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Fasterbivers
Joined: 17 Nov 2007
Posts: 6
Location: USA
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 Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 10:16 am Post subject: What to do about friend in bridal party? Bad bm? |
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| She has a negative comment for everything I want to choose but I am in her wedding and she has done whatever she likes. I can tell she gives me the one over when im not looking and she takes her time to respond to my requests but for her stuff she wants answers yesterday. So frustrated!!everytime i suggest something she acts like im being a bitchy bridezilla by asking but for her things on her wedding she acts like shes entitled.. I hate the double standard!!yes shes just the bm not the moh. not that the moh has really done anything at all.. sigh |
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feelayclablic
Joined: 16 Nov 2007
Posts: 9
Location: BM
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 10:32 am Post subject: What to do about friend in bridal party? Bad bm? |
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| It's your wedding she has no say so at what you want, if you wanted to have a clown ceremony then she couldn't say anything about it. I'd just blow her off she is trying to influence you, don't let her do what you want how you want. |
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feesaulaalkab
Joined: 06 Jan 2008
Posts: 8
Location: Malawi
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 10:48 am Post subject: What to do about friend in bridal party? Bad bm? |
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| Is she just a bridesmaid or maid of honor? If she's just a bridesmaid, then try to utilize the maid of honor or more helpful bridesmaids for assisting you and just basically tell her where to be and when to be there! I'm usually not this way, but sometimes it's better to just pasify them than to let it stress you out!!! If she makes an issue of something, just let it go in one ear and out the other....after all, it is YOUR wedding...she gets to make the choices in her own wedding!! Just take a deep breath and choose your battles....she's not worthy of stressing you out and ruining what's suppose to be the happiest time of your life!!! |
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feelayclablic
Joined: 16 Nov 2007
Posts: 9
Location: BM
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 11:04 am Post subject: What to do about friend in bridal party? Bad bm? |
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| This is your special day and I wouldn't let her get to you. If it gets worse I'd advise that you take her out of your wedding party and find another person. I'm not trying to be mean but planning a wedding is hard enough as it is. |
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FederiSandrol
Joined: 15 Jun 2007
Posts: 8
Location: Thailand
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 11:20 am Post subject: What to do about friend in bridal party? Bad bm? |
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| Why did you ask her to be in your wedding party? If it's not working out you can un-ask her. Just be forthright and honest. If you cannot do that stop asking her and just tell her how things are going to be. The wedding is YOUR special day and nothing should be hindering or hampering that, especially a member of the bridal party.Good luck and God Bless your marriage. |
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fatpregnantlady
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
Posts: 13
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 11:36 am Post subject: What to do about friend in bridal party? Bad bm? |
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| It's your wedding, and your choice. If you don't want to hear her comments then don't run your ideas by her, if she confronts you then tell her that she had hurt your feelings with all of her comments and you thought this was the best way to go so that no feelings were hurt, and this should be a time when everyone is happy not fighting. |
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favoemuc
Joined: 02 Jul 2007
Posts: 18
Location: Ukraine
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 11:52 am Post subject: What to do about friend in bridal party? Bad bm? |
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| This is a friend? WOW!!! Sit down and talk to her NOW before your friendship suffers anymore than it already has. |
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Fauddedbaceda
Joined: 24 Dec 2007
Posts: 8
Location: Dominican Republic
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 12:08 pm Post subject: What to do about friend in bridal party? Bad bm? |
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| Gently but firmly put her in her place when she makes a sly comment about something just smile and say good thing it's my choice or say isn't it funny how different our tastes are. She sounds to me like someone that enjoys the spotlight and is probably a little jealous that she isn't in it. Remember this is your day not hers and you have enough to deal with. If that doesn't work talk to one of your bm's and tell them to talk to her to let her know her behavior has been funky and to cut it out. Good Luck & Congratulations. |
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feesaulaalkab
Joined: 06 Jan 2008
Posts: 8
Location: Malawi
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 12:24 pm Post subject: What to do about friend in bridal party? Bad bm? |
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| You said that you are in her wedding. She probably doesn't want you to have anything better than what she's getting for her wedding. I went through the same thing with my Maid of honor except she got married 9months later and didn't include me in her wedding party. |
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FeatherboaGirl
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
Posts: 6
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 12:40 pm Post subject: What to do about friend in bridal party? Bad bm? |
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| You should confront her. She is obviously just jelouse because her time to shine is over. If she refuses to be nice, then don't include her in the wedding party. Poison people can ruin your life. |
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