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ignaciojackrra
Joined: 09 Jun 2008
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Location: USA
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 Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 1:12 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| I was invited to a wedding scheduled for 6/21/08 and I was unable to attend because it is in another state. I sent my friend (the bride) a wedding card thanking her for the invitation and wishing her and the groom (by name) all the best. I also wrote a handwritten letter prasing her for our friendship through the years and wishing her and the groom (by name) all the best. I then sent her a wedding flowers and wished her and the groom( by name) on the card a long and glorious marriage. She e-mailed back stating that I didn't address them as a couple and that she was insulted by the card, letter, and flowers. She said that they had decided to end all further contact with me. I replied that I didn't understand how I insulted them considering I mentioned the groom in all of my "gifts". I said that after being friends for more than 7 years, I should be insulted that she would think the worst of me. I said I would respect her wishes. What justifies her being mad at me? |
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IC
Joined: 31 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 1:30 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| Nothing justifies her being mad she should be on the program bridzilla |
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IC
Joined: 31 Jan 2008
Posts: 26
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 1:48 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| I don't know what her problem is because it seems to me you addressed them as a couple and wished them the best. Maybe she was confused? It's a mystery to me, but appologise to her and maybe she'll give in and appologise to you. |
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idepevioure
Joined: 18 Mar 2008
Posts: 100
Location: India
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 2:06 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| How incredibly infantile and ungrateful. I really wouldn't bother with her. That's appalling, quite unforgivable behaviour. You just have to pity her.Don't answer. |
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idorisine
Joined: 22 Apr 2008
Posts: 5
Location: Lithuania
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 2:24 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| Bridezilla!!! Forget about her. Next it will be her PREGNANCYNo one ever got married before or had a baby. She is the first!!!! I know this type and frankly u are well rid of her, |
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Ibuprostop
Joined: 25 Mar 2008
Posts: 19
Location: USA
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 2:42 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| I have no idea! everything you did was very thoughtful. Good riddance to her I'd say. |
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IanK
Joined: 17 Mar 2008
Posts: 17
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 3:00 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| Either he is controlling her and making her end her friendship with you, or, she wanted/expected more of a gift from you that a card, letter, and flowers. A third choice could be that she really wanted you at her wedding and she is reacting very childishly to you not being there. |
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IBeWed
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 3:18 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| Nothing justifies it all. The problem is the groom is VERY insecure, jealous of you, and wants you eliminated from his/their life. Sadly, your friend doesn't have the spine to tell him to go jump off a cliff, nor escape his control. Pity her and move on. |
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Ihopeyouarehappy
Joined: 11 Mar 2008
Posts: 7
Location: UK
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 3:36 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| you should of mentioned him |
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ÏÎ
Joined: 01 Feb 2008
Posts: 10
Location: Ðîññèÿ
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 3:54 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| Perhaps her groom is abusive and controlling. Perhaps he didn't like the fact that she seemed to get more attention than he did (ie the letter praising her friendship over the years). Perhaps he wants to isolate her in order to better control her, and so he instructed her to "end all further contact" with you.When you are that far apart, you don't know what the circumstances may be ... |
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ilenem
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
Posts: 5
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 4:12 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| If I was the bride I would be touched by all that you did in order to "make-up" for not being able to attend her wedding. In my opinion, what you did was right. The way she handled it, on the other hand, was rude and unfeeling and frankly I would be embarassed if I was in her situation and I handled myself that way. |
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ideathecrealt
Joined: 14 Jun 2008
Posts: 33
Location: Moldova
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 4:30 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| she sounds off balance, you dont need friends like that. it sounds like you were generous and kind, and if they cant see that, then they arent worth your friendship |
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Idiontout
Joined: 10 Feb 2008
Posts: 28
Location: Yugoslavia
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 4:48 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| That's really weird. You should not have replied. Best to wait until the next time you see them in person. After they've had time to think about it, I'll bet they'll greet you with an apology.You definitely have one coming! |
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Ian Arthur
Joined: 29 May 2007
Posts: 90
Location: Helensburgh/Glasgow
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 5:06 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| She's crazy. |
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idorisine
Joined: 22 Apr 2008
Posts: 5
Location: Lithuania
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| Posted: Fri Jun 20, 2008 5:24 am Post subject: Wedding gift question from a guest? |
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| Who needs a friend like that? It is stupid to give negative feedback on gifts. Be glad you are rid of the woman. |
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