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farfIsolf
Joined: 19 Aug 2007
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Location: Georgia
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 Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 1:54 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| My cousin who was my best friend is planning this huge wedding. She is not sparing a dime on renting the hall, entertainment, flowers, photographer, the dress and tuxedos. Money is not an issue. There's one problem, she doesn't want to spend a dime on her guests. The guests will have to travel over 11 hours to get there, and she wants to make them bring their own food to eat while at the wedding or bring a potluck dish. She even has rented the formal dining wear and linens. I've tried to get through to her, but she said she "didn't give a f----!" and that its her wedding. I give up trying to convince her. Is this what the world's coming to? What would you think if it was your relative or friend?People won't know about the food until they show up for the wedding.I'm not really upset with her as I am not planning on going. I'm just the type of person that does things right, and I would never ask anyone to travel that far, bring me a gift, cater to me - then not feed them or their families for coming. Its not that she's mad at anyone, just doesn't want to spend any money on them. Thanks for the responses. |
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Farrelspot
Joined: 29 Oct 2007
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:00 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| well the food thing is realy stupid . if she doesnt want to pay for food have her family or friends cook the food for it. its stupid to make ppl bring their own food. a lot of ppl wont they just wont eat or not go. or theyll skip out on the reception and go out to eat u should tell her that and maybe shell change her mind. |
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fakeblond475
Joined: 17 Jan 2008
Posts: 31
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:07 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| You will never ever find a 'Happy-selfish" person. You can look all you want to and never find one. |
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Fasetmcmvf
Joined: 28 Sep 2007
Posts: 22
Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:13 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| I think she'll have a big huge wedding and ZERO guests. Who would want to go to a wedding like that? I'd rather stay home. |
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falcon
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:20 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| i would think the invite was a joke.. and i wouldn't go to a wedding that far away anyway.. |
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fancypants
Joined: 15 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:26 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| First off, it's PETTY that you are upset about it.A) It's not your weddingB) It's supposed to be about a celebration and not"What the Bride and Groom can do for you".If people don't want to make the drive, they won't!If people don't wanna go because of the food, they won't!But, I guarantee you one thing, the people that truly care about them will make the drive, and bring their own food to help them celebrate.I recommend if you are that upset about, YOU DON'T GO! |
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fancypants
Joined: 15 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:33 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| That is rather tacky, and its really up to you to decide if its worth going or not. |
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fanaticsep
Joined: 26 Nov 2007
Posts: 27
Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:40 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| That's ridiculous. There's no way people will want to bring a dish to pass at a big wedding 11 hours away, just to help someone celebrate their wedding day. She'll end up with hardly anyone there (and no gifts! ha). You can give up trying to convince her - someone else will have to get through to her (mom? dad? fiance or his parents?). I bet someone wiser and older will end up hiring the caterer instead of letting her be so rude. |
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falcon
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:46 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| The trend of people passing the hat so that the reception guests have to pay for the reception dinner has been growing for the past 10 years. I think it's outrageous; if you have a party and invite people, you pay for the food. It's your party. In this case, your cousin wants people to bring food. That's actually worse than the passing-the-hat for money scenario, unless it's a hillybilly wedding in the Appalacians. I think there is another trend toward all-out narcissism in this culture; people can fathom spending money on themselves, but not on the care of other people (who they invited as guests). I would not attend a reception that I, as a guest, had to pay for and also bring a present for. Doesn't make any sense, it's tacky and an extreme case of selfishness. |
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famimina
Joined: 20 Jan 2008
Posts: 35
Location: Netherlands Antilles
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:53 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| What a waste of money to spend all that on renting a hall and looking good but not actually providing anything for your guests, I think she has her priorities wrong, it would be cheap to provide nice sandwiches and salad, or even sausages and mash with gravy, I think it really rude that she expects people to cater for themself, especially with all the travelling costs incurred. |
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Fasetmcmvf
Joined: 28 Sep 2007
Posts: 22
Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:59 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| If you really have to go, subtract the cost of food and gas from the gift you were going to give her. Then show up with a bag of McDonalds and plunk it down on her rented china. What she is asking is incredibly rude. |
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fancypants
Joined: 15 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 3:06 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| Oh my, the oddest thing I've ever heard of. She is truly clueless. Most won't even go to the wedding. |
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Farrelspot
Joined: 29 Oct 2007
Posts: 21
Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 3:12 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| I will be surprised if ANYONE bothers to attend her wedding. Absurd and totally uncalled for. She doesn't even deserve a gift. |
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Fasetmcmvf
Joined: 28 Sep 2007
Posts: 22
Location: USA
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 3:19 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| It's her party...butNot very sociable to invite people and not take care of them.It will be interesting to see how long this attitude will carry her in the marriage. |
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famimina
Joined: 20 Jan 2008
Posts: 35
Location: Netherlands Antilles
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| Posted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 3:25 pm Post subject: Youre invited to an expensive wedding. Bring your own sack l |
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| she can do whatever she wants its her wedding..but when she is looking around and does not see no guest she might rethink being a cheap biotch. thats very tacky...if i was you i would not even go. seems like she i waning ppl to go just for the gifts but not wanting to supply them with a good wedding/event. |
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