. Or good for your diet either. If I received an invite with those rules I probably would not attend. What does your FH think and your family?EDIT: Well if thats a case...then you need to Elope. |
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26FlueliZed
Joined: 20 May 2008
Posts: 10
Location: Czech Republic
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 10:11 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Let me give you another perspective...you might think it's "your day", but ultimately this is the biggest most expensive party you will ever be throwing. And you don't throw parties just for yourself, right? You throw them for YOUR GUESTS. Let's try not to alienate them before the wedding even happens. I'm going to assume you are pretending to be a bridezilla, because I can't even imagine someone having such an attitude on what should be the happiest time of her life. |
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15AudillaLoaday
Joined: 03 Apr 2008
Posts: 10
Location: Cape Verde
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 10:32 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| I would try not to focus on everything being perfect. What if your grandma gets in a car accident and its there by six? What if people decide not to wait for the food and leave early anyway?I understand that you want everything to be perfect. It is your wedding day, but the fact is something will inevitably go wrong. Focus on the most important thing - the love between you and your fiance. As long as you make that your priority nothing can ruin your day. |
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21erurgeSuesypE
Joined: 09 Mar 2008
Posts: 19
Location: Ireland
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 10:54 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| You don't want to be embarrased, but yet, you are embarrasing yourself with such demands. You will insult your guests if you assume that they are all unwashed barbarians that don't know how to behave. If you are concerned about that, then you need classier friends.Good luckPS/ If you have good food and entretainment no one will be late or leave early. |
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