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psstoffagain
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 Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 10:28 am Post subject: Selfish to want semi-tradional ceremony for renewal, when we |
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| Were having a renewal of vows as well. hubby wants to wait until our 10th.. i want to do it next year on our 7th annivesary. Our day was a nightmare (Rude/Drunk Room mates).... No honeymoon because his mother and sister stayed the week.. ugh... I am thinking about it really hard. I say GO FOR IT!! And Good Luck!!! |
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pspoptart8605
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 10:35 am Post subject: Selfish to want semi-tradional ceremony for renewal, when we |
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| I think you should state "renewing your vows" on the invite. I don't see a problem with wearing a wedding gown as many people do that, but usually someone walks you down the aisle because they are giving you away - and you are already married so you can't be given away any longer. My suggestion would be for both you and your husband to walk down the aisle together to reinstate your marriage.If you want, have your brother and the other attendants be at the top waiting for you when you and your husband get to the end of the aisle. I think that would be fine. Maybe even have your brother get his license to marry? Anyone can do it and that would make it extra special to have your brother re-marry the two of you.I think having traditional dances and a cake would be fine too. Just try and get a song that signifies you already being together, not as if it's your "first dance" together.I think something like this would be nice with a note on the bottom saying, "no gifts please, we only require the gift of your presence."The pleasure of your companyis requested at the reaffirmation of thewedding vows ofMr. & Mrs. ________________on __________ the _________at ________________at the __________________________________, ________________Reception immediately following ceremonyR.S.V.P. |
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psstoffagain
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 10:41 am Post subject: Selfish to want semi-tradional ceremony for renewal, when we |
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| Hi. Of course, most on here will tell you that you should "do it up" because most of them are brides to be themselves and are excited about their own upcoming weddings.I, however, see this to be a little over the top. I CAN and DO understand that you did not have a big wedding the first time.....but it was A REAL WEDDING! For whatever reason at that time in your life....that is what you decided...so now you should accept it and move on with your life.I call it a wedding re-do....and it's really gotten out of had if you ask me. You are not the first one by any means to post this question.Will it make you happier to spend this money for this re-enactment? If so....go ahead.Personally, I WOULD have a small anniversary party and include all those who you say will probably not be here for much longer. I can understand that. But when you have these re-enactments....it's like trying to erase the last 8 years that you have been husband and wife. Why would you want to do that? Just because you had a courthouse wedding? In the end...do what you want. It seems like you have all the plans in motion anyway and are just looking for validation of your "dream."I would have an anniversary party and spend the money on a great trip with my husband! |
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ProudM
Joined: 26 Nov 2007
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ProudM7924
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 10:55 am Post subject: Selfish to want semi-tradional ceremony for renewal, when we |
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| Hon, you can have EVERYTHING that people have with a first wedding.However I would not register for gifts. Just let everyone know that their presence is the only present needed.Have your dances, your cake, your white dress, your attendants, etc!!!Just be sure to put on the invitations its a vow renewal ceremony (though I'm sure those who you are inviting should already know this!).Ignore the naysayers, you have EVERY RIGHT in the world to have a vow renewal with loved ones! |
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puglyparker
Joined: 13 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 11:02 am Post subject: Selfish to want semi-tradional ceremony for renewal, when we |
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| I do not see how any of that is offencive, you are not asking or expecting gifts, you are just re-newing your vows, it's a party, it's a celebration, so have exactly what YOU and your husband want and be happy. |
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protonship
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 11:09 am Post subject: Selfish to want semi-tradional ceremony for renewal, when we |
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| It's not selfish, just not appropriate. Your wedding was what it was, regardless of the circumstances. Don't have regrets...A vow renewal is NOT 'another' wedding, or a 'do over'. It should simply be a ceremony - doing it in a church is lovely, but it's basically a blessing. No attendants, no wedding gown, etc. Then just host your family and close friends to a dinner at your home, pretty much a nice anniversary party. |
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