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17preagsJer



Joined: 07 Jun 2008
Posts: 6
Location: Ecuador
PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 12:30 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
i am planning on being very strict: i will put in the invites that door close at 6pm, so if they're late they wont be coming in the ( reception). i will also say that they will be no one except the bride with white on.i will serve the food at 9pm, because some people have the tendency of eating and leaving right after the cake is cut.i want the attention to be on me, its my day, I'm paying for it, so no one is going to ruin it.i posted this as a response to a question and i got 9 thumbs down. do you think im being rude???okay, maybe i am being a little excited, but you guys dont really know my family. they the type to start fight, come when the food is being served, 20 of them wearing white, propose @ my wedding, get drunk, and dirty dance on the dance floor. i really dont want to be embarrassed. concider that when you are answering this question.Sheessshh, was i being that rudesome of what you guys are saying i agree with. lol!
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23jouxurbibia



Joined: 23 May 2008
Posts: 14
Location: Philippines
PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 12:51 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
yes you are being rude. If you are hosting something for your guests, you also have to put some type of attention on them as well. If you act this way, I doubt many people will feel 'welcomed' and they probably won't want to attend. You're being unreasonable.I don't think your family will embarrass you, you will embarrass yourself by being so pretentious and rude.
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16GainaTreapype



Joined: 07 Jun 2008
Posts: 6
Location: Kuwait
PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 1:13 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
Wow. Are you planning on making a Rule Sheet and including it in your invitation? Will you have a bouncer who will enforce the Rules? What will happen if someone tries to leave after the cake is cut? Again...Wow. Just...Wow.
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22sophiepsy



Joined: 06 Jun 2008
Posts: 17
Location: Somalia
PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 1:34 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
That's pretty heavy handed.Remember that the people you are inviting are your GUESTS. You are the host, not their boss. I know that wedding guests can do things that frustrate us, but we cannot control them.If I got a wedding invitation worded like that I would be afraid to go - I might do something wrong!
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22sophiepsy



Joined: 06 Jun 2008
Posts: 17
Location: Somalia
PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 1:56 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
just be nice about it i will have in our invites that it is casual dress, the rest is up to you it is your day just dont burn to many peoples feelings or you may end up by your self on your day
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26FlueliZed



Joined: 20 May 2008
Posts: 10
Location: Czech Republic
PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 2:17 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
while most people will not agree with me, i FULLY believe that it is YOUR day and it is the one day that you can mandate what you want from everyone! i say go for it!
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1830



Joined: 06 May 2008
Posts: 9

PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 2:39 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
I think it is slightly rude, but its yours and your fiances day. (what does he think?) I just posted a question about a potluck wedding since I wont have alot of money for a wedding and alot of people said that was a rude thing to do too.
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17unsorsefs



Joined: 20 May 2008
Posts: 12
Location: Ethiopia
PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 3:00 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
Yes. These people are supposed to be guests there to share YOU AND YOUR FIANCE'S day. You invite guests because you want to share this day with them. Why are you being such a diva? I can't believe you're actually telling the guests what they can and can't wear. What if they have a good reason for being late, i.e. a flat tire?How would somebody who is late or leaves early ruining your day? People came to my wedding and had babies. Since they were courteous enough to leave their children at home (they didn't want them to throw a fit during the ceremony), they had to leave in time to put their children to bed. Did I throw a hissy fit? No, I continued to enjoy myself.Just because you are the bride does not give you the excuse to be rude to other people. GET OVER YOURSELF!!!
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14SlomoFumrailm



Joined: 24 Mar 2008
Posts: 12
Location: Togo
PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 3:22 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
no i dont think you are being rude, it seems reasonable to me. It's your big day after all
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25Gashishistins



Joined: 08 May 2008
Posts: 9
Location: Bangladesh
PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 3:43 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
not rude just strict , you have to relalize we are human we make mistakes some times thing happen beyond our own control like flat tires or having to leave early cause of child care or other very important issues i think you should leave room for some error just not abuse
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2236



Joined: 21 Jan 2008
Posts: 23

PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 4:05 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
Yes.Speaking from a guests perspective, what if I have car trouble or something else delays me in arriving at your reception? You would shut me out!Food @9pm - - I might pass out by then if I was anticipating a dinner shortly after I arrive (assuming I got in the door by 6!). And my fiance wouldn't be able to eat - - he has stomach issues and if he eats after 8pm, he would be miserable. And I don't know of many people that leave a wedding right after the cake, but if the food isn't out til' 9, I might be tired and leave before you ever got to the cake (you gonna cut that at midnight to keep people there? Or maybe you'll lock everyone in and tell them they can't leave until the party ends at 2am?)You're the bride, you WILL have the attention. But do you want it to be good attention or attention because you've ticked off most of your guests with 'rules' - - some of which should be common sense and following good etiquette (such as the bride is the only one that should be wearing white).
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2026



Joined: 24 Jan 2008
Posts: 35

PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 4:26 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
If that is what you want, then that is wat you want. That is the point of the day after all. To make the bride and groom happy in what ways are necessary. What does your fiance think? You should definately discuss it with him, as I'm sure you have. = )I think it is a bit strict, but I also don't see that big of a deal with it. I think if you are paying the bill, they can live with it or die! lol
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26Zilkybledly



Joined: 15 May 2008
Posts: 5
Location: Zimbabwe
PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 4:48 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
Umm...Really? Do you ever watch the show Bridezillas on WE? I get what you're saying about not wanting people to be late. Not wearing white? Well, people should know that without you having to say it bluntly. I think it's great you're going to tell people that you aren't serving food until 9:00 because that should cut down on your guest list. Seriously, you serve food and drinks as a way to thank people for being part of your special day...you don't use it to hold them hostage until you've had all the attention you crave.Only you can allow your day to be ruined. If you let someone wearing white or eating early bother you, then you've ruined it for yourself. Good luck.
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21erurgeSuesypE



Joined: 09 Mar 2008
Posts: 19
Location: Ireland
PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 5:10 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
Wow, yes. You sound like a bridezilla. If I got an invitation like that, I wouldn't go.
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26FlueliZed



Joined: 20 May 2008
Posts: 10
Location: Czech Republic
PostPosted: Sun Jun 08, 2008 5:31 am    Post subject: Rules for my wedding! do you think im being rude? Reply with quote
I think that you know your being rude. Complete bridezilla rude!I understand the not wanting anyone to ruin YOUR day but what about your FH?AND the whole reason you even invite guests is so they can celebrate with you!Seriously get over yourself. It is brides like you that make a bad name for the rest of us B2B's
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