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Blineeslels
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 Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 4:21 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| So I sent a my thank you notes out about a month after our wedding, which was in late October 2007. Recently my mother-in-law mentioned that someone had asked if we received their gift because they didn't get a thank you note (which I thought was rude to say, but whatever).So I went to check my spreadsheet and noticed that their name wasn't even on it....and after digging further it appears as though I left a good 20 people off! I must have not copied over the entire list when I was sending out the notes. Yikes! So here it is March, and these 20 people didn't receive thank yous.I want to send them out, but I feel ridiculous because it is so late. Would you send them out? Do I say anything about them being so late? Ahhh! I'm so embarrassed! |
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blklacquer
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 4:52 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| I think most people are aware of the stress that comes with a wedding, so I would still send out the thank you notes but perhaps add an additional poem or something linking the fact that you know it is a bit belated but it does mean a lot to you that they sent a gift on your big day and maybe put in a photo of the two of your from the wedding. |
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blklacquer
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 5:24 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| be nice and send it anyways. just put a quick note in saying you lost the part of the list. |
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blogforloversxx
Joined: 30 Jan 2008
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Location: Sweden
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 5:55 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| Send them out, and include a line about "I'm so sorry that these are getting to you late! We got back from the honey moon and during our organizing of all the gifts, half of our list was lost! I just found it and feel horrible about the tardiness of this thank you. I do want to know how much we appreciate you coming to the wedding and for the gift. Thanks so much and sorry again!"Its better, in my opinion, to be honest and truthful and tell them the real situation. Its not like you intentionally ignored these people. Besides, there is a saying "better late than never" right? Good luck! |
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BLM
Joined: 11 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 6:26 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| Just sit down now and right the thank you cards. Don't apoligize, unless you talk to them. You can explain to your mother-in-law. On the notes, just tell each one how you love the gift, and appreciate it! |
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blink
Joined: 24 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 6:58 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| Definitely DO send them out! It's much better than not sending them. I agree that a short line to explain would be enough that people would understand. It wasn't rude of your MIL because if you've ever been in that position - having mailed a gift, never having it acknowledged - you honestly are anxious that it didn't arrive. The person who didn't get a thank you note went through the right channels to find out what happened because if the package were lost, they would have to have it traced. She didn't call you up and demand a thank-you note. It's best to do TY notes in a timely manner but believe me, there are many people who take longer than 4 months without any sort of excuse that their list got lost, so people will understand. Not getting an acknowledgement at all is much worse than getting one 4 months after the wedding. |
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BloossyAvalse
Joined: 13 Mar 2008
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Location: Argentina
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 7:29 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| Tell them the truth about it I'm sure that they wouldn't mind and you just got married and youve been busy with the honeymoon and all...let them know that you had a list for thank you notes and you thught you had everone and that you double check the list and found out that you had left them out. be honest I'm sure they will understand and say to (or ) inside them better later than never thank you notes..well hope this help and I'm sure they will understand... |
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Blindnezz
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 8:00 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| Send them out, and just briefly mention that you are sorry that they are late, but you had a spreadsheet mishap. I think people will appreciate the thank you, late or not. |
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BloossyAvalse
Joined: 13 Mar 2008
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Location: Argentina
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 8:32 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| Things happen! It's not too late to send a thank you to the people who didn't get one. Slip a nice piece of plain stationary inside the thank you card, explaining that, "due to an oversight on your part," I am a little behind in sending this thank you, but please know, how much we really liked your gift ______. (name the gift, even if it was a gift of money. Don't mention how much it was, just refer to it as a gift of money. 'Tis better late than never, to avoid further embarrassment. |
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blogforlovxr
Joined: 05 Feb 2008
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Location: Sweden
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 9:03 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| Better late than never. |
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blinky
Joined: 20 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 9:34 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| Maybe you should give each of these people a phone call too. Hearing your voice would be a lot more convincing than receiving a card only. |
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blondiexo
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 10:05 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| I would still send them out. You know what they say, better late than never!! Pop in a small handwritten note explaining why the notes are late. You cant do much more than that. |
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BLM
Joined: 11 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 10:37 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| Better late than never. Send them out, with an apology for the oversight. |
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blkhtsod
Joined: 02 Aug 2007
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Location: United States
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 11:08 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| Haha, the same thing happend to my sister, only she forgot way more than 20 people. she still sent them out. it was appreciate by the guests. she just reworded them apologizing for the late thank yous due to their honeymoon and stress in reoganizing their house with all the wonderful gifts. haha it was great. |
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blorieljuli
Joined: 19 Feb 2008
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Location: Canada
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| Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 11:39 pm Post subject: Thank You Notes.....4 1/2 Months Later? |
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| If a person sends a gift, the only way they know it was received is if they get a note. I am amazed that you failed to keep track of 20 people who sent you gifts and you think they were rude. I suspect what upset you was that they made your mother in law aware of your rudeness. If you were able to overlook at least 20 people who gifted you then obviously you received a lot of gifts and with so many you have some major sucking up to do and you should get right on it. You have another month and a half to do so before you have committed a major etiquette faux pas. Do not neglect to do so because someday you will want a nice baby shower and some of these people could be on the guest list. |
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