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noogojei
Joined: 29 Oct 2007
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Location: Canada
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 Posted: Wed Mar 12, 2008 4:20 am Post subject: what's the best way to tell my family that I'm a girl? |
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I was born a boy but never happy. A few months ago my college roommates convinced me to let them help me out w/trying to present myself as a girl - it's been awesome! Socially, I only present myself as a woman now - though I still go to school in boy clothes - yuk. I don't really look much like a guy anymore even when dressed like that  though I don't quite look all girl either, without makeup and the right clothes. One of my roommates wants me to be in her wedding as a bridesmaid. (See old question). So I need to tell my family before the wedding. How can I do this? I'm thinking of just going home as myself - a girl - and forcing them to deal w/it immediately. It sounds crazy, but I don't want this to turn into some kind of negotiations - this is me, deal w/it. My friends tell me I'm pretty, so I think that may help - I look like who I am. And I don't have much choice -it would be impossible to hide my pierced ears and hair style. My Mom will come around but everyone else |
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Ninjafeathers
Joined: 01 Jun 2007
Posts: 23
Location: usa
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| Posted: Wed Mar 12, 2008 7:56 am Post subject: what's the best way to tell my family that I'm a girl? |
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| You changed so radically that you are now a bridesmaid, yet your parents don't know about it? Do you go home to visit them ever? Are you taking hormones? You gotta tell your family sooner rather than later. Maybe you can call them ahead of time to prepare them, but make your big announcement when you get there. They might freak out but it will be worth it in the long run if it makes you happy. Oh and please do see a therapist. |
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nml
Joined: 21 Nov 2007
Posts: 32
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| Posted: Wed Mar 12, 2008 11:32 am Post subject: what's the best way to tell my family that I'm a girl? |
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| I think you probably need to give them a heads up vs. just showing up. Your family has to love you no matter what you are Girl? Boy? whatever!! but I do think you do need to at least prepare them. They might welcome you with open harms or shut the door on you!! Talk to your mom and dad first .. tell her how you feel being who you are! tell her she did right rasing you!!! If on the phone they already reject you then give them time.. I would think if you were to just show up there like that and they reject you.. it will be very hurtful for you.. save yourself that agony... its not your fault eventually they will understand. |
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NoTurningBackNow
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
Posts: 21
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| Posted: Wed Mar 12, 2008 3:08 pm Post subject: what's the best way to tell my family that I'm a girl? |
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| i don't know if you should tell them...you might break their hearts... i think you need to except the fact that you were born a man and live your life accordingly... God made you that way for a reason...only he knows why... but if you ask him he'll tell/show you... you should try praying and going to church....if you were to die right now would you go to heaven?...if not, why not? If yes, why? the only way to heaven is to trust and have faith in Jesus Christ... to believe that he died for YOU....do you truly know anyone that would die for you... if you don't believe it ... try this read the bible and go to church for a month and pray to God ask him if he's real ask him to revile himself to you if it works then ask Jesus into your heart and i'll see you in heaven ... If it doesn't then go on living your life... I hope the best for you and your situation... may God Bless you |
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NiNa
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
Posts: 7
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| Posted: Wed Mar 12, 2008 6:44 pm Post subject: what's the best way to tell my family that I'm a girl? |
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| I would go for counciling, the reason is that these people will be in a position to best advise you on how to deal with the family.This is not a simple situation where you walk up to your father and say something like "Oh yes I am now in the baseball team".This is important and significant in so many ways. If you do this the right way you could bring a family with you who will support you in your choice, but if not it could turn out horrible.Go get the counciling it will be an investment in being happy.Just me thinking my way.All the best with your choice. |
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