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Diana
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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 Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:40 pm Post subject: Wedding Etiquette? |
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| In any wedding that I have been in or helped to plan the bridesmaids bought their own dresses (pick a color and let them get dresses in that color then they can wear them again) same with the flower girls and the mothers dressyou can get a discount rental if you order the tuxes (suits together)Rehearsal dinner is expected but not mandatory, you could make a simple layout of finger sandwiches fruit veggies and assorted soft drinks following the rehearsal. To a rehearsal dinner only the immediate family (ie parents grandparents) and wedding party should attend Traditionally the grooms parents pay for the rehearsal and the brides parents pay for the wedding, but society changes and you can do anything you want. My suggest that you go to the local deli (Wal-Mart) and by fried chicken and make the other platters yourself (its cheaper and still good food)If the grooms parents pay then invitiation is not reversed. There are alternatives ex:Please join bride name and groom name in the celebration of marriage and give the date location and time you can look at a invitiation website for ideas |
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DotKyleMansa
Joined: 08 Aug 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:47 pm Post subject: Wedding Etiquette? |
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This all Depends on your budgetTraditionally the bride's parents are supposed to pay for the whole wedding. Rehearsal is paid for by the Groom's parents, traditionally the bridal party and any out of town friends and relatives and immediate family is invited to the rehearsal dinner but really it's whoever you want to come. The more the merrier yanno?If someone is offering to pay for the wedding LET THEM, just make sure you let them know how much you appreciate it and try to go out of your way and save money. Only spend money where it needs to be spent you know?I would reverse the invitiation since it's supposed to be whoever is paying for the wedding first since they are inviting.  |
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DoraLaExploradora
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 12:53 pm Post subject: Wedding Etiquette? |
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| Who buys the bridesmaid dresses? THE BRIDESMAIDSFlower girl dress? THE BRIDEGroomsmen attire? THE GROOMMothers attire? THE MOTHERFathers attire? THE FATHERIs a rehearsal dinner expected? How does that work? After the rehearsal everyone goes out to dinner? Who should be invited? Who pays? YES, AFTER THE CHURCH REHEARSAL, THE GROOMS PARENTS ARE SUPPOSED TO HOST A DINNER, EITHER AT A RESTAURANT OR SOMEONE'S HOUSE. THE BRIDAL PARTY, READERS, PARENTS AND CLERGY ARE TO BE INVITED. (OH AND GUESTS FOR EACH PERSON INVITED...ALWAYS)Parents of bride are poor losers. Parents of groom are well off and offer to pay for wedding. Should I let them? If they pay, then should the invitation be reversed (i.e. says they request the attendance...)? YES, LET THE GROOM'S PARENTS HELP YOU PAY, BUT TRY TO PITCH IN AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. IF THE GROOMS PARENTS ARE PAYING THE MAJORITY, THE INVITATION SHOULD READ SO. Any other advice? ENJOY IT:) KEEP IT SIMPLE, BUT DON'T COMPROMISE YOUR DREAMS |
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Dr.DRUG
Joined: 23 Jul 2007
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Location: U.S.A
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 1:00 pm Post subject: Wedding Etiquette? |
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| Who buys the bridesmaid dresses? the girlsFlower girl dress? the motherGroomsmen attire? the guysMothers attire? motherFathers attire? fatherIs a rehearsal dinner expected? How does that work? After the rehearsal everyone goes out to dinner? Who should be invited? Who pays? the guys parents pay you just have supper or whatever we had cook outParents of bride are poor losers. Parents of groom are well off and offer to pay for wedding. Should I let them? If they pay, then should the invitation be reversed (i.e. says they request the attendance...)? if you dont have the money have em pay or just have them pay bar tab or whateverAny other advice?do what you want its your day not anyone elses |
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deryuioq
Joined: 22 Jul 2007
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Location: Myshop
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 1:07 pm Post subject: Wedding Etiquette? |
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| Bridesmaids traditionally pay for their own dresses.The parents of the flower girl/ring bearer usually pay for their attire.Groomsmen traditionally pay for their own tuxes/attire.The mother of the bride pays for her own dress, the mother of the groom pays for her own.The father of the bride pays for his own tux, the father of the groom pays for his own.A rehearsal dinner is generally expected. It is a time for everyone who came together for the wedding rehearsal to have a meal together. You can all go out to a local restauraunt, you can have a private catered event, or you can have a casual backyard bbq at someone's home. It is traditionally payed for by the parents of the groom, however they are not OBLIGATED to host a rehearsal dinner. Everyone in the wedding party should be invited to the rehearsal dinner, (bridesmaids, groomsmen, readers, the officiant, parents, etc) and then you can invite whoever else you chose, close friends/out of town guests, etc... everyone in addition to the wedding party though is just 'extra' and not required.If the parents of the groom are offering to host the wedding, the bride and groom may decide to accept or decline. whichever they chose they should do so graciously. Keep in mind that whoever pays for the wedding sometimes wants a say in the planning. Discuss the level of involvement that the parents of the groom plan to have... decide if you are comfortable witih that.When it comes to picking out the invitations, generally the individuals paying for the party. Why not let the parents of the groom choose the wording?It could readTogether with their parentsBrideand GroomInvite you.....Or it could readMr. & Mrs. Brides Parentsand Mr. & Mrs. Grooms ParentsInvite you to the marriage of their childrenBrideand GroomORMr. & Mrs. Grooms ParentsRequest the honour of your presenceat the marriage of Brideto their sonGroom |
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Dreamer0276
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 1:14 pm Post subject: Wedding Etiquette? |
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| Here is what I did: The bridesmaids paid for their dresses (I made sure they were on the low $ end) and I said, if you cannot pay for them I will. Same with groomsmen. They can rent tuxes at a pretty good price (at bridal fairs they often offer deals). I would guess the father and mother pay for their attire themselves, or they can wear something they already have. I would allow the parents to help pay. My parents and my husbands parents split the cost, and then we paid for a little bit ourselves. It's expensive out on your own (cars, rent, insurance) so this will help a lot if you don't have to pay for your own wedding. Make sure to give the parents a very nice thank you gift. Rehearsal dinner is expected. We invited everyone involved with the wedding (the wedding party, anyone singing/playing music, the grandparents, important guests from out of town, flower girl, candle lighters, etc.) It was fun. Would the grooms parents be upset if you kept the invite as both parents requesting the attendance? Or, you could just say that you two, along with our parents, request your attendance. Remember to have fun through all the planning!! |
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DC4duedec7
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 1:21 pm Post subject: Wedding Etiquette? |
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| 1. The Bridesmaids do2. The mother of the Flower Girl3. The groomsmen4. The Mom5. The Dad6. It is expected, but only for the wedding party. Especially with destination weddings (which means EVERYONE would be from out of town, though you can make the rehearsal dinner ONLY for the wedding party). Who pays could be you or one of your parents or someone.7. If they offer to pay for the wedding, lay down some ground rules... do they want a say in how it is planned, or is the money given with NO strings attached (like they say "its this way or we don't pay"?).If you can afford it with your budget, you can pay for the first five questions. |
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