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thechinamom
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 Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 8:22 pm Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| We just got engaged and we are starting to plan the wedding, and my fiance wants to have a casual wedding attire meaning him in dress slacks and a dress shirt and me in just a regular dress. Is it unusual to have that kind of wedding attire. I've always seen myself in a nice white wedding gown and all that but he has a different view on what to wear. Can anyone help me on this?this is fo jazzmin....just because he may have a not so great opinion on what to wear doesn't mean i shouldn't marry him. He's a great guy so that doesn't mean i shouldn't marry him.sorry meant to say this is for jazzmin.....just wanted to say thank you to everyone for all your ideas and well wishes. I think the white shirt and some color of pants will be nice, i think we're going to go with an out door wedding so i think that will be be just fine and i think i'm going to go with a simple but nice dress nothin over the top so i'm sure it will all come together great. Like i said thanks for all the ideas and well wishes all the ideas have given us a lot to consider so thanks again.ok one last add to my original question,lol. What should i have my bride's mades wear? since i'm doing the nice but casual attire? i'm going to go with one of the dresses that iloveweddings suggested so what should i have my girls wear? |
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YHLeon
Joined: 22 Jan 2008
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Location: Czech Republic
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| Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 8:55 pm Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| maybe he would agree to wear a dark suit just for the ceremony and you could both change into casual for the reception. there are no rules. figure this out to suit the two of you. It is a good test of how the marriage will go and how you handle differences. |
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Momo
Joined: 02 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 9:27 pm Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| Indeed I can. All men know women want their wedding day to be very special. If he wants to get married in the same kind of clothes he would wear to Walmart, then let him go to Walmart and you head in the opposite direction. The two of you have different life styles in your mind and it will be a fight the rest of your lives (or until after the divorce). |
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sheancank
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Location: Japan
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| Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 10:00 pm Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| well my fiance and i are planning a casual wedding ourselves. he and his party will be in tan slacks and white button down dress shirts. i bought a wedding dress. since it's going to be my only wedding, knock on wood, i wanted the experience of wearing a dressi did pick a simpler dress with no lace or beading. it's a shade off white, called candlelightthe only detail is some embroidery on the top and on the skirt that looks like a bouquet. it's super pretty (only cost $150 from a consignment shop too)so what i'm saying is... just keep your dress simpler and you can still have the experience. that way you both wear what you want |
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Thursday12312009isourday
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| Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 10:33 pm Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| It can be casual if you want or formal. It is your wedding and your choice. If it is a financial move it may be that he sees that the money can be used more wisely elsewhere and if you love him more than a white wedding gown dream you will go with his decision.If the wedding dream is more important then maybe you should not marry him. |
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waixheadibedgn
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| Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 11:06 pm Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| You definitely need to sit down and discuss this. There are many people who have causual weddings and they are lovely. But just think, you're going to remember this the rest of your life. Will you be happy with something causual or do you want to upgrade a little? You have plenty of time to decide! |
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MrsBruks
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Location: Viagra
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| Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 11:38 pm Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| You will always remember your wedding and it will be important to you. He will be over it the next day if you make him wear something fancy. You wont be. Don't forget the day is all about you! Plus once he is all dressed up I am sure he will enjoy it, guys look awesome in tuxedos! |
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Terisu5266
Joined: 17 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 12:11 am Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| You can have your wedding gown, and he can have his nice shirt. Plenty of gowns look great for both formal and casual weddings. Just go for flowing rather than structured. something like this?;http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com/buy/dresses/1377/Maggie-Sottero--Monte-Carlo-Marie-Size-6.htmlSomething like that would make the two of you look like a romance cover... |
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pspoptart
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| Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 12:44 am Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| well lthe wedding is the girls or womans day... not the mans.. even if you are getting hitched i still think you should wear a wedding dress and a tux.. this is the biggest thing that is going to happen in your lives besides having kids. i think if he doesnt think that way he may not be wanting to make that day the most important day! |
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PHILW
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| Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 1:16 am Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| I just had a wedding and we had the same argument. It was an outside wedding, so casual seemed appropriate, but I dreamed of a bi white dress. So we compromised. His guys wore black jeans with tux shirts and vests, no jackets and cowboy hats(all his choice). I wore my big white dress with the long train, hoop skirt, Veil, tiara, the whole works. My girls in white cotton summer dresses. It was my dream modified to fit a summer outdoor wedding. Just so you know, planning involves a lot of compromise, but no mater what you wear or dance to, or eat it is still about marrying the man you love!! The wedding is short, the marriage is long so pick your battles and love your husband to be!! |
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PennyMae
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| Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 1:49 am Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| My fiance wants to wear a Mossy Oak vest under his tux. So im kind of in a boat without a paddle here myself. I think it is our big day and we should decide what goes. Im going to wait a while before i bring up the subject again. |
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rjhfocus77
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| Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 2:22 am Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| You wear what you want to wear and he wears what he wants to wear. Marriage is all about compromise is it not? |
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yodathetwentysecond6358
Joined: 11 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 2:55 am Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| You have to STOP do not marry him. Think about it!This is your RED flag do not pretend you didn't get any warning because this one is a big one! |
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Payptopsyzfq
Joined: 04 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 3:27 am Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| I think you can reach a happy middle ground. I got married in Las Vegas. Originally, I was going to wear a short cocktail dress, but two weeks before, I decided I HAD to have a floor length gown (my inner bride screamed out). I ended up with a very nice, floor length ivory bridesmaid's dress (about $150) with spaghetti straps and an A-line skirt. My husband and I togethre decided that for him, a suit made sense. We picked a classic pinstripe in medium grey. We got him a gorgeous silvery grey tie and a silk pocket square, and he looked damn fine. As soon as we finished with pictures, he lost the coat and tie. He's worn this suit to countless job interviews, funerals, and other weddings - so no regrets and certainly not a wasted purchase. There is definitely a middle ground you can reach. Or ... how about a fabulous wedding in Hawaii? He can wear an aloha shirt and khakis, and you can wear a gorgeous long white linen sundress. |
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YOuD
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| Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 4:00 am Post subject: what to do when my fiance wants to wear causual but nice clo |
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| You could opt for a beach type wedding that way you both can have what you want as it tends to be far more casual.I would say yes to it but in the colour you think fits him best, and either a tie of a jacket. Opt for linnen That is summery and casual, yet very dressed at the same time. A lighter shade of blue maybe. You can still wear a nice white gown but maybe not as grand as you had intended. Simple yet elegant. There are several options for that. My BFF could not find the wedding dress she wanted She ended up with a standard nice dress from a high end quality store.Meet in the middle, it usually works best. |
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