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Incarappy
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 Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 12:26 am Post subject: Why does the bride have to take care of everything for the w |
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| because they know more about weddings and th mean don't fill like men so they don't do things like that.but you can back them when they get the bill |
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Incarappy
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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Location: Marshall Islands
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 12:50 am Post subject: Why does the bride have to take care of everything for the w |
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| The problem is that he just doesn't care about these things as much as you do. Either you're going to have to nag him to do it all of the time until it's done, or just do it yourself. I opted to do it myself, because I am a control freak anyway. It worked out well for us. He actually stepped up at the end, because he saw how busy I was.I'm sure you do (or will have) a similar situation with housecleaning.I also agree with the poster below me. If I delegated a task to my fiance (now husband), it wouldn't get done, but if we didn't something together it would get done and we were both happy. It may have been a confidence thing...maybe he didn't feel he could do something to my liking. |
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indyprincipessa
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 1:15 am Post subject: Why does the bride have to take care of everything for the w |
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| well when you put that pretty pink controller down tell him he has to do the same and work together..he may not want to do it completely by him self...take an hour a night (or something) and work togehter.. you do your things and he does his... |
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Incarappy
Joined: 12 Feb 2008
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Location: Marshall Islands
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 1:39 am Post subject: Why does the bride have to take care of everything for the w |
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| OMG i feel like you just told our story!!! our wedding planning is just like that! im a big gamer too...but i know when to put the controller down! lol and he was supposed to book the rentals... did he? No... So guess who did ME! lol i dont think they are lazy...i just think all the fancy stuff isnt as important to them. hes playing on his 360 at this moment (call of duty 4) while i answer questions and email our wedding contacts. *sigh* |
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inczasain
Joined: 27 Nov 2007
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Location: Canada
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 2:04 am Post subject: Why does the bride have to take care of everything for the w |
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| Guys= lazyNo some times you have to push a little and sometimes you have to hide the power cord. I have had to do that a few times to my groom and he to me once. We both are gamers too. Here's the best thing to do sit down one night with him and say "hey we need to get the wedding stuff done. how about this you give me two days a week to do nothing but wedding stuff and i will stay off your back the rest of the week. And closer to the wedding add another day . When all the wedding things are off your list then play games till you puke on the rug . ) If that don't work hide the da*n power cord . Also tell him that if you end up doing it all he can not complain about anything. |
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infamoushairstylist
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 2:28 am Post subject: Why does the bride have to take care of everything for the w |
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| It's so funny you asked this question. I was just dealing with that this morning. I'm doing pretty much everything & it's getting done. He, on the other hand, says he wants to do something & I never hear about it again. Mine is still 5 months away but there are things that need to be figured out NOW, like buying a suit vs. renting a tux, that I can't get an answer on & I need all the guys to go for fittings, etc.So, over coffee this morning, I just told him that today I am making a calendar, a to do list, and a list of what needs to be decided right away, and that I'll be going over it with him this evening. That way, I'm not really complaining, I'm just letting him know how much he actually has hanging that he's not dealing with. I'm going to ask him what he feels is a reasonable deadline for each thing & put it on the calendar. That way I can call him on it since he's the one that chose his own deadline. |
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inczasain
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Location: Canada
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 2:53 am Post subject: Why does the bride have to take care of everything for the w |
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| Ask him if he is still interested in booking the Honeymoon and making the favors. If he says he still is, give him an exact deadline, like one week from now. If he doesn't do it by then you should complete those tasks yourself and ask him what else he can help with. Hopefully by then he will feel more obligated to help and you won't have to repeat the process. Just keep reminding him and even nag him... my fiance is a procrastinator too but it has been possible to get him focused on other things after lots of trying. Good luck! |
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Incarappy
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Location: Marshall Islands
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 3:17 am Post subject: Why does the bride have to take care of everything for the w |
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| Drop the BIG wedding... Do it your way! |
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Indie
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| Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 3:42 am Post subject: Why does the bride have to take care of everything for the w |
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| She doesn't, seems to be the man you chose! At least it shows his character, so you know exactly what you are getting into.If you want something done, do it yourself. |
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