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Gadget
Joined: 11 May 2008
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 Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 6:46 pm Post subject: Who Goes on the Invitation? |
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| My stepdaughter announced her engagement and wedding date to her father and I. After taking a couple days to discuss it my husband and I told her what we would donate to the wedding. My stepdaughter had already told her mom about the engagement and her mom was thrilled. After finding out how much we were budgeting she told her mom who was certain her stepdad would agree to that amount. My stepdaughter called her mom back on the date they agreed only to be told not only were her mom and stepfather not donating financially but they would not be coming to the wedding. It turns out her stepfather had received a new job and they'd be moving to another state and therefore putting their current home up for sale and buying a new one. More time went by and the stepfather's new job didn't work out so the move was cancelled. But still they could not help financially and no one is sure why at this point. But they have changed their mind and will be attending the wedding. Who goes on the invites?No, the bride and groom are not contributing any money towards the wedding or reception. In addition, the bride and stepfather do not have a good relationship. He announced about a year ago that he would no longer help her with college financially. Therefore her father and stepmother (I) have been the only ones helping her financially with college. The rocky relationship between the bride and stepfather was in my opinion created by her mom's lack of respect for her husband and talking poorly in front of the bride about him when she was young. Telling the bride things about him and how she was going to leave/divorce him etc. Just a bad relationship between the bride and stepdad.When my son got married only the parents of the bride were on the invitations. So, I thought that since we were the only one paying for this wedding we'd be the only ones on the invitation.Call me hardheaded, but we've been forced to double our budget for the wedding to make up the financial difference of my stepdaughter's mom and stepdad not wanting to help. It would be one thing if they were financially strained or unable to help but that is not their financial situation. |
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VioletPearl3236
Joined: 11 May 2008
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| Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 9:13 pm Post subject: Who Goes on the Invitation? |
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| I'd go with:Together with their parentsGirly brideandMacho Groomrequest the honour of your presenceat their marriage etc. etc. |
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JenniferG
Joined: 11 May 2008
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| Posted: Sun May 11, 2008 11:40 pm Post subject: Who Goes on the Invitation? |
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| yeah...violet pearl's suggestion sounds good. even if they do not help financially, it's her mom, so it'd be kind of weird for you and her dad to be on the invites and not her mom. this coming from a girl with divorced parents...i wouldn't dare put just my mom and stepdad's name on the invites, even though i've lived with them since 3rd grade...it's just not right, unless she doesn't have a good relationship with her mom. |
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lylesliz
Joined: 12 May 2008
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| Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 2:06 am Post subject: Who Goes on the Invitation? |
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| Three options here:1. Together with their parents, bride and groom request the honor of your presence...2. Leave all the parents off and use only the bride and groom's names3. List the names of the parents that are alive and invited. If Mom and Stepdad are invited and Dad and Stepmom are invited - both couples should go on the invite. Good luck! Remind everyone to keep the bride and groom at the forefront - it's their day. |
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Niki1664
Joined: 12 May 2008
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| Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 4:33 am Post subject: Who Goes on the Invitation? |
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| clearly...the mom and stepdad are NOT helping with the wedding....so they dont go on the invitations....whoever is paying for it....should go on it...if there are too many people involved then it should be the parents of so and so request..blah blah blah.. are the bride and groom paying as well? is his parents helping out at all?? |
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jennifersthegreatest0590
Joined: 12 May 2008
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| Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 7:00 am Post subject: Who Goes on the Invitation? |
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| I think technically it who's paying for the wedding which sounds like you, your husband and the couple. But for the sake of feelings and everyone getting along I'd go with the along with their families suggestion. |
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Rebelfan33
Joined: 12 May 2008
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| Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 9:26 am Post subject: Who Goes on the Invitation? |
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| Both sets of parents always no matter what. unless they are deceased |
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