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17RearpMapWal
Joined: 12 May 2008
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Location: Nepal
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 Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 11:15 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Hiel Hitler. |
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Joined: 20 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 11:37 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| If I got a wedding invite with a rule sheet attached, I wouldn't bother going to the wedding (or sending a gift). This is supposed to be about celebrating a joyous occasion! |
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17RearpMapWal
Joined: 12 May 2008
Posts: 10
Location: Nepal
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 11:58 am Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Sweetie, even given your family's propensity for bad behavior it would be very rude to issue a Code Of Conduct in your wedding invitation, or anywhere else.Even if you did there's no guarentee they'll abid by it...what will you do if people show up wearing white...refuse to let them in? Who would do that?What will everyone be doing from 6-9 pm....admiring you only? I can't see non-stop adoration of the bride holding off the natives' getting restless and keeping them happy for 3 solid hours.....and usually the cake is cut and served near the end of the wedding anyway with some dancing after that....If they are the rowdy sort, have a dry wedding and toast with sparkling cider or white grape juice....forbid any alcohol from being brought in.......Understand you can't control what people do....all you can do is make it clear via phone calls to the rowdy ones that if they act up they will be escorted out immediately by management........and arrested for trespassing if they refuse to leave due to bad behavior...but please, not on the wedding invites...that would be incredibly bad taste.....as bad as their potential conduct...good luck |
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2026
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 12:20 pm Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| the closing the door thing bothers me,especially if u have elderly guests who are coming from out of town.we waited 20 minutes for my grandparents to show up-but i understand-never been here b4,never drove in a big city b4,late 70's-early 80's.they took a turn down a one-way street and got lost.it woulda been harsh to say,"tough luck,granny-doors shut now!!!!"have some compassion! |
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16FlusFlourhoom
Joined: 08 Mar 2008
Posts: 10
Location: Greece
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 12:41 pm Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Ummmm...yeah. I would say that you're definitely being a bridezilla. If people are a little late to the reception, so what? It's not as if the rest of you are obligated to wait for them. If they're late, then let it be their problem. If they want to leave right after eating and the cake is cut, so what? This isn't prison...you can't lock people in and tell them they need to stay."I want the attention on me, it's my day..." first...of course the attention is going to be on you. The bride is always the center of attention. And are you taking your husband into consideration at all? Are you going to allow him to come to the wedding, or are you afraid he'll take attention away from you?Seriously girl, you need to stop being a brat. If you act like the wedding gestapo, you're only going to get one result from it, and that's for the rest of your life, everyone is going to talk about what a witch (not with a "w") you were on your wedding day. Is that what you want?Even if you're the bride, you still need to play the role of the gracious hostess. Treat people like you want them to enjoy themselves and have a good time, not like they need to kiss your butt to your satisfaction. |
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1sttimemommytobe07
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 1:03 pm Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Yikes! Ok....so we don't know your family.....but you are treating them like children! Come on....a list or "rules?" Sounds like a high school prom, not a wedding.OK....so you must be there by 6 p.m......but no food until 9 p.m? Wow! So what do people do besides have all eyes on you for those 3 hours? If your family is rude and obnoxious....well, there is nothing you can do about it. But please don't post rules. It will just get people upset. Yes, you are being rude. |
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27235
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 1:24 pm Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| I thinks so, I know its your day but if I got an invite with so many restrictions I would just NOT go, you are taking all the fun out of it. |
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1830
Joined: 06 May 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 1:46 pm Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| If my family was that bad, I'd elope and have a fabulous honeymoon. No big family wedding, no problem, right?Seriously, it really is rude to put together a list of rules for your wedding. Not only that, but people who are THAT poorly behaved are very unlikely to obey your rules...so in addition to a bunch of people coming late, in white, and getting loaded, you'll have fistfights when the bouncers (which you'd need) tried to throw them out!I feel for you, but you really have to rethink this one! |
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1Sluccaddicy
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
Posts: 53
Location: Guatemala
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 2:07 pm Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Goodness, are you running a boot camp or having a wedding?!! It's very rude to have those rules for the many good reasons enumerated above. And people can have genuinely good reasons for arriving late: flat tire, babysitter was late, etc. Stop trying to make everything go perfectly--it won't. And the attention IS mostly on the bride (and groom), but it's unreasonable to try to demand it.P.S. Mona Lisa conjures up an outrageously funny image of the cantakerous relatives fighting with the bouncers. If you do the rules thing, be sure to video tape it and post the video on You Tube! |
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1sttimemommytobe07
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 2:29 pm Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Yeah, sorry but you are being a little mean. Some people are going to be late no matter what you do, pheraps, they have to work on a Saturday night or got lost or had car trouble? As long as they do not ruin your big entrance, dont worry about it. If you are worried about them coming in as you are making your big entrance, have a friend watch for you to have late comers wait untill after your entrance. Most people with half a brain will know not to wear a white dress. They should no better. If they have white pants, a white jacket, or a white shirt, let that go. Serve the food at 7 or 7:30 but dont cut the cake untill later. Most people see cutting the cake as a signal that the wedding is ending soon. If you are worried about drunkness, don't have any alchol. We are not having it because of my FFIL's drinking. Good luck! I'm sorry people are being rude to you. I get the feeling that you are feeling more frustrated than anything and wouldn't really put that on the invites! |
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21erurgeSuesypE
Joined: 09 Mar 2008
Posts: 19
Location: Ireland
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 2:50 pm Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| why are you even inviting them if you are so worried?Just have a destination wedding with you and htb and a couple friends.Or a small private affair. I probably would not attend if I got an invite with so many rules.It is over the top.As for my upcoming wedding , my friends/family already know how I am and what I expect...the formality of my location and invitations will set the tone, not a bunch of my rules. Good luck with all of that...I would just take a deep breath and enjoy your day. no worries. The attention will be all on you your are the BRIDE. |
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2026
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 3:12 pm Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| You are being very rude and it sounds like you have morphed into bridezilla. People will not come if there are strict rules. They want to come and have a good time. If you love these people, you need to accept them for who they are. Think of how you would feel if you got that same invitation. Better yet, think of how you would feel if no one came at all. You're right, it is your day, but it is also about your fiancee and your parents. You shouldn't be all about you, you should be all about enjoying the day with your new hubby. You will also be too busy to even notice and if you do, you may be more interested in the status of a wedding rather than the act of getting married. Additionally, people eat and leave at every wedding-they still bring a gift and they still come to celebrate with you. You shouldn't be concerned with what others are doing and think about what will make your guests happy. Finally, think about how this makes you look to your new family. I would STRONGLY reccomend not doing this. |
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23jouxurbibia
Joined: 23 May 2008
Posts: 14
Location: Philippines
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 3:33 pm Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Um..wow. I don't even know what to really say except..Holy Inappropriate! Sounds like you are not only going to ruin "your day" for yourself, but for your guests as well. Well..those who show up on time anyway. The rest I suppose will be left in the parking lot. |
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1830
Joined: 06 May 2008
Posts: 9
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 3:55 pm Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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| Hi your NOT being rude at all. I understand you about people wearing white, and eating and leaving. I think it's more of a culture thang! Sometimes are folk just don't know how to act! Place those rules, not in the invite though tell them how important your day is and tell them what you don't and do expect.Good Luck! |
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2236
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 4:17 pm Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? |
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Your having bridezilla moments. Honey... JUST RELAX! There is absolutely NO need to be so controlling. And yes you are being rude. but you don't have to be rude. Take it from an old bride like me. in the end you get your prince. And the wedding will be just a memory. And FYI: Its HIS day to! Don't forget that, and you will be ok.good luck to you.  |
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