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Grizlyy
Joined: 07 May 2007
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Location: Zambia
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 Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 10:57 am Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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It's been four years.. the first two years we just hung out all the time and sometimes i'd stay at his house. He's 23, and i'm 21.. we get along great and this past july we moved in together. Things have been fine and he's brought up marriage at his friends wedding before and thats it. Now everytime I bring up marriage its like he doesn't want to talk about it. I brought it up twice when I was crying.. which probly scared him and the last time a few months back. he said he hadn't even got to think about it himself yet. Whats this mean!?!?! I've had 4 other boyfriends in the past.. and i'm his first everything.. We already went through the sewing his wild oats thing a few years ago.. which he decided he'd rather not and just be with me. He loves me.. but he's in two bands and wants to tour and spends all of his money on band equipment but won't talk about even looking for rings..  HELP! |
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GroupPRN
Joined: 16 Jul 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 11:15 am Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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| Start packing. He's not mature enough for an adult relationship. |
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GroupPRN
Joined: 16 Jul 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 11:34 am Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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| maybe he didnt think that far ahead yet?:S |
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Groom2Be0306
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 11:52 am Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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| He is just not that into you, as the book says! Let him go and find someone who values you more and wants what you want out of a relationship! |
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GroupPRN
Joined: 16 Jul 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 12:11 pm Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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| Let's see....you've been with him since you were 17 and you had FOUR boyfriends before that??????He doesn't commit becuase HE DOESN'T WANT TO COMMIT. Period.If he wanted a new stereo in his car, he'd do that, wouldn't he? |
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Gromeron
Joined: 12 May 2007
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Location: All
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 12:29 pm Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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| sounds like he isnt ready for the ultimate commitment. he figures that since hes already living with you that he doesnt need to get married to you. if you are really uncomfortable with this then you need to step up and say something and tell this man how you feel |
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Groom2Be0306
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 12:48 pm Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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| well you guys are so young first of all. Wait another year, if their is no commitment what so ever, ditch him cause hes not worth your time. |
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GroupPRN
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 1:06 pm Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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| guys are always different from girls........girls are always wanting their guys to commit to them but its not that easy....you probably should not pressure him into commiting to you.....he will do it on his own time........maybe he is just trying to figure out what he really wants in life........four years is a long relationship but hes a guy he has to really think out what hes getting into and prepare himself for it.........just give him time to come around........... |
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GritandCandy
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 1:25 pm Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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| what do you really want out of this relationship have the two of you sat down and talk serously |
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grinvundf
Joined: 10 Aug 2007
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Location: Fioricet
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 1:43 pm Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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| sounds like he is not ready, so i wouldn't do it. it is worst to get married when you are not ready and then have to deal with a divorce/children later. if you are looking for something more you may want to think if you should stay and wait for him to be ready or move on... i know its hard to move on after 4 years but people have been together longer than that and have broken up. good luck. |
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Groom2Be0827
Joined: 28 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 2:02 pm Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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Maybe he's going into depression because something happened to him. Just don't talk about marriage for awhile and see what happens. Just don't pressure him too much or he might become even more depressed. Good luck!  |
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grivlins
Joined: 05 Aug 2007
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Location: Porn
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 2:20 pm Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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| Honey, he isn't ready for commitment. He's so busy with his social life and has no intention of settling down anytime soon. I suggest finding another guy worth your time. |
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grivlins
Joined: 05 Aug 2007
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 2:39 pm Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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| it seems like you havent sat down for a real conversation at all. you have to sit him down and not just bring up the idea, but you have to talk about the subject and be really serious about it, im only 14 years old but to me this is my opinion |
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Groppelia
Joined: 24 Sep 2007
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 2:57 pm Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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| You aren't one of his top priorities. Right now he's got other things on his mind and he's probably still a bit immature. |
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GritandCandy
Joined: 21 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 3:16 pm Post subject: Why won't he commit after 4 years? |
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| It's not his time he will do as he pleases till he is ready which might not be ever If you leave he won't care one way or the other leave or stay is fine with him YOU are the one that is unhappy make up YOUR mind girl |
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