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SE9898
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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 Posted: Mon Jan 14, 2008 1:42 pm Post subject: Would It be a bad idea to invite the people to the ceremony |
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| As nice as it sounds, it's not polite to those who are excluded from the reception. It offends people, and rightfully so. I was at a wedding once for a couple in our church. They had sent invitations out to those they could afford to invite. But when the ceremony took place, the church will full of people. There were over 400 people there. It was unbelieveable. Everyone knew they were getting married, and just assumed the entire church was invited since everyone knew them. The parents were in the back having panic attacks because there was no way all of these people would fit into the reception hall they had rented. And there wasn't enough food. It was awful for the parents. The minister was asked to make an announcement and worded it as best as he could. After the wedding, before the audience was dismissed, he made a statement something like this, "The families have asked that I express their gratitude for your attendance today. There will be a reception following. They have made arrangements for everyone who responded to the RSVP. If you indicated that you will be attending the reception, they will meet you there."It sounded perfect for such an awkward situation. However, the next day (Sunday), many people was "so offended" because they hadn't been invited to the reception. Others were embarrased because they realized they had attended a wedding without an invitation. It was really sad. People got over it, but it was the "talk" for awhile.P.S. The comment above about 2 receptions is a potential problem as well. People find out. I've seen that hurt people's feelings as well. People just can't keep their mouth's shut and word spreads. "She's having another reception for her family and close friends afterwards. I'm assuming we're not that special because we didn't get invited."I'm a member of a church, have been in church leadership, but church people just don't "catch" that we can't all show up to a wedding because families can't afford to feed the whole church, plus their family and other friends. It's absurd. |
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searcherra
Joined: 15 Jul 2007
Posts: 16
Location: USA
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| Posted: Mon Jan 14, 2008 2:21 pm Post subject: Would It be a bad idea to invite the people to the ceremony |
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| If you are having the wedding at the church, you can have the person doing the announcements to just say something like, this Saturday so and so are getting married and everyone is welcomed to the ceremony but the reception is invite only. I've seen this done before. So you won't be sending everyone an actual invite and if they want to come they will.However, if they are not invited to the reception also then I won't not invite them to the shower. |
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searchaaa
Joined: 30 Apr 2007
Posts: 49
Location: USA
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| Posted: Mon Jan 14, 2008 3:01 pm Post subject: Would It be a bad idea to invite the people to the ceremony |
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| its customary to invite the people from the wedding to the reception, I would be pissed off, and would not even go to the wedding, unless you are having the ceremony and reception on different days than it may be ok...but other than that you need to find somewhere else to have the reception.... |
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