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zsazsa
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 Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 4:07 am Post subject: Wedding R.S.V.P etiquette...? |
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| I need help with how to word my R.S.V.P cards... here's the problem:I have lots of Mennonite relatives, as does my fiance on his dad's side. If you don't know Mennonite tradition, it generally involves inviting everyone you know and then making your guests (usually family, and maybe close friends) prepare - and serve - all the food.My fiance and I don't really consider ourselves to be Mennonite anymore, and we're having a catered event. I need to know how many of these relatives are attending, but I have had some of my siblings go through similar situations in the past. For their weddings, they got few R.S.V.P's returned to them, but they had many of those invited show up. Mind you, they had the traditional "catering", so it wasn't that much of an issue. Except for my sister's wedding, because she had limited seating.In any case, I was thinking something along these lines..."Please R.S.V.P by June 15, 2008. You may call (123)456-7890, email thebride@wedding.com or send this card back to let me know that ____(number) people will be attending"Not necessarily that exact wording, but if not, then what wording should I use?I just need to find a way to get them to respond, and to make them realize the importance of responding. |
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psstoffagain6302
Joined: 25 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 6:48 am Post subject: Wedding R.S.V.P etiquette...? |
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| There is another option. You could wait a few days to a week after the RSVP deadline, and personally call those who have not responded. That way you will know for sure.*Edit: Be sure to adjust your RSVP deadline so that you have enough time to call the guests that do not respond. It is proper etiquette to wait at least a few days to a week after the deadline before calling. |
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tohumanity8586
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 9:29 am Post subject: Wedding R.S.V.P etiquette...? |
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| I think that would work but you might want to have some one in the wedding party just pass the word that is very important ti have them RSVP because you are not using the traditional Mennonite catering. I would also have you,your soon to be or a mother (your his) start calling around on the day after the date on the card. |
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VictoriaB
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 12:10 pm Post subject: Wedding R.S.V.P etiquette...? |
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| I think you might want them to be a little more formal.Mine say.We look forward to celebrating with you!Please reply by June 20, 2008M________________________Able to attend ____Number of persons____Unable to attend |
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WekKeymnSek
Joined: 03 Feb 2008
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 2:51 pm Post subject: Wedding R.S.V.P etiquette...? |
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| How about:As our wedding reception will be catered for by the venue we would appreciate your response no later than <this date>RSVP to thebride@wedding.com or on (123)456-7890<Number space> Attending<Number space> Regretfully Decline |
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tvelez128
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 5:32 pm Post subject: Wedding R.S.V.P etiquette...? |
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| if ppl havent called back by the rsvp date call them all and ask them your self if they say they dont know say well i need and answer or i will take you off the list |
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Vildfuul
Joined: 31 Jul 2007
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Location: Viagra
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 8:13 pm Post subject: Wedding R.S.V.P etiquette...? |
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| In your situation, I would probably add please respond by June 15th so the caterer can have an accurate count for the reception. M/M _________ # attending ____ or something like that. |
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tandkalexander
Joined: 25 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:54 pm Post subject: Wedding R.S.V.P etiquette...? |
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| "Please RSVP by (date)". Include a RSVP card so the guest can indicate the number of people. You can include e-mail and/or phone number if you don't mind having them respond that way. You may want to include "limited seating" so they understand you need to know how many are present. You may want to use the other weddings as a guide to how much food you need. It is hard to estimate in the situation where the family rarely provides RSVPs. Etiquette says the guest should not be offended or angry if they show up without a RSVP and find no seating or food as long as the host (you) provided the opportunity for them to respond. Be prepared for them to show up with no RSVP but bringing food. |
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