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katie
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 Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 5:25 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| The wedding plans are all going good but we have had to really cut down on certain things - price of my dress, type of alcohol we provide, number of guests, wedding favors etc. because we just cant afford it. We have just put down a diposet on a house which is more important than having my ideal wedding but I just wish I could have both.We have no money for a honeymoon now though, should we just go away somewhere for a weekend locally? I have always wanted to stay in Fiji or Tahiti or somewhere in the south pacific. Ideally would love to stay somewhere like Likuliku Lagoon Resort, is there any way I can?Do you think honeymoon registrys are tacky? |
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gabeybaby_2000
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 5:32 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| yes. |
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hart21664
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 5:38 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| YES YES YES YES YES |
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flutterflie041758
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 5:45 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| save your money and go on a big vacation later. also, I dont care what people say, but have a cash bar. |
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RebeccaW
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 5:51 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| Yes, according to every etiquette book. You should just realize how lucky you are. Some people are never able to buy a house. And don't let the rest of those details matter so much. You are in control of what happens. |
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Q-mama2678
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 5:58 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| A house is a very smart investment and a smart choice for part of your wedding budget. The wedding is always a dream, but remember it is only one day and one party. The marriage, your life together, and the home you will build are much longer lasting. Make the best wedding and honeymoon you can with your budget and enjoy every minute of it. In your mind it can be the dream, as long as you are together. Someday you will be able to take that dream trip and it will be all the more meaningful to you for the wait and because you worked together to achieve it. Congratulations and best wishes. |
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jlunchbox
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:04 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| if you make sure that you have a good time at your wedding you will not be disappointed. you may be surprised at the money you can save up for a honeymoon in the time left. i think it's important to take at least something. it's almost a little depressing to come home after the wedding...you need something to ease you back in. yes, honeymoon registries are tacky. you'll get lots of cash...my advice is to register for a few household items that you need and that's it. people love to give cash. |
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y2-y1
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:11 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| Please remember something - after all is said and done, the end result is the same - you are married!I don't know anything about "honeymoon registries", but what about staying a night or two local, then saving for that Fiji trip for your one or two year anniversary? Trust me, the years fly by.My husband and I got married at the courthouse in jeans and t-shirts with plain gold bands. Now, 20 years later, we are planning a vow renewal with friends and family. We have the money to have a great party, and are really looking forward to it. The only thing? I couldn't stand to update that gold band. It's been there through tears, laughter, labor pains, sickness, health, kids, Christmas - you name it. Trust me, you won't regret it. In the end, you will be (hopefully) marrying your best friend, and then you are in for the time of your life!Good luck!!! |
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mynameisnotimportanthere
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:18 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| no youll prolly find a way to laf about it 5 years from now! |
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worriedparent
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:24 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| no not if you find the right person it will not matter because life is what you make it |
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Ricardo
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:31 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| My dear Katie. I can feel your pain. Yes, for my first wedding, we gave up a destination wedding in Tahiti because my ex- had just bought a little ski chalet in Aspen, Colorado. We settled for a ceremony at the top of Vail Mountain, and for the rest of my marriage, she complained about not having my wedding on the beach with hula girls in the sunset. If I was you, I would put off the marriage, and look around for a richer husband who can meet all of your needs. Your husband will get tired of hearing you complain about not having a little sports car, or needing a bigger house, or having nothing to wear, as he has no room for his clothes in your overflowing closets. |
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amb21293
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:37 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| First, take a deep breath and meditate on the man you're marrying. While you go through this process of planning your wedding, whenever you feel yourself getting wrapped up in all the mess and stress of planning a wedding remember that it is all for the life you are going to have with your soulmate.Plenty of married couples have a second, "dream" wedding when finances allow for it... And even more have their dream honeymoons. Just don't let these worries get in the way of your relationship. |
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lemonlimesherbet4477
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:44 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| Save for the dream second honeymoon. I was concieved on a second honeymoon. So good things come to those who wait. Go to a hotel or B.&B. for a night or two. Then maybe a small weekend during the wedding year. Then have the big second honeymoon on one of your anniversaries. The honeymoon is a vacation. Something which is consumed and you are left with memories like a meal but the house is very real. Congratulations! |
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EruvadhronLOE
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:50 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| The house is definetly a good investment for the future and is technically the better choice. However I do believe that you will be dissappointed for the rest of you life by missing the dream wedding and honeymoon. How ever you can always go on great vacations later once your setttled in. I still think you will have alot of fun though. Try to be optimistic! You could always have a pretend dream honeymoon later anyways as long as youa re thankful for it. Have fun and grats on the wedding! |
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dMae7128607
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| Posted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 6:57 am Post subject: Will I be always disappointed if I dont have my dream weddin |
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| Girl, we put a huge down on the house. Wedding is one day and all for show.. it's not worth it. if there's anything you ahve to skimp on, skimp on the reception. You want to spend MORE for yourselves on your house and for your honeymoon, NOT for everyone else. Spend less on the receptions, cut the guests, get a cash bar, do wedding favor PER family, etc. Then take the savings from the wedding and spend it for your honeymoon. I don't regret my wedding... I love my house and I totally enjoyed my honeymoon in Italy.Yes, honeymoon registries are tacky. |
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