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Fasetmcmvf
Joined: 28 Sep 2007
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Location: USA
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 Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 5:28 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| My brother's best friend was unable to attend his wedding last year and we are trying to think of something he can do in our wedding. I am not aganist a groomsmen but we already 6 people on each side for the bridal party and we have too many. We have two ushers already and thought maybe he could do that, but is three too many? My fiance and i already have a dear friend doing the guest list and cake cutting. So what else can we have him be a part of? I have been close to this friend also for the past 17 years. I know we should have thought of this earlier but it just came up the other day. We are getting married this June. |
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feelayclablic
Joined: 16 Nov 2007
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Location: BM
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 5:37 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| He could play the part of Obi-Wan Kenobi. That'd be pretty cool. |
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favoemuc
Joined: 02 Jul 2007
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Location: Ukraine
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 5:46 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| Depending on how many guests you have will determine how many ushers you will need. Maybe he can do the very important job of seating the parents and grandparents. Or he could welcome guests at the door. He could also give a speech at the reception. Congrats!! |
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fayruzina
Joined: 06 Dec 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 5:55 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| It would be okay if you want him to be an usher. Consider how many people will need to be escorted down the aisle. Probalby more than two at a time. So, 3 would be fine. |
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FdfrtYhyu
Joined: 01 Dec 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:04 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| put him in charge of something....a driver for your family, car park attendent, giving out flowers to ppl at the church door or giving confetti to ppl, giving the presents to the mums and bridesmaids |
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feelayclablic
Joined: 16 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:13 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| If you haven't told him that he will be a part of the wedding already, don't! I personally believe he (as a man) would be happier just to be a guest. If he doesn't have any responsibilities, I think he would be fine with that. Just make sure he gets to sit up in the front of the church. Also, make sure he has a table VERY close to the wedding party at the reception. |
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Fcker
Joined: 26 Aug 2007
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:22 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| How big is the wedding? If you have 200-250 guests, 4 ushers wouldn't be too many.Good luck! Have fun, and congrats!!!! |
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Fatima
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:31 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| 3 ushers isn't too many at all. he could also be in charge of the gift table and helping people know where to go. Use your imagination |
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fayruzina
Joined: 06 Dec 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:40 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| wow, how about making a speech since he has been friends for that long. |
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Fauddedbaceda
Joined: 24 Dec 2007
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Location: Dominican Republic
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:49 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| Have him be one who greets all of the guests who show up - he could be stationed at the front door of the church or wherever and direct people to the proper place to sign in or direct them to an usher, etc.. A wedding is a trying experience - so do the best you can and forget the rest. Good luck. |
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FederMarkovan
Joined: 23 May 2007
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Location: Czech Republic
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:58 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| I think you only need to make sure you get to make it a point to spend a few extra minutes with him as a guest. I would also hope the bride saves him a dance. I wouldn't try to "fit" him in somewhere to make up for him missing the other wedding. He might feel a little awkward. Just make the best of making him welcomed as you would your other special guests. Maybe you can get the photographer get a special picture of your brother and his friend - he probably would appreciate that gesture more than anything else.Congrats and what a special person you are to be so considerate. |
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FederiSandrol
Joined: 15 Jun 2007
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Location: Thailand
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 7:07 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| If you are throwing rice or bubbles he could distribute that.He could mc the reception, hand out favors, seat people at the reception. or take gifts to the gift table |
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feesaulaalkab
Joined: 06 Jan 2008
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Location: Malawi
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 7:16 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| There are lots of options! 1. it never hurts to have to many ushers, that way people aren't waiting. He could actually be in charge of the "important guests" such as grandparents, aunts etc.2. Passing out the programs in the church.3. If you are doing a reading during the ceremony he can do the reading, it can be a poem, a bible passage etc. it all depends on your beliefs and/or what you are incorporating into the ceremony. This is my favorite option becuase they really feel like they are a part of the special day.Just make sure you don't give him a job that makes it look like you were just trying to find him something. You don't want him to feel belittled. If you can't think of anything, just tell him, we wish you could be a part of our very special day, but unfortunetely, things just didn't work out, BUT we would love to have you at teh rehershal and the rehersal dinner and we are just thrilled you can be there that day to share with us. Good luck and have fun! |
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Fcker
Joined: 26 Aug 2007
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 7:25 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| Does his best friend feel comfortable talking in front of a crowd? You can ask if he could do a special toast during the reception. I've been to receptions where there are several toasts; kind of helps take all the heat off the best man. If he's not comfortable with writing his own speech, maybe have him do a reading during the ceremony. Maybe he, your brother and your husband-to-be can pick out something special that means something to them in particular -- a passage from a book, lines from a song. |
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FdfrtYhyu
Joined: 01 Dec 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 7:34 am Post subject: What part can he play in the wedding? |
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| How about have him give a reading during the ceremony, of a special story or poem? As far as ushers go, the number of ushers should be a great formula of number of guests attending, allow 2 minutes to seat each couple/group (if families with children), 2 minutes back to doors. No one should wait more than a minute and a half. And you want to get it done as soon as possible. I would say you want someone going down the aisle as soon as the last group is seated. |
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